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Public reaction to "Man in a dress"

Started by Renate, March 02, 2008, 05:24:28 AM

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tekla

I would think a lot of that has to do with who your parents are.
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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NicholeW.

Quote from: lady amarant on March 07, 2008, 01:08:44 PM
Quote from: Nichole on March 07, 2008, 12:40:08 PM
Rach, parents are the worst. Well, one's own parents. They are gonna probably always see their 'son.' Even if they don't.  :laugh:

Do you think that would change after a long period apart, especially if transition takes place during said period, or would that make it worse? I honestly can't decide on that one.

Depends on what their expectations and beliefs are, I imagine. And maybe too the degree of 'change' the child underwent.

N~

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Kate

Quote from: lady amarant on March 07, 2008, 01:08:44 PM
Do you think that would change after a long period apart, especially if transition takes place during said period, or would that make it worse? I honestly can't decide on that one.

My apologies to Renate for straying from the original topic, but...

I think it's generally best if parents have a chance to watch the transition process, as it gives them time to mourn the loss of their "son." I know it's hard to "watch someone you love disappearing" as I've been told, but it does provide a sense of closure in the end.

I've been trying to see my parents for well over a year now, but.. oh well. I keep warning them, but I'm sure I'm just their "crossdressing son" to them still. IF we ever meet again, it's going to be quite a shock. Or maybe not, I don't know... they have a talent for not recognizing my accomplishments and victories.

Anyways, back to the topic at hand ;)

~Kate~
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Rachael

thats what i am to them too....

They saw me since, they just told me i act flamboyant and effeminate, look gay, and not female remotely...
its a 'perverted obsession/hobby' to them *shrugs*
R >:D
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Shana A

Quote from: Rachael on March 07, 2008, 04:05:17 PM
thats what i am to them too....

They saw me since, they just told me i act flamboyant and effeminate, look gay, and not female remotely...
its a 'perverted obsession/hobby' to them *shrugs*
R >:D

Heck of a "hobby" ::) Things such as collecting coins, building model trains or gardening are hobbies, not gender. Except perhaps collecting shoes  >:D

For a while my parents thought this was a "phase"...

Z
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


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cindybc

Ya my sister, though, It was just a phase, she spoke. She called one day and said that she and her husband were coming for a visit. I always loved their visits. I told her over the phone that I had started full time. I really don't have any idea what went through her mind except shock. She knocked and I opened the door and she spoke three words that will remain etched in my subconscious memory to the very soul and if it was to the soul then be it, it will probably haunt me into several future reincarnations in time. The words were simply "Oh my God!" she dropped a couple of bags at the entrance to my apartment then turned and left.

My brother in-law who actually was a truly a nice person tried to call her back but she left and he turned to look at me and shrugged his shoulders and followed the way she had gone, but not before I had a long look at his face, there was no malice in that face just a hurt disappointed look. He would have accepted my transitioning, so much for women being more accepting, well maybe for the best part and I can only pray so. The girls at work were quite supportive.  I had already gone to visit them at their trailer in a trailer park shortly before I went full time and had already told both of them what my plans were including when I was going to begin doing full time.????????????

Well I try to not think about it much. That was 7 years ago and I have accepted their decision to not visit or even write any letters to me, that is their choice and that's ok with me now. I'm a big girl, I can look after myself but sometimes all I can do is to let the tears run down both cheeks

Cindy.
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lady amarant

Quote from: cindybc on March 07, 2008, 06:20:31 PM
Well I try to not think about it much. That was 7 years ago and I have accepted their decision to not visit or even write any letters to me, that is their choice and that's ok with me now. I'm a big girl, I can look after myself but sometimes all I can do is to let the tears run down both cheeks

I'm terrified that that happens when I go back home to South Africa in August. My mom and dad MAYBE not so much, but I really worry that my brother will just say. "It's not worth the aggravation." Being supportive over the phone once in a while is great, but seeing a different person after almost two years...

Anyway. Back on topic. I too am sorry to have strayed.
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cindybc

Hi Lady Amarant I will send prayers that everything goes well when you go to visit family in South Africa

Yes as I have heard in this board on occasions that parents/family are probably the worst ones to try to reason with or convince unfortunately. The average *I am guessing* would be approximately be about the same as wives sticking it out with their TS spouse. Actually maybe a bit more favorable percentage for the parents/family then for the TS's spouse. Roughly guessing I will say, maybe 2% or 3% percent out of the entire population of Trans folks which probably all of us has taken our turn at making attempts at trying to reconciliation with our parents/family and or spouses. Will they actually stick it out and try to be supportive?

Being TS is almost the same as a saying, has anyone here heard the old saying that was used in the program of AA? Alcohol must be the best cleaner there ever was. Eventually alcohol will remove everything from you. But one thing that trans can't take away from me, and that is my birthday, Personally I wish it did.

Cindy 
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Berliegh

Some transsexuals do seem to wear weird clothes...
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RebeccaFog


If I saw a man in a dress, I'd rip it right off!
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cindybc

Hmmmmmmmmm "nah!" I'm not prone to violence, never have been. Even under the worst of circumstances where I should have reacted in some way but never did. But reacting in such a disturbing manner as to rip the dress off of some man would not be motive enough for me to react in that manner. "Nay!" anyway what if that dress wearing man was bigger then me?  Would that be reason enough for me to act like  an ornery pregnant wart hog? " I never could do that," I prefer playing pranks, like maybe use a little mojo and cast a spell for a very large pimple on the end of his Mickey Mouse.

Cindy
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RebeccaFog


I was being silly, Cindy.   I just thought it sounded funny.  Like a man is standing around in a dress all happy and stuff then someone comes along and tears it off revealing him for all the world to see in his undies.
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Shana A

Quote from: Rebis on March 10, 2008, 07:26:05 PM

I was being silly, Cindy.   I just thought it sounded funny.  Like a man is standing around in a dress all happy and stuff then someone comes along and tears it off revealing him for all the world to see in his undies.

I thought you really liked hir dress and were ripping it off so you could wear it  :D ;)

Z
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


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Shana A

Quote from: Rebis on March 10, 2008, 07:38:30 PM

That too.   :laugh:

I thought as much...

Well, if zie was wearing this skirt, I'd have to steal it  >:D
,

Z
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


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cindybc

Wow that's some wild colors, Ya I have a couple of broom skirts but not colorful like that one. I just love colors.

Hi Rebis I know you were just messing around, so was I  ;D

I messed around on another thread earlier today as well actually two. When I get frustrated I love posting nonsense, makes me feel better. It's more fun here though. I like messing around when I'm frustrated but my nastiness is about the equivalent of a mosquito missing its proboscis.  So I laugh myself better. ;D

Cindy

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RebeccaFog


Yeah, nice colors.

Nice shape too.  Kind of low on the hips isn't it?
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Keira


That kind of skirt's not really my style, I love them short, earthy colors preferably, love the schoolgirl ones though may be a bit passed that age :-).

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Rachael

Quote from: Rebis on March 11, 2008, 07:51:22 AM

Yeah, nice colors.

Nice shape too.  Kind of low on the hips isn't it?
perfect hight for a nice inverted triangle shaped tatoo peaking out of the cleavage there ^_^
thas am one sexy skirt :P
But it takes an epic body to pull it off or it just looks trashy and bohemian.
R >:D
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RebeccaFog

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