Yesterday confirmed my wife's support when she gave me this card for my birthday.  It showed me she understands my gender fluidity.  Inside she professed love forever between us.

Total acceptance here.  I have transitioned to female over the last several years and we celebrated our 27th wedding anniversary last winter.  We are, and always have been, besties.  She is my everything.

My wife told me she talked with 30+ women and not one of them would stay with her transsexual husband. I told her that they are many that are supportive ( when I refer to this forum ). So she challenged my to find a wife that she could see in person to discuss. I will try to find one in local trans groups... Anyway, I don't think she will change her mind because she want a real man in her bed she said. I won't have expectations because she told me that all that she want is to divorce and forget me. We have been together for 12 years including 10 years of marriage and we have 2 children ( Zakary 11 and Elizabeth 10 ). My children don't want to see me anymore. I hope it will change someday because I miss them.

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Dizz  My wife knew when we met, I used to dress as a woman. But out of sight out of mind so it wasn't addressed. About two years ago, I found myself in the middle of a breakdown. I just could not take it any more. Thus ending my 64 year journey to find myself. Back then there was no such thing as transgender woman. Everything about our gender confusion was turned against us as being vulgar. I've read of people having surgeries as far back as 1972. I would have been 21 years old. If I knew what I know now. That our journey really began in the womb. hes There would be nothing to stop me from transitioning. In the meantime we had two kids, two careers. So granted our sex life is not so robust and it really doesn't matter as that is where love really comes in. We understand or try to that a relationship is more than sex. I had my share of it with my first wife. Helping our slow lovelife even lower I began Spiro starting 25 years ago. Bye, bye love life. I had gotten heart failure and Spiro is a diuretic. So we have had a lot of sexual obstacles along our way. But here we are still together. I thought I would have trouble with the kids, millenials. But they said You were my Dad when I was born and you will be my Dad tomorrow, you have to do what feels right for you. I can tell you I no longer have debilitating depression. My wife sees and appreciates the change in my behaviour. I was never violent but I was the king of sarcasm. And that is not real easy to live with either. I sincerely hope things work out. Maybe freezing some sperm will be good enough for her?

From what I understand, there are a lot more s/o's that reject their tg partners than accept them. I am fortunate that my gf does accept me and as a matter of fact wants to marry me, soon(within the next month or so). I have rejected advances and sabotaged past relationships, just because I could not lie or accept rejection I was tg, while presenting as male, until I found my current girlfriend and out of nowhere, she said she accepts me, when I broke it to her. I was kind blown away. Even though I'm on a full dose of hrt/spiro for over 5 years, I present a lot more androgynous. I suspect those that answer are those that found accepting s/o's, then not.

Quote from: dizz on April 30, 2018, 11:25:57 PM
My wife told me she talked with 30+ women and not one of them would stay with her transsexual husband. I told her that they are many that are supportive ( when I refer to this forum ). So she challenged my to find a wife that she could see in person to discuss. I will try to find one in local trans groups... Anyway, I don't think she will change her mind because she want a real man in her bed she said. I won't have expectations because she told me that all that she want is to divorce and forget me. We have been together for 12 years including 10 years of marriage and we have 2 children ( Zakary 11 and Elizabeth 10 ). My children don't want to see me anymore. I hope it will change someday because I miss them.

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This is absolutely heartbreaking , I really hope your children come around and want to see you again. I've heard similar stories before and it turned out the mother was poisoning the kids against the ex partner. (Not that I'm implying she's doing that).

Keep your chin up lovely

Hugs

Marie xx

Quote from: DawnOday on May 01, 2018, 01:00:25 AM
Dizz  My wife knew when we met, I used to dress as a woman. But out of sight out of mind so it wasn't addressed. About two years ago, I found myself in the middle of a breakdown. I just could not take it any more. Thus ending my 64 year journey to find myself. Back then there was no such thing as transgender woman. Everything about our gender confusion was turned against us as being vulgar. I've read of people having surgeries as far back as 1972. I would have been 21 years old. If I knew what I know now. That our journey really began in the womb. hes There would be nothing to stop me from transitioning. In the meantime we had two kids, two careers. So granted our sex life is not so robust and it really doesn't matter as that is where love really comes in. We understand or try to that a relationship is more than sex. I had my share of it with my first wife. Helping our slow lovelife even lower I began Spiro starting 25 years ago. Bye, bye love life. I had gotten heart failure and Spiro is a diuretic. So we have had a lot of sexual obstacles along our way. But here we are still together. I thought I would have trouble with the kids, millenials. But they said You were my Dad when I was born and you will be my Dad tomorrow, you have to do what feels right for you. I can tell you I no longer have debilitating depression. My wife sees and appreciates the change in my behaviour. I was never violent but I was the king of sarcasm. And that is not real easy to live with either. I sincerely hope things work out. Maybe freezing some sperm will be good enough for her?

Thank you for beautiful story. I have heard of one of the first transgender in 1951 named Christine Jorgensen. I don't have faith in our relationship anymore because she keeps telling me that she is eager to be divorced and to forget about me. Well, I will wait to see what will be my future. For now I live in the present and I enjoy being a woman. 2 years ago I thought it was fetishism but now after being full time for 2 weeks I know it isn't.

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Quote from: MarieLouise1982 on May 01, 2018, 02:24:08 AM
This is absolutely heartbreaking , I really hope your children come around and want to see you again. I've heard similar stories before and it turned out the mother was poisoning the kids against the ex partner. (Not that I'm implying she's doing that).

Keep your chin up lovely

Hugs

Marie xx

She is doing that, I have many proofs. Here there is the Director of youth protection that protects youth and can even remove children from a bad environment. I told the proofs the represent and he told me it is in acceptable. I don't want to take them from their mother but I want that to stop.



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Quote from: dizz on May 01, 2018, 02:39:43 AM
She is doing that, I have many proofs. Here there is the Director of youth protection that protects youth and can even remove children from a bad environment. I told the proofs the represent and he told me it is in acceptable. I don't want to take them from their mother but I want that to stop.



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I agree , it's not healthy to raise children in an enviroment full of hate. You have to do what you have to do sometimes , as we all know that in our current situations.

Where are you ? If you don't mind me asking ?

Marie

Quote from: MarieLouise1982 on May 01, 2018, 02:46:24 AM
I agree , it's not healthy to raise children in an enviroment full of hate. You have to do what you have to do sometimes , as we all know that in our current situations.

Where are you ? If you don't mind me asking ?

Marie

I am in Quebec, Canada. I am a french Canadian but I try to do my best in English


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I am in Quebec, Canada. I am a french Canadian but I try to do my best in English


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Well your doing very well at it ........ hi from the uk too 

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Quote from: dizz on April 30, 2018, 11:25:57 PM
My children don't want to see me anymore. I hope it will change someday because I miss them.

My experience is that the mom is very critical in determining the attitude of her kids toward the TG dad. As my wife is supportive of me, my little daughter could accept me more easily. Probably, my two sons were the same.

If you sometimes had to quarrel with your wife, then it is possible that it impacted your kids. I am sorry that your wife is not supportive of me, but you may try again to talk with her.

In my case, one of my 2 sisters has been so much bigot. Except her, my siblings and parents accept me without any serious problem. The attitude varies dependning on the personality and other factors.

barbie~~

Just chiming in.  My wife is super awesome and supportive.  The very first thing she told me was, "I just want you to be happy.". She has enjoyed seeing me become a happy person and a better parent and spouse because of it.  Unfortunately, I am far more girlie than her, so she doesn't take me shopping or give makeup tips.  It's the other way around.

To my mind it seems that there are a lot more supportive spouses/significant others than one would think. However, because there is no heartbreak you don't hear about them as much.

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My roommate when I had SRS at Brassard's was french canadian (he still lives in Thurso).  We chat thru text and snapchat every day still.  My wife and I have gone and stayed with him at his house before.  He is the only friend I made during my trip to Montreal for SRS lol.  All of the girls there were catty and stuck up.  I was the only one that was visited by my wife EVERY DAY that I was there.  She stayed in Laval for 10 days druing my recovery, visiting me every day, and then we drove back to Missouri.  I had to go back the next year for a minor revision and we stayed in Thurso at my friends house.  Your wife seems a bit naive about the fact that many spouses stay with their transitioning mates.  Admittedly, many do not, but that does not mean none stay.

 

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My roommate when I had SRS at Brassard's was french canadian (he still lives in Thurso).  We chat thru text and snapchat every day still.  My wife and I have gone and stayed with him at his house before.  He is the only friend I made during my trip to Montreal for SRS lol.  All of the girls there were catty and stuck up.  I was the only one that was visited by my wife EVERY DAY that I was there.  She stayed in Laval for 10 days druing my recovery, visiting me every day, and then we drove back to Missouri.  I had to go back the next year for a minor revision and we stayed in Thurso at my friends house.  Your wife seems a bit naive about the fact that many spouses stay with their transitioning mates.  Admittedly, many do not, but that does not mean none stay.

Nice, I live north of Montreal but I plan to move to Montreal for more acceptance and more jobs in 2-3 weeks. Also the psychiatrists and psychologists specialized in transgender are at McGill university. The good thing is when we are full time for 1 years with hrt, the SRS is paid by health insurance.

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Quote from: dizz on May 01, 2018, 06:02:00 AM
Nice, I live north of Montreal but I plan to move to Montreal for more acceptance and more jobs in 2-3 weeks. Also the psychiatrists and psychologists specialized in transgender are at McGill university. The good thing is when we are full time for 1 years with hrt, the SRS is paid by health insurance.

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Yes, his surgeries were paid for and I paid for mine out of pocket.

Quote from: ainsley on May 01, 2018, 06:27:06 AM
Yes, his surgeries were paid for and I paid for mine out of pocket.

If it is not indiscreet, can you tell me how much did it cost?

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I think it was 19k or 20k CAD, and of course there were USD to CAD conversions, bank wire fees, and I had to drive up there, so there were also travel and lodging costs, etc.

Quote from: dizz on May 01, 2018, 02:52:51 AM
I am in Quebec, Canada. I am a french Canadian but I try to do my best in English

Any religious influence in her behaviour?

Quote from: AnneK on May 01, 2018, 08:35:34 AM
Any religious influence in her behaviour?

I don't understand what you mean.

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