Am I the only one not bothered by the idea of scars from transitional surgeries?

Might be because I already have a lot of scars, from both surgeries and injuries. The only people who seem to question them aside from medical professionals are sexual partners.

I'm pretty fine with the idea of my appearance being altered in a "negative" light, but also I don't mind if people ask me about it. I feel like being "stealth" is probably less important to me since it's just. hm. Not appealing? So even if people know or ask about the source of potential scars, it doesn't matter to me.

I've been talking to other trans people undergoing/planning surgeries and talking to my doctors about it and they talk about scars a lot but it's just. That topic doesn't really interest me but I don't know how to approach that in conversation when it's happening, ha ha.

Quote from: falk on March 28, 2018, 02:50:28 PM
Am I the only one not bothered by the idea of scars from transitional surgeries?

Might be because I already have a lot of scars, from both surgeries and injuries. The only people who seem to question them aside from medical professionals are sexual partners.

I'm pretty fine with the idea of my appearance being altered in a "negative" light, but also I don't mind if people ask me about it. I feel like being "stealth" is probably less important to me since it's just. hm. Not appealing? So even if people know or ask about the source of potential scars, it doesn't matter to me.

I've been talking to other trans people undergoing/planning surgeries and talking to my doctors about it and they talk about scars a lot but it's just. That topic doesn't really interest me but I don't know how to approach that in conversation when it's happening, ha ha.

I feel like everybody has scars, and some you can just cover up better than others, its skin, and I have found tattoo artists around here who tattoo over them if thats something you're looking for.

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Scars don't bother me at all, personally.

But I can see why people who want stealth might be concerned if the scars "give away" the sort of operation they'd had. If enough people become savvy about what FTM transition is, they'd probably spot it more easily on someone.

And some people just see scars as disfiguring. The ones I've got won't be disfiguring. A big shark bite is disfiguring, a couple of thin lines aren't to me.

i'm stealth but my scars don't bug me and people don't ask me about them probably because they don't want to be rude. i know people stare when i'm swimming without a shirt but i don't care. they're pretty faded now and i have chest hair so they aren't super noticeable. i don't think anyone has known i'm trans with my scars but who knows, as i said, no one says anything to me. if someone asked i'd probably just joke around and say it was a magic trick gone wrong because to me, even though they're visible, it's still no ones business on why i have them.

I'm not that bothered by them -- the way i see it i have to hide and bind my chest as it is and after surgery if i still have to cover the scars with a shirt i'm not exactly losing anything?

I do feel a little bit concerned about transphobia and how identifiable/ recognisable the scars are becoming tho

Quote from: cquin1992 on March 28, 2018, 03:13:56 PM
I feel like everybody has scars, and some you can just cover up better than others, its skin, and I have found tattoo artists around here who tattoo over them if thats something you're looking for.

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Hm. That's an interesting thought. Unless I cover half of my body with tattoos, I don't think it would help disguise them. Though being covered in ink actually sounds pretty awesome now that I think about that.

Quote from: Kylo on March 28, 2018, 04:19:50 PM
Scars don't bother me at all, personally.

But I can see why people who want stealth might be concerned if the scars "give away" the sort of operation they'd had. If enough people become savvy about what FTM transition is, they'd probably spot it more easily on someone.

And some people just see scars as disfiguring. The ones I've got won't be disfiguring. A big shark bite is disfiguring, a couple of thin lines aren't to me.

Quote from: invisiblemonsters on March 28, 2018, 05:47:41 PM
i'm stealth but my scars don't bug me and people don't ask me about them probably because they don't want to be rude. i know people stare when i'm swimming without a shirt but i don't care. they're pretty faded now and i have chest hair so they aren't super noticeable. i don't think anyone has known i'm trans with my scars but who knows, as i said, no one says anything to me. if someone asked i'd probably just joke around and say it was a magic trick gone wrong because to me, even though they're visible, it's still no ones business on why i have them.

Quote from: Peep on March 29, 2018, 05:59:04 AM
I'm not that bothered by them -- the way i see it i have to hide and bind my chest as it is and after surgery if i still have to cover the scars with a shirt i'm not exactly losing anything?

I do feel a little bit concerned about transphobia and how identifiable/ recognisable the scars are becoming tho

Yeah. Even though the idea of stealth isn't important to me, I do feel concerned for the people that feel different than me. Transphobia is abound but since there's little [aside from correcting people I encounter] that I can do about it so I try to not think about it too much.

I also hide my chest because I have huge burn scars on it and also self-harm scars on my arms. I don't particularly like people asking me questions or staring either. So I get that it could/would be uncomfortable. But the addition of scars? Probably not going to get to me.

i do like the idea of tattooing my chest but i'm not sure if i would cover the scars, just because the positioning is odd for a tattoo lol

Quote from: Peep on March 29, 2018, 04:24:19 PM
i do like the idea of tattooing my chest but i'm not sure if i would cover the scars, just because the positioning is odd for a tattoo lol

Tribal tattoos work great I heard, it just depends on what the tattoo artist suggests

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Quote from: cquin1992 on March 29, 2018, 04:26:28 PM
Tribal tattoos work great I heard, it just depends on what the tattoo artist suggests

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i would just be wary of accidentally recreating a boob or bra shape >.>

Kind of. Before I had top surgery I hadn't ever had any kind of surgery, but was noticably scarred from many years of self harm. As well as from acne on my face. Prior to top op I thought getting the double incision scars wouldn't bother me cause I was already scarred, but oh well.

I did get bothered by them post-op, cause they were a lot bigger and darker than all my other scars together and I have very light skin that made the contrast even worse.

It took about a year after op for me to become okay with those scars, as they faded and I got used to them being there. Now they barely bother me at all, but I still get a bit self conscious about them possibly outing me. I've though about tattoo but don't know what or how.

I'm less bothered about getting scars from my hysto in the future, even if I'll get a bigger abdominal scar, cause I have very thick and dark hair there so it would likely be quite well hidden. For further lower surgery I'm getting meta which doesn't leave much of any visible scarring, compared to phallo that leaves much more scarring like on graft/donor sites.

I've quit cutting/burning myself by now, btw. Quit 3 years ago, but existing scars do stay, although they don't bother me much either these days. They're just a part of my body.