Did your personality change from the time you were still a boy to now?
I've always been very shy, which I hate it, because I consider myself extroverted. I always want to go up to people and engage in small talk or give them friendly advice but I'm just too shy to approach anyone. So I wonder if transitioning will make me more sociable.
Did you guys become more outgoing, less approachable, or no change.

I can't really call it a personality change, as it was really just me becoming more comfortable in my own skin. Pre-transition I was always extremely quiet and shy the from social anxiety of actually being male... after I went full time that anxiety reduced by a significant amount for me to seem like an entirely different person.

I don't know how quite to put it, but when you feel more like yourself you're more likely to do things you enjoy without caring what others think. Does that make sense?

My personality did not change instantly but rather subtle changes as I transitioned and became full time.  I am not the ruff and tumble guy I once was... no more belly bumps with guys or gals, no passing gas or burping indiscriminately, never leave the house without making sure that my hair looks good and I am decently dressed.   As a guy I could wake up in the morning and be out of the house in 5 minutes... now it is at least a half hour to an hour.   I tend to be gentler and kinder, more caring and exhibit more empathy, including uncontrolled crying at times.  I consider all of these good changes.

I wouldn't know.  No one that knows me very well has mentioned anything, especially my wife.  I like to think that I'm acting the same but who can say for certain.  I mean I didn't wake up one morning and had a sudden urge to watch musicals and sing along.  I still don't.  The only musical I can watch is Hudson Hawk.

Internally I would say no, other than calm and happy.  Others have said dramatically yes.  They think I'm happier and more approachable.  People talk to me now.  Honestly hrt is one of the best things I've ever experienced for this.

Bari Jo

My personality didn't change. I am more confident in myself and my appearance. That part does come through.

In some ways yes. I used to be reserved and in control of all emotion. I was bland as I did not want to stand out. These things changed.  My emotions are fully integrated in my thoughts. I wear my heart on my sleeve so to stay. I talk a lot more. I share things that I never would have before. I am free now. That is the difference.

I don't think my personality has changed a lot, but it has changed some. 

I am still strongly introverted: more than four people in a room is a crowd to me.  But I am less shy than I was, and more willing to take the initiative in meeting new people now. 

I seldom feel the need to hide or to censor myself any more.  I think this comes out as my being more outgoing.  In fact, I kind of like being seen, and put some effort into my appearance.

Mostly, I am more confident and relaxed.  And I am happier.

Quote from: RobynTx on February 08, 2018, 04:13:28 PM
I wouldn't know.  No one that knows me very well has mentioned anything, especially my wife.  I like to think that I'm acting the same but who can say for certain.  I mean I didn't wake up one morning and had a sudden urge to watch musicals and sing along.  I still don't.  The only musical I can watch is Hudson Hawk.

Bunny... Ball, Ball

Seriously though, no Mamma Mia? No Cats, Wicked, Wizard of Oz, Chicago, Into the Woods, Grease 2, Grease 1 for an older generation, Jesus Christ Super Star, or even Best Little Whorehouse in Texas?

No Mulan? "When will my reflection show who I am inside?"
Frozen?
The Sound of Music?
Well, we are all different and that is probably a good thing. 😊


Some days a bit of both. I don't talk to guys very much anymore, too many reasons to count so I won't go into that. I talk to girls much, much more now than I have since I hit puberty. Possibly the only real changes were letting go of the things that were not me and embracing the things that were. Who knows.
Maybe look at transition as...
Okay, so life is a car. We have been a passenger, we have at times had destinations that we didn't choose for ourselves, we have even at times been using the wrong map. Transition was just taking control when we didn't or couldn't before. The thing is, before, during and after transition it is OUR car! Our destination, our direction, all we have to do is decide, accelerate, break and adjust the course when needed.
I think that life is becoming more yourself as you go along. Isn't that why we transitioned?

My personality has not changed so much as it has been uncovered and revealed.  Now that I no longer hide behind a false front, I have changed from introvert to slightly extrovert.  My therapist and I had a good discussion on this yesterday.

It seems to be part my my self-acceptance and becoming more comfortable in my skin.

Quote from: and5678 on February 08, 2018, 03:56:17 PM
I can't really call it a personality change, as it was really just me becoming more comfortable in my own skin. Pre-transition I was always extremely quiet and shy the from social anxiety of actually being male... after I went full time that anxiety reduced by a significant amount for me to seem like an entirely different person.

I don't know how quite to put it, but when you feel more like yourself you're more likely to do things you enjoy without caring what others think. Does that make sense?

This is how it's been for me. I don't get flustered so easily anymore, and if someone has irritated me then they know about it. I can articulate myself much better because I have more confidence. I think it has to do with my hormones finally being in sync with my brain.

My personality hasn't changed but I'm no longer anxious to speak up.

Less social anxiety. Less introversion (although still introverted). More comfortable talking to people I don't know. More willing to speak up for myself. More assertive.

I wouldn't call that a change in personality. It's more like my dysphoria and my shame about being trans are no longer distorting my personality. The HRT helped a little, but the big shift was when I socially transitioned.

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It seems like I just need to be comfortable in my skin. thanks!

I will say no may personality did not change, my views have not changed, what has change is I no longer act fake I no
longer have to try to act like someone I am not I can be myself a lot of the stuff I did I did because I thought that is what males do. So that is what changed on me.

Quote from: FinallyMichelle on February 08, 2018, 05:23:12 PM
Bunny... Ball, Ball

Seriously though, no Mamma Mia? No Cats, Wicked, Wizard of Oz, Chicago, Into the Woods, Grease 2, Grease 1 for an older generation, Jesus Christ Super Star, or even Best Little Whorehouse in Texas?

No Mulan? "When will my reflection show who I am inside?"
Frozen?
The Sound of Music?
Well, we are all different and that is probably a good thing. 😊

To be honest I haven't tried watching one since I began my journey. 

You forget Rocky Picture Horror Show. 

I become more confident when I started presenting as a woman.. In I went from shy in the corner to the life and center of the party.. with that my life just got better and better

My wife says I'm more emotional now and that I talk more. 

I don't think I'm more emotional, it's just that I don't have the need to hide things anymore.  So something that might have made me sad before, I don't worry about letting the tears come now. 

Talking more?  Maybe.  Think it would be a confidence thing.  I don't have that constant identity struggle to deal with anymore. 

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My only difference is I'm happier and more comfortable other then that no

Yes and no. 

I've always been kind of an emotional person, but more than anything else, I calmed down after I transitioned, because I was finally taking care of what caused me so much anguish.  I went full time in late 2000, and I remember commenting to a coworker in 2001, that it almost seemed to me, like I was a different person.  She agreed with me.  When I asked her what she saw in me, that made me seem different, she told me that before I transitioned, I basically behaved in one of two ways, I was either angry, or I was sad (which makes sense, since I was a complete and utter mess by the time, I got in touch with an area gender program in late 1998 - you most assuredly did NOT want to be around me, because I was a very unpleasant person [I had reached a point where I was contemplating suicide, if I didn't do something to start transitioning in the near future]).  There was no generally happy or content state for me.  My coworker told me that after I transitioned, I looked so much happier (especially with myself), and calmer (things didn't set me off anywhere near as much as they had before), and that transitioning had been a good thing for me to do.

I think that for many of us, a lot of the personality changes come from the calming effect that occurs, when we finally deal with the anguish that gender dysphoria causes us.

Ellen
HRT - 1999
Orchiectomy - 2001
SRS (Yeah!!!) - 2003 by Suporn

Quote from: Danielle79 on February 08, 2018, 06:18:11 PM
Less social anxiety. Less introversion (although still introverted). More comfortable talking to people I don't know. More willing to speak up for myself. More assertive.

I wouldn't call that a change in personality. It's more like my dysphoria and my shame about being trans are no longer distorting my personality. The HRT helped a little, but the big shift was when I socially transitioned.

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Same the hrt is helping me a bit now. I think when I go full time it'll be more noticable

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