okay, so i'm planning on buying my first packer, a xs mr limpy. however, i don't really know what to look for in a harness, as i'm completely new to it. suggestions?

Hi, kaitheawesomeguy!
Sorry, I have no information to help you, being MTF nyself, but I wanted to welcome you to Susan's.

Please feel free to stop by the Introductions forum to tell the members about yourself.  Here is some information that we like to share with new members:

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Hello kaitheawesomeguy, let me also say Welcome to Susan's Place.  You will find this site a wonderful way to explore your transition experience and to share your concerns and questions with others here that are transitioning. 
Please feel free to get involved on the Forums as much or as little as you feel comfortable.

Be certain to look at the LINKS at the bottom of KathyLauren's welcome message that she sent to you.
Lots of useful information there that will help you to navigate around the site and will also inform you of the site rules here so you can have a pleasant and satisfying time on Susan's Place.

As you post replies and new subjects on the Forums you will undoubtedly find those other members that you may become friends with.

Thank you for joining Susan's Place and, again, WELCOME.
Danielle

***NOTE: As KathyLauren mentioned please stop by the Introductions Forum to tell the members here that you have arrived at Susan's.