They've asked me about it relation to whether or not I had psychological difficulty with it, if I felt it was in some way related to gender dysphoria.

To which the answer is yes. It's one of the major tells of me having a problem, and it's one that didn't resolve with time.

They also asked about my sexuality in building up a psychological profile and looking to see if I demonstrated "classic" symptoms of transsexuality, although my sexuality is unhelpful in that respect since it's effectively "neutral" (bisexual). And sexuality does seem to vary a lot in trans people, so I guess it's one of the "older" questions in the list.

Quote from: KarlMars on January 24, 2018, 07:32:55 PM
Do you think talking about sex with your therapist is an important part of your gender identity?

Nah. She was more interested in the relationship dynamic between me an my partner and how that was going to change, than the sex. In that sense, I could see the medical professionals at the GIC were monitoring the sort of support network I had through these questions, and were encouraging me to make sure I didn't cut myself off too much from one. 

QuoteIf so was your therapist able to offer anything helpful in the way of your sexual problems due to dysphoria?

I don't have a problem talking about it, but it hasn't been that helpful if I did. I mean, I knew the reason behind the problem with it - I didn't need a sex therapist or anything. I'm not even sure if what I've got can be "resolved". It's the thorniest issue I have, for sure.

I brought it up. She didn't ask and I think that was appropriate. I needed to open up about it as it was a major component of my desicion to transition.

my situation is complicated
im 22 years old and i dont hace sexual live and im virgin
in a time i tought i was asexual male or something like that
I think i was bi couse i feel atractive to mens ands womens, more men but i feel fear about it (cause all arounds me thinks its atnormal) and i preffer frienship with girls like a "normal boy"
But i have gender identity problems especial with my boy- thing that scares me and anal-sex with a men scares me more, but i like anal masturbation yes im crazy
My terapist talk me about try date with women and men to know my orientation and i try to open a little,...
my love record ... i loved a girl that was my exgirlfriend but our relation ship not work cause i sometimes acts few fem (probably i wasnt sexual atract to her but defenly i loved her) and she wants a male-male that do male things... now i understand it and probably is the reason why she starts to search a man
after that  i only kiss a woman and a man was good but i dont was the same probably cause i dont love them

After for years thinking about if im a straight woman or bi woman or no binary bisexual or a lesbian woman trapped in boy body  or a spacial watermelon.... after all this things i acep if you fall in love with someone only fall in love with him or her... but i dont want to be the boy of the relationship cause i dont feel in that way

so, for now i dont care if love comes good if not np (but i still prefer  see nude boys  )

My plans to trasition are far... but it comes first i need focus in my studies... in anyway i will need money XD

I don't especially like discussing my sex life with my therapist but it's just one more thing I have to do for surgery. If you don't play the game you don't get the letters for surgery. I withheld certain details from her in the beginning,  mostly the BDSM details but she could tell I was holding back and wanted me to tell her everything so I did. I don't know if it was a part of therapy or just entertainment for her. Lol

I was very sexually active as a male, thus sex as a female and having great orgasms was very important to me. I am also very gregarious and no topic would embarass me. I was ever so lucky to have just the greatest therapist and guide. He taught me about my mental changes and  that sex as a female was very much different, requiring mental triggers that are so different. For example men are driven visually whereas females use imagination and sounds and words are more important.

You should initiate the subject and your concerns, some therapist dont ask sensitive subjects as much as they should. So you raise them, thats what a therapist is there for. There is no shame or embarassnent. If you are forthcoming with an experienced therapist it will prepare you for the best sex ever, making your orgasms as a male pale by comparison.

Of course I did !!! I am sexually active, and part of living my life involves sex. DUH !!!! I like sex, and it's a major thing for me to enjoy my body and to feel the intimacy involved. Of course I talked to my therapist about it. Funny thing tho...the support groups (2) I attended did not have a very favorable attitude about sex I am sorry to say. Like to want to enjoy sex was somehow a "bad" reason to want to have correction surgery. Oh well....eh ? I kept in contact with several gals from those groups. One killed herself, and I'd say 4-5 didn't even want to have sex !!! Different strokes I guess. HTH and ty for posting this topic
J

And TY warlocker for that great post. Your attitude is great and you are spot on. Great words !!!

Very well said warlocker and right on the money.
I'm asexual but that is just as important in my journey and talking about it brought out what was really hidden deep inside me. In all of this transition that talk has been the most emotion and important yet. 

Q: Do you talk with your therapist about your sex life?
A: Yes.

I have no problem telling my doctor about my sex life, maybe not in too much detail but im pretty sure my therapist doesnt wanna hear it, lol. Shes a self proclaimed "traditional christian woman" which made coming out to her interesting. She never met a trans person before me. She's trying though.

No, it makes me uncomfortable to talk about with a therapist, but I would talk about and it's non-existence with a doctor,but only if asked.

Quote from: Julia1996 on March 23, 2018, 02:52:57 AM
I don't especially like discussing my sex life with my therapist but it's just one more thing I have to do for surgery. If you don't play the game you don't get the letters for surgery. I withheld certain details from her in the beginning,  mostly the BDSM details but she could tell I was holding back and wanted me to tell her everything so I did. I don't know if it was a part of therapy or just entertainment for her. Lol

With my current counselor I talked about my past sex life but did not elaborate about the details. I wasn't getting into the kinks and strangeness as I don't think I can talk about it with another counselor. My wife and I were in couples counseling a few years ago due to my kinks and we both left a session disgusted. While I tried to discuss what was destroying our marriage my wife who was sitting straight across for him noticed he was getting aroused. It was just so gross and our last section. We worked it out ourselves

Well I know this is different but I told a nurse "that's my problem" after basically telling her I'm celibate, and don't need std testing. Well, they keep asking if I want an hiv test so I think that does kinda open up the convo a bit for me to "overshare"...

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Quote from: KarlMars on January 24, 2018, 07:32:55 PM
One therapist asked me about my sex life and I didn't like it. I wasn't comfortable with him or ready to talk about it. He was emotionally abusive as well. Later I heard he got arrested for sexual battery of a patient. My second therapist who was for trans therapy didn't ask and I didn't tell. I've considered myself asexual for quite some time now. I don't know if it's related to dysphoria. I'm starting with a really good therapist who I think I may be comfortable talking with sex about. I'm hoping to develop some sexuality after transition.

Do you think talking about sex with your therapist is an important part of your gender identity? If so was your therapist able to offer anything helpful in the way of your sexual problems due to dysphoria?

I am Asexual also, and yes i feel like sex is important for me to talk about as part of my gender identity, but its not really a subject im use to or comfortable talking about and yes i have had problems in this area due to dysphoria... like soo much

I do not talk about sex but I do talk about the results of my sex. Two beautiful human beings.

yes