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Started by Dr_Who_Ace, February 13, 2018, 01:43:26 AM

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Dr_Who_Ace

Ok this may be the wrong place to put this thread if it is I'm sorry but. I want put some thing out there on the washing line. as it where and to see if this is this makes sence and if it some thing that others have gone thought or is what I'm feeling a part of something ealse other then transgender?

Ok,here gose nothing, I have  watched a few videos about what thought presses. That would be consider,  someone  to be transgender, one or two did speak to me like I would in privet imagen my self as a  a woman. This can range from seeing my self as looking look Ellen page or someone ealse and it dose feel good.

Now at the same time, one of my passions is playing video games and if there a choice of a gender I do pick a girl/woman. Feeling that yes I reviled in the thought of me being that person granted it a fps or first person shooter.  this was also covered in the video. On top this I do a story roleplay where I play a female superhero. Yes I have had thought of being them.

I have taken this in account and also watched vloger amd found her video informative to where I could see my self looking at beeing transgender.

I want to state that I have aspergers and dyslexia where there the possable gender diforia. In short I short I want know if a coping as it where or if I long to be a woman. Sorry if this the wrong area to post this.
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VickyS

Hi!

This is an excellent question.  I have often wondered if my thought processes of feeling good as a girl and upset as a man could be someting other than being trans, but in the end I kept going round in circles of denial which caused me extreme upset.  I think PERSONALLY (and you may be different) that the doubt is a healthy defense mechanism as for me, I did not WANT to be trans at all.  I did not want to smash my world apart, but it seems that I am trans.  It's what to do about it that's the tricky part!!

It sounds very much like you have gender identity issues certainly on some level, so I think the best bet by far is to seek a therapist who is knowledgeable about gender issues to talk through your issues and help you.

Vicky x
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esphoria

Hi there Vicky!

Being Transgender is a tough thing to go through and what to do about it can be tough. Especially for someone new to the realization that they might be trans it takes a lot of getting use to and sorting through your feelings.

I think you are looking for concrete signs that flag you as a female and that's where it gets a bit muddy. While these all can be signs of Gender Dysphoria, the biggest sign is how you feel about it and who you are on the inside. The hardest person to come out to for me was defiantly myself and I think other people might share similar experiences.

Just be mindful of how you put yourself in someone else's shoes. No two women or people for that matter are alike. What makes one girl beautiful won't be the same for all women.

I agree with Vicky a gender therapist can be a lifesaver when it comes to sorting out feelings. They are also an invaluable resource and ally when it comes to transitioning.  I would defiantly seek one out as most of us can really only speak from experience which varies widely.

Girl, there is only one question I gotta ask.... how does it make you feel to be called girl, miss or ma'am? Does it give off a positive feeling or not? I'm not saying it's a definitive thing just another indicator :)


Wish You the best!
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Dr_Who_Ace

I want to ask if this helps, I know I'm feeling that I'm a woman when I have thought of my body being a girl and such to where I get an erection? if that a sign or not? Someone in another group said to explore with clothes, makeup things like that really, maybe choose a name you would use.

what do you think?
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Cassi

Ace?  Personally, I would prefer to look like the original Romana!
HRT since 1/04/2018
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Dr_Who_Ace

Yes that Ace :P and that cool :) I like to see you dressed up as her :)
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Cassi

Quote from: Dr_Who_Ace on February 13, 2018, 03:35:16 PM
Yes that Ace :P and that cool :) I like to see dressed up as her :)

I just love the original Romana's (Mary Tamm) eyebrows.  Think I'll get mine done like her's.  So sorry that she passed away at 62, such a beautiful woman.
HRT since 1/04/2018
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Dr_Who_Ace

What stops you I can link you Dr who, fan clubs if you want that could help? I may be a man at the moment, But I did cosplay as ace with my own copy of her jacket. I have even been to events meeting Ace and old cast. Am I happy to show images of me in the jacket and that?
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Cassi

Quote from: Dr_Who_Ace on February 13, 2018, 04:31:38 PM
What stops you I can link you Dr who, fan clubs if you want that could help? I may be a man at the moment, But I did cosplay as ace with my own copy of her jacket. I have even been to events meeting Ace and old cast. Am I happy to show images of me in the jacket and that?

Thank you Ace for the offer.  I'm kind of a Whovian Trekker SyFy Blend kidnapped by aliens kind of girl, lol.

I used to belong to a group in Texas.  I haven't found one here in Vegas as yet.  And I have a few "Man" pictures of me with the TARDIS and a couple of mean looking Daleks :)
HRT since 1/04/2018
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Dr_Who_Ace

Hi, a silly question is a crossdresser, trans? As I can image my self as the woman but then swap back. In the mind that is that something transgender? or something else? I know see a therapist. I'm just trying to get more info as it like I'm good feeling then bad.
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Cassi

Quote from: Dr_Who_Ace on February 14, 2018, 03:42:33 PM
Hi, a silly question is a crossdresser, trans? As I can image my self as the woman but then swap back. In the mind that is that something transgender? or something else? I know see a therapist. I'm just trying to get more info as it like I'm good feeling then bad.

I would think that it could be a transgender thing and not a transgender thing.  Depends on the person.
HRT since 1/04/2018
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Dena

According to our WIKI , cross dressers are a part of the transgender family. Transgender is defined as anybody who is uncomfortable with their birth gender so that results in a fairly wide definition.
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Dr_Who_Ace

So y that definition it would make transgender?
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Dena

It would make a cross dresser transgender however as always, you would have to determine if you identify as cross dresser and transgender. The choice comes down to do you feel CIS or Transgender. We can't make that determination for you as we can't know how you feel.
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