Quote from: Nero on March 13, 2008, 11:19:11 PM
Plus you haven't fallen into the trap so many other guys (and gals) do of trying so hard they become a stereotype of their gender instead of just themselves.
Nero, do you realize that you are essentially stereotyping a stereotype? I would say that the majority of transsexuals are just being who they are inside, not conforming to someone else's ideas of who they should be. But as with anything, you have to take the good with the bad. It's wrong to say that ALL lesbians are extremely masculine or ALL gay men are extremely feminine, but it can't be denied that this is true for some people.
It's all just a matter of stereotyping and people blowing up specific cases to general rules. Are all transsexuals like that? Certainly not. Are there some that are like this? Sure. What's important is that you are happy with yourself. When you are able to be yourself openly and proudly, it breaks down the generalizations that people have learned.
Most transsexual people, at the start of transition, DO go through a "stereotype" phase. We, transsexual women, DO go a little "crazy" with our clothes, often buying the most unsuitable garments (skirts too short, dresses too frilly/floral, pink everything, etc), we DO overdo our make-up, we DO feel the need not to do or say anything that isn't unequivocally feminine. Transsexual men, on the other hand, DO get ridiculously short haircuts, or over-the-top tattoos, and DO take up "manly" sports and pastimes with an almost religious, rather fanatic passion. Yet all of this is done to establish our credentials, nailing our colors to the mast; in other words, it's like wearing a placard that says "YES! I AM A WOMAN" (or "YES! I AM A MAN" for transsexual men).
Most of us grow out of it fairly quickly, of course; we calm down, and begin to accept that we don't have to fit the stereotype. We learn to be OURSELVES; a mixture of masculine and feminine traits, just like everyone else (and for some of us, fortunately, not many, the stereotype IS who we are).

Melanie Ann Phillips (the voice expert

) addressed this issue several years before you and everyone else

. She observed that transsexual women NEED to go WAY over the top and start from the stereotypical, and then "back off" to a place where you are comparable with your femininity or masculinity as the case may be.
Just a thought.
tink

P.S. I'm so sorry. I didn't mean to change the subject of the thread.