Hey all. I was wondering what you do during moments when dysphoira could and does get triggered and you feel awful. For me as I move forward it seems that I am in many ways more secure with myself, however dysphoira over other things paralyses my thinking. Specificilynwhen I shave or put on new pants and the fabric felt on the birth defected gentials kicks dysphoira. Innotice that my anxiety arousal kicks up high and it is hard to snap out of it. Sadly I'm not quite down face hor removal and I am a while away from surgery. How do you deal with this stuff while not allowing dysphoira or the feeling of less then a woman kick in?

Yeah, I get it sometimes when I put on a pair of stretchy skinny jeans and realize that they show too much.  Or when stubble still shows after shaving.

I grab a handfull of my boobs (OK, not quite a handfull yet, but I grab what's there) and remind myself that I am all girl.  Then I grab a pair of firm control briefs for a better tuck.  Or I do another pass with the razor - my goal is baby's butt smooth - and cover up with some foundation. 

I remind myself that I am going as fast as circumstances will let me.  I am waitlisted for a GRS referral letter appointment someday with the shrink who apparently has the shortest waitlist.  I am doing an hour of electrolysis a week, and my pain threshhold won't allow me to go any faster than that.  I don't like it, but even I am only human.

And I remind myself that I am a proud trans woman, doing all I can to be authentic to myself.  And if other people see a bulge or a bit of a shadow, they can either be accepting or get the heck out of my way. 

Thank you Kathy! I suppose my next question is how can I mature my mind? Beciase when those feelings of disgust take over it is very hard at times to keep a calm and collective mind and every fear and disgust feeling can take over. You're right, but how can my naturally worried mind start to see it in your point of view and be greatful I am where I am? I mean by this time next year my transition could be very well completed! But I still have self esteem issues due to my birth defect. Love

Geez I'm not even sure I guess being only 7 months on hrt (this sunday hits the mark!) i just think it's still early. I mean it's hell (kinda) right now but I guess my coping is thinking of alternatives.

There really isn't much that I know of or what I could do at this point. Everyone is different anyway. I guess lately guys staring at me has been something. I mean it gets annoying and uncomfortable but besides one asking me to "blow" him and a few others mumbling some stuff no one's assaulted me. I know that's a terrible way to think about it. But so far if I've been doing what I'm doing and there's no obvious "backlash" than maybe I'm okay.

I try to just go out for a walk and do something. Even if I'm not doing what I need to do, I think of it as doing something for myself that I want to do. My to do list gets longer but honestly sometimes I just forget about it and I'm okay. The world is still spinning. And then I happen to do something later that I needed to do and it just comes more naturally.

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