Quote from: Shellie Hart on April 01, 2018, 04:10:33 PM
I don't like to talk too much about my private life, but simply -- what life I do have would end if I changed anything in a public way. I grew up in a tragic family and as a result a couple of them depend on me for things. Getting into too many details I could write a book. Transitioning (living as I do privately) is just a way to bring some measure of calmness to an otherwise hopeless situation. So sad really, but I have no choice. I just don't want to bring any more difficulties into the lives of others who are close to me. Am I living a sort of a lie? Perhaps. But I hurt no one in my transition. It's just what I wish for and am trying to live a bit of what I should have been all along. Simple....but complicated...
EDIT: This was written as an answer to Zille. But somehow I did it wrong.... 
Thank you Shellie,
Didn't mean to pry but life experiences are always a source of things to learn and whatever the reasons, they are all valid as they apply to your life and nobody can ever truly put themselves fully in others shoes.
I have a my last remaining parent who have fallen ill with terminal cancer and I'm partly not taking any decisions as to not complicate the death of my farther whom I've considered on of my best friends and a hero in my life by how he has lived his life. One could ask if I'm not lying to him in the process and maybe I am and it's part of holding me back to discuss this further with my SO. But it's what's right for me, right now.
Thank you for sharing and I understand the privacy feeling but with so many amazing stories to learn from here at Susan's I did A) not want to misunderstand your situation and B) also ask you personally as I think it can often help to open up to complete strangers what don't know the specifics in your own life.
I hope for the best for you moving forward and for the things to happen as you need them.
Thanks again for answering.
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