So.

While I'm not entirely sure If I'm transitioning yet, I have been changing recently. In the last week, since I'd decided to be more open about my sexuality and gender identity, I've become much happier. I'd never made any connection between my seemingly endless sour mood and playing the role of masculine husband and father.

Not that the husband and father aspect will change: that's as much a part of me as my sexual and gender identity.

Not only have I noticed that I'm happier, my wife has noticed it, too. She used to joke with some of her friends that I'd make a great wife. Well, now it seems she has both a husband and a wife, in one convenient package.

We've been talking a lot about these sort of things over the past few days, and she mentioned something I never knew. The woman to whom and I currently married is the same girl I was dating in my senior year of high school (1987). She mentioned to me last night that when we first began dating, I seemed a bit feminine to her. Then, for about the first 10 years of our marriage, I seemed more masculine. Then, over the next 9 years, and especially in the past 2 weeks, she'd noticed that I was becoming more feminine again.

She noticed when we first met, and I didn't even think of myself as androgynous back then.

Wow. She noticed.

Sometimes, I'm really slow on the uptake.

Me too.   It takes me forever to see what others see.

It's good to know you're happier.   My foul moods went away once I became me too.

Miracles.  Everyone should have one.

Awwwww! That's soooooo romantic - her being the same person and all. It's like destiny! Sweet!

Quote from: Shades O'Grey on March 11, 2008, 09:28:53 AM
So.

While I'm not entirely sure If I'm transitioning yet, I have been changing recently. In the last week, since I'd decided to be more open about my sexuality and gender identity, I've become much happier. I'd never made any connection between my seemingly endless sour mood and playing the role of masculine husband and father.

Not that the husband and father aspect will change: that's as much a part of me as my sexual and gender identity.

Not only have I noticed that I'm happier, my wife has noticed it, too. She used to joke with some of her friends that I'd make a great wife. Well, now it seems she has both a husband and a wife, in one convenient package.

We've been talking a lot about these sort of things over the past few days, and she mentioned something I never knew. The woman to whom and I currently married is the same girl I was dating in my senior year of high school (1987). She mentioned to me last night that when we first began dating, I seemed a bit feminine to her. Then, for about the first 10 years of our marriage, I seemed more masculine. Then, over the next 9 years, and especially in the past 2 weeks, she'd noticed that I was becoming more feminine again.

She noticed when we first met, and I didn't even think of myself as androgynous back then.

Wow. She noticed.

Sometimes, I'm really slow on the uptake.

Shades - I've read some of your posts and we seem to be on similar paths. About a month ago I figured out the female component in my personality, and it explained *so* much of my past and *so* many of my past experiences. I believe that my wife also sees this component but does not yet recognize it for what it is, but it was probably something that attracted her to me (we've been married a long time). We've even discussed this many times in an offhand way, but of course I was clueless at the time. Congrats on your wife understanding this in you, and I hope that my wife can eventually come to the same understanding and do the same. After all, I see most things her way