hi so i am 5 weeks on hrt and this past week i started going out sort of generally if i go out alone wear something casual
but if i am alone i generally wear my guys winter jacket to cover partly up what i have on although its pretty noticeable that i am wearing women's jeans my fear is almost not even there when i am with friends to the point i was in full femme and i went for dinner with 4 of my male friends and a friends girlfriend the other night mid way threw dinner i had to use the washroom and was a bit stressed on what washroom i should use so my friends girlfriend took me into the womens washroom for the first time so that helped a lot then a couple days later i went threw a drive thru but i felt safe being i was in my car I've drove quite a few times in femme but that never seems to bother me at all.. I'm making progress its just hard for most of the past week I've only presented as female i guess its just baby steps  but it feels really hard to get over some times maybe i will try and go as the real me to my doctors in a few weeks time

is what i am going threw normal and will go away over time or is it something i need to work on more over the coming weeks ?

Hi Michelle 🙋‍♀️ That's wonderful you are feeling more comfortable when you are expressing yourself as a woman in public.  I've been on E for about 7 months and only yesterday went out in public.  Thankfully I was with two other women from Susan's.  It was wonderful.
I do regret not needing to freshen myself up in the ladies room.
My avatar is from yesterday!

Hugs, Jessica

This sounds pretty normal, Michelle.  I think we have all been there.

Most of us spend some time presenting androgynously until we become more comfortable with ourselves.  Gradually, we work up to presenting fully in our proper gender.  Fear is our constant companion until we begin to realize that most people really aren't going to give us any problems.  The more you get out there as yourself, the less fear you will feel, and the more confident you will become.

As your presentation evolves, the choice of bathrooms should match your presentation.  So if you are presenting male, use the men's room.  If you are presenting female, use the women's room.  If you are presenting androgynously, use whichever one seems best at the time.

Just keep on doing what you are doing.  Get out in femme mode as much as you are comfortable with.  The more you do it, the easier it will be.  It sounds like you have some supportive friends, so make use of their support when you can.

Relax, and enjoy yourself!

It's uncomfortable at first, just keep doing it, and keep working on your voice, walk, mannerisms, presentation, and for God's sake please discard your obligatory denim skirt (that all trans women seem to own) if you have one, lol 😃; and everything will get easier, and you will feel more comfortable as you build self confidence and gain self acceptance.

Quote from: kitchentablepotpourri on February 10, 2018, 02:12:47 PM
It's uncomfortable at first, just keep doing it, and keep working on your voice, walk, mannerisms, presentation, and for God's sake please discard your obligatory denim skirt (that all trans women seem to own) if you have one, lol [emoji2]; and everything will get easier, and you will feel more comfortable as you build self confidence and gain self acceptance.

Lol I don't any denim as a female yet but I'll make note to stay away from the skirts

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Quote from: kitchentablepotpourri on February 10, 2018, 02:12:47 PMfor God's sake please discard your obligatory denim skirt (that all trans women seem to own)

LOL, I've never owned one.  The whole point of a skirt is that it should be swishy and flowy.  Denim don't swish!

Quote from: KathyLauren on February 11, 2018, 07:23:23 AM
LOL, I've never owned one.  The whole point of a skirt is that it should be swishy and flowy.  Denim don't swish!

I'm definitely with you there, a swishing skirt can look absolutely gorgeous. I don't think a denim skirt ever looks good.

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Yes, swishing and flowing is good.  Also for hair, its swishing or having other noticeable movement is a plus, at least I think so.  But "non-moving" shorter hairstyles can look wonderful, of course!

I think a skirt should show curves! Hips and bum that's what I go for in my look [emoji4]

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Quote from: KathyLauren on February 11, 2018, 07:23:23 AM
LOL, I've never owned one.  The whole point of a skirt is that it should be swishy and flowy.  Denim don't swish!

It's not just every trans-woman that seems to have one, it's every woman. 

I like mine.  I wear it like I would wear  shorts, in the summer time.

It was actually quite practical when I flew back from Phoenix a couple weeks ago.  It was 80 when I left and 20 when I landed in Wisconsin.  I put a pair of leggings on under the skirt at the  airport before I got on the plane so I wouldn't freeze when we landed.



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