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Started by ValBeans, May 06, 2018, 09:17:22 AM

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ValBeans

I figured I'd get a hello written out as I've been lurking for a little while and said heck, why not, the whole point of me signing up was to start getting involved in more trans spaces. So.. yeah, here I am. I'm honestly surprised I'd never heard of this place before, as in my teen years I did go looking for these sorts of places, but it's lovely to find such a place even a bit late.

I'm Valerie, a 20 year old MTF, one of the younger folk as far as I've seen in all these introductions - which, has honestly been lovely and inspiring seeing so many older trans folk proudly living out, as in my circles I haven't really known any trans or NB folk over the age of 30 - but seeing so many lovely people starting transition, in transition and firmly looking beautiful and handsome later in years has really made me a lot more hopeful and less unsure how things would go in my later years. I live in south-west London, in England, though I don't plan to stay here for more than a couple more years if all things go well. I'm in a polyamorous relationship with two lovely people from the US, one man I've known for about half my life and has supported me and been patient with all my quirks and issues for far more than I really deserve, and one nonbinary person I met through him that I've known for around three or four years so far who is just as lovely and supportive. My end plan is to migrate to the US and move in permanently with them if possible, despite my apprehensions about the country.

I've suspected myself to be transgender since around 11 - and was probably just unaware before that with all my quirks considered, but only came out around 16-17 as chronic health issues made me prioritise my health first, before I said heck it, I don't want to end up in my 20s and still not on hormones. I only got on those hormones around a year or so ago though as it took a good while to get through the healthcare system, and initially couldnt get help through the adolescent service as apparently it was too late for them to prescribe anything - memorys fuzzy on that one, but eventually I was accepted at the Northhampton gender identity clinic which is a good two hours drive, but worth it for the comparative waiting list to Charing Cross. (A couple months for Northhampton, a couple years for Charing. I would still be waiting today, likely, if I went there!) So, now happily on hormones, had my name officially changed a good two years ago and have been living in role fully since 17, though privately I've been having people call me Valerie, Val (and also Remi in my earlier years) since goodness knows when.

Until now, I haven't really gotten involved in too many trans spaces and communities, as health issues and mental health issues prevented me, though I've been doing better recently and hence decided to start reaching out to new places. I still physically cant really attend anything of the sort, but this hopefully will be a nice start!
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Melanie Jean

Hiya and welcome to Susan's Place, Valerie! I'm glad to see that you discovered this forum, and I look forward to having you join in on the discussions. Enjoy the ride! :D
Love to all.

~Melanie





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Lady Love

Welcome Valerie!

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Northern Star Girl

Hello Val,  Thank you for introducing yourself.  I see that you are new here and have questions and concerns, this is the right place for you to be to find out what others have done that may have been in your circumstances. 
Be aware that there are lots of members here that can identify with the issues that you brought up in your introduction posting. 

WELCOME to Susan's Place.  You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others about your transition and to read about others transitions and their trials, tribulations, and successes in their transition journey. 
It is nice that you have signed up so you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other members.
When frustrated or if you have a successful moment in your journey you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....

***It's a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new friends here. 

Please come in and get involved at your own pace.  Be sure to look at the Links that I posted below, there is information about the site that will help you navigate around and best utilize the features here.
Again, Welcome.
Danielle

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ValBeans

Thank you very much for the welcomes! I'll do my best to get involved, though probably slowly as I still have a fair bit of anxiety on these things even if I'm better at it than I used to. I look forward to getting to know and chatting with y'all, and thank you very much for the links Danielle - I'll have a read through them all after a snooze!
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Alyssa Bree

Hi Valerie!

I love what you said about the older trans folks you've followed on this board!! I want to say that it makes me incredibly happy to see younger people like yourself able to navigate the system and moving forward with their transitions. So so so so much has changed in the last 20 plus years...the breadth, depth and availability of information and the general changes in attitudes towards and acceptance of trans people (even with the current administration here in the US). At your age I had NEVER even been exposed to "transgender" as a concept, much less as something I could actively investigate or do anything about. It is the tide of your generation washing up on Trans Beach (hee hee) that has finally opened things up as wide as they now are. The majority of the loving, supportive people I have in my corner are in their 20s...all 15-20 years younger than me. We laugh, play and hang out together whenever we can. Their working theory about me is that I am psychologically still in my 20s anyway - that 20 plus years of repression while living as a man did not allow me to grow...only after accepting myself as female have I come into my own. Anyway, I love your generation and I can't wait to continue reading about your progression!!!

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Alyssa

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V M

Hi Valerie  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's Place  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M
The main things to remember in life are Love, Kindness, Understanding and Respect - Always make forward progress

Superficial fanny kissing friends are a dime a dozen, a TRUE FRIEND however is PRICELESS


- V M
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BillieC

Hi Valerie,
I'm just starting my journey here today and wanted to reach out to you and say hello. I'm a 55 year young, femme, gender queer trans woman. I've also been one who, for different reasons, has been reluctant to spend much time in trans spaces as well. We'll be able to stay in touch as our journeys unfold. I wish you all the best in the community.
Billie
– Happy to have finally found some peace of mind... if anyone finds the other peaces, please let me know!
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