eHarmony now has a gay (not sure about lesbian) sister site called Compatible Partners.  Not worth it though.

OK Cupid is Free.

Jay

Quote from: sneakersjay on October 03, 2011, 08:20:49 AM
eHarmony now has a gay (not sure about lesbian) sister site called Compatible Partners.  Not worth it though.

Compatible Partners is for lesbians as well.  I agree--not worth it.  Especially considering whom the parent company is.

I noticed that was a very old thread on that site, so I did a search on the site using transsexual as a search word.
Didn't find much but I did come across a thread that was fairly recent where some blatant transphobia was on display and one of the moderators on the site brought the smack down, bitched at the offenders for being ->-bleeped-<-s, and locked the thread.
So maybe it isn't as bad as it was in the past.
IDK
I do not care to spend anymore time in that forum as it is so not my cup of tea.

Quote from: TheAetherealMeadow on October 02, 2011, 09:12:05 PM
Someone should make a trans friendly site called plentyofclownfish.com. For those who don't know, clown fish are able to spontaneously change sex.

That made me lol. Very clever.

And hey, I followed the link to those comments, and the first page turned my stomach. I didn't read further. I've seen the same stuff on OregonLive.com, where I sometimes go to read the Oregonian. I always forget how much hate is out there.

So I opened a Plenty Of Fish account (downloaded the app on my phone) and they only have 2 options for gender, "male" and "female". I chose "female" and started getting messages and interactions from interested men. Then I decided to add "transgender" to my profile and also told one of them that I was. As soon as I did that I stopped receiving messages and I can't send them either! Or do anything. Seems like my profile is blocked somehow. Ugh!!

That's really odd Charlie. There's a trans woman on POF in my area (southern England). She's got her profile set up as female and in her description she clearly states that she's a trans woman. I notice that this thread was started and last updated in 2011 so would have hoped things had been improved since then - could it just be a temporary problem with your messages?

Quote from: Charlie Nicki on April 26, 2018, 09:37:05 AM
So I opened a Plenty Of Fish account (downloaded the app on my phone) and they only have 2 options for gender, "male" and "female". I chose "female" and started getting messages and interactions from interested men. Then I decided to add "transgender" to my profile and also told one of them that I was. As soon as I did that I stopped receiving messages and I can't send them either! Or do anything. Seems like my profile is blocked somehow. Ugh!!

This happened to me too a few months ago. It seemed like I was logged out and when I tried logging back in my info wasn't working... Also I made another account and it happened again! So I gave up. Makes sense now that maybe I was banned both times too.. I was thinking it could be because others on their report profiles but I'm not sure

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Quote from: Casady on April 26, 2018, 09:49:13 AM
That's really odd Charlie. There's a trans woman on POF in my area (southern England). She's got her profile set up as female and in her description she clearly states that she's a trans woman. I notice that this thread was started and last updated in 2011 so would have hoped things had been improved since then - could it just be a temporary problem with your messages?

Really? I got blocked and unblocked now. I don't know if somebody reported then...I decided to put the word "transgender" in my description again. Let's see what happens...

Quote from: Charlie Nicki on April 26, 2018, 11:21:59 AM
Really? I got blocked and unblocked now. I don't know if somebody reported then...I decided to put the word "transgender" in my description again. Let's see what happens...

Nothing like getting your hopes up, having them dashed, then make you wonder if you should hope again.

I hope it works out for you (and that you find someone!) I just checked the profile I mentioned previously and it's still online and clearly states transgender in the description (not the heading, but the main text). Of course, no guarantee she's receiving and sending messages successfully I guess. It will be interesting to hear how you get on!

Quote from: Casady on April 26, 2018, 12:50:12 PM
I hope it works out for you (and that you find someone!) I just checked the profile I mentioned previously and it's still online and clearly states transgender in the description (not the heading, but the main text). Of course, no guarantee she's receiving and sending messages successfully I guess. It will be interesting to hear how you get on!

Yeah I'm back on. Receiving and sending messages! And the word "transgender" is in my description. I'm just not typing it in the conversation just in case lol. I just ask them if they read my profile.

I have known for quite some time that plentyoffish is trans discriminatory. I call it plenty of fish, as in they are off. On the other hand, OkCupid will not discriminate over it. As a matter of fact, if you get hate mail for being trans, they will delete that sender's account if you report it.

Hi, realise this topic is old but I can't believe how they can get away with this. I had a message sent to me on POF from another user today...it was fairly offensive...I won't repeat it here because it's just unacceptable...after getting massively depressed by it, i got angry so i messaged safety@pof.com as they suggest...I'm a trans woman and stated this in my profile. I wasn't lying about who I was...anyway they closed my account! Worse still they left the bigots account open! (Got a good friend to search for their profile)...feel like going to a newspaper with this, they can't have a term or condition which states no tg people surely? That would be illegal? Well anyway, sorry again to rant but came across this thread and it got me riled up lol. Also been meaning to sign-up to this site for a while so good a time as any I guess....wish was a more cheery intro tho...

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Quote from: TheAetherealMeadow on October 02, 2011, 09:12:05 PM
Someone should make a trans friendly site called plentyofclownfish.com. For those who don't know, clown fish are able to spontaneously change sex.

I checked - someone registered that already . They do offer .lgbt domains now and I registered one. Been toying with the idea of starting my own dating/friends site.

My experiences with dating sites have been rather disappointing (even before finally coming out as trans and creating a Natalie profile). Really the only people who are messaging me on okcupid are thirsty guys who have stated they are straight on their profile (then go on to tell me the nasty things they want to do to me) .

I tried to sign up for HER. Being foolish and lonely I paid to upgrade my account. Fast forward about a month later and I was banned. When I contacted support them they offered no explanation and did unban me but only offered a robotic unhuman response of "sorry, not sorry". I felt like it almost had an overtone of "maybe if you were prettier you wouldn't have been banned?". While they didn't say that EXACTLY my mind interpreted their response as that. I demanded a refund after that.

In fact the same company owns Plenty of fish, tinder, and okcupid. I'm not one for conspiracy theories but I'm sure there isn't much incentive to actually improve the platforms as a result of the monopoly.

Quote from: s4mmyz1 on July 29, 2018, 02:46:52 PM
Hi, realise this topic is old but I can't believe how they can get away with this. I had a message sent to me on POF from another user today...it was fairly offensive...I won't repeat it here because it's just unacceptable...after getting massively depressed by it, i got angry so i messaged safety@pof.com as they suggest...I'm a trans woman and stated this in my profile. I wasn't lying about who I was...anyway they closed my account! Worse still they left the bigots account open! (Got a good friend to search for their profile)...feel like going to a newspaper with this, they can't have a term or condition which states no tg people surely? That would be illegal? Well anyway, sorry again to rant but came across this thread and it got me riled up lol. Also been meaning to sign-up to this site for a while so good a time as any I guess....wish was a more cheery intro tho...

@s4mmyz1
Dear S4mmyz1
I understand your frustations all to well, with online dating sites like you had mentioned, but first things first.
I see that our member @KathyLauren has already sent you an official welcome message here on this tread that you just posted on.

Please allow me to also WELCOME you to Susan's Place.  You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others  and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.
It is nice that you have signed up so you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other members.
When frustrated or if you have successes you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....

***It's a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new friends here. 

Please come in and get involved at your own pace. 
Be sure to look at the Links that our member @KathyLauren    posted below her welcome message, there is information about the site that will help you navigate around and best utilize the features here.
Pay special attention to the LINKS IN RED...
...answers to questions that many new members have can be found there. 

Also, please click on the  Introductions forum  LINK that she provided so you can let more members know of your arrival here on the Forums, thus more opportunities to share information with other like minded members.

Again, Welcome.
Danielle

Thanks for your welcomes and replies / support. I will try to drop by and properly introduce myself soon but I just got in from work and need some dinner! Really does need to be a free trans dating site which is run by trans and uk based...and as previous comments say not just for people with a fetish...im still upset tbh as I was getting close to organising a date with a guy before I was banned and i cant remember his username 😢

Anyway, dinner then bed! Speak soon all!
Sammy