Thanks everyone for the support and Kathy you and I are pretty much on the same page. I believe this whole thing is in place to satisfy the equal opportunity employer thing and that's about it.

Tonya, If I were responsible for just myself I would fight this, but at this point I have other people besides myself to think about and I still hope I can get a reference from this job, because then I leave as they want and I can move forward elsewhere.

Bari Jo I really think that this is the exception to the rule rather then what people should expect in this situation. I not saying you shouldn't be prepared but I'm a plan for the worst and hope for the best sorta person. Thank you for the compliment,  and I've always thought you had an adorable face, you have a structure that I would imagine looks good in almost any look you try to pull off (including the one you do:P)

Yeah Erin, I really do think I have a shot at stealth at my next job and I'm just going to go for it. I really do get it, its hard to leave a job where you have so much history and security, I just wish people could sometimes see the world for what it is and not just try to shove everything neatly into boxes.

<3 you all Jess