Hey Ladies -

I am relatively new to this transitioning thing.  It has only been 11 months since I figured me out, and only 6 months on HRT.  It seems I am constantly needing to look forward to another step to try to stay sane!  Recently it was wearing a bit of make up everyday...I put on foundation and very light mascara daily.  It makes me feel feminine and as if I am making progress! 

So what is your most recent step?

Does it ever just become me, normal me?  When did it become just you...no more changes needed.  I want that daily, but I know I am not yet fully Marcie.  I think it was Jenny in her book that wrote...I used to really think wow! I have breasts...now its like, oh yeah I am a woman, I have breasts, of course...

SO have at it!  Let us know what is going on with you and your progress!

Love and Hugs, Marcie

There is always (at least for me) that tiny little voice in the back of the head that 'remembers' when things were different.  I'm just me, living life.. struggles, hardships, and rewards.  Living as who & what I am, no holds barred, all the steps to be taken have long since been taken.   People see me as me, even more importantly to me. (as strange as that sounds coming out). 

This is a journey with many paths to the side and steps up the hill off in the foggy distance.  Where yours ends is whatever path you choose to take   May you find a warm house filled with happiness at YOUR journey's completion, wherever & whatever that is.

My first step was perfume.  It really reduces my dysphoria too.  Then start donating your boy clothes.  I have almost zero boy clothes now.  I have a nice suit that is about it.  Like you I also wear light makeup.  I wear tinted moisturizer, eyeliner, eyeshadow, blush and lipstick, no mascara, don't need it.  Another step is to get your ears pierced.  When you've done that subsequent steps of getting more studs, then coordinating your studs to your outfit.  Then of course graduating to dangly earrings.  I haven't done that yet.  Of course don't forget about weight loss and electrolysis. Both of these are ongoing for me.  Another is no more wallets, get a purse.  Oh, one I did early on was getting androgynous shoes.  Then I donated all my boy shoes.  I did a major step of restoring my hairline just a month ago. I really don't want to wear a wig, so this is impt for me.  Then of course are the various coming outs and name changes. Whew, enough yet?

Good luck!  I hope these give you ideas.  I'll be watching the thread too, as I'm always looking for ways to push the envelope slowly during my transition.

Bari Jo

The latest transition step I've taken was in December 2017, changing my gender on all my identity documents. I'm legally female in all regards.

Probably the last step I accomplished was in Sep 2015 when I had my birth certificate changed. Shortly after due to the continue deterioration of my marriage and out right abuse I moved back in with my parents to finish school. Life pretty much stabilized at some point after that and no one would know I'm trans, if it weren't for my big mouth pretty much telling any and everyone that I know. I like being out and proud about it though, and like to think I've taught quite a few people about trans issues. I was even in a documentary about trans veterans that won an award at this semesters CUNY film festival. The biggest secret I've found to happiness the past few years has been accepting myself for myself. I'm gearing up for a huge step soon once everything gets figured out with scheduling.

Edit: If anyone was interested in the film my friend Lauren shot it and the link is password is Katherine

Hi Marse, I dyed my  hair. No one has noticed at work. I like that. You gotta hang on Girl. You will get there and I will be there when you do, Love.
Moni

Most in the place I am would say GCS, which was just over six months ago. But really I'd say I finished becoming me when I finished my social transition, the last step of which was at work. No more double life! Surgery was important, sure, even essential. But it was more like getting rid of a cancer, not something that changed who I was.

I went to the movies dressed as a woman recently and that was lovely

I relate to exactly the feeling you mean though. Now that I know I do not feel like a woman, I want to... so when I don't have a project in the works to keep moving, I get antsy.

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Latest step it seems, is that I guess I´m winning my battle with our gender clinic. About two months ago I told them to go where the sun doesn´t shine, literally, when they started asking the psychiatric questions and what I felt, basically treating me like mad.

I decided to take care myself, by myself.

Now, I got a call from chief physician who asked how I am doing. I told her, that I´m getting GCS in Thailand in two months and after that, I guess I will move to Norway so that I can get my gender confirmed.

The chief physician told, that there is no need to go to Norway, they will help me to get my gender confirmed. And she also promised, that I don´t need to answer anymore questions, that I don´t like.

So, I guess I won this battle 

Quote from: Mendi on May 08, 2018, 11:34:40 PM
Latest step it seems, is that I guess I´m winning my battle with our gender clinic. About two months ago I told them to go where the sun doesn´t shine, literally, when they started asking the psychiatric questions and what I felt, basically treating me like mad.

I decided to take care myself, by myself.

Now, I got a call from chief physician who asked how I am doing. I told her, that I´m getting GCS in Thailand in two months and after that, I guess I will move to Norway so that I can get my gender confirmed.

The chief physician told, that there is no need to go to Norway, they will help me to get my gender confirmed. And she also promised, that I don´t need to answer anymore questions, that I don´t like.

So, I guess I won this battle 

Glad to hear you're getting the help you need, that's awesome.   One of my nursing instructors told me something decades ago that stuck with me.. "Pick your battles". Some battles aren't worth the mental energy & stress load expended, while others can benefit you greatly.  Sounds like this was a battle that was chosen that worked in your favor.

Hi Marcie,

   I have finally taken an important step or part of one. I turned in the forms and paid the money required by the county to get a name change. I'm waiting for a court date. Prior to that I guess it was going full time and that was almost a year ago on my first road trip.  Some things just take some time to do.

Hugs,
  Laurie

Hey, Marcie!

Today I actually wore a bra with a NuBra look-a-like.  Felt like a side-step, but there were some small victories in it!  Just because I still can't figure out makeup like all you ladies >.<  So, I look very 'ugh' but with a 'ohh' chest lol

No serious, these things aren't much and I got like a A36 bra and it just looks massive from the side, idk




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Started electrolysis to finish of what is left of my facial hair. Damn is it painful!!

I just recently got everything with work squared away, so I can take 2 months off for VFS - my job requires a LOT of talking so I am taking the extra month. I just need to get past this cough I've been stuck with since March and then I can schedule (:

I think there will always be things about yourself that you wish you could change. Personally, I think the most things are to be able to be able to love yourself and to have a partner who fully loves you and treated you the way you deserve. I don't think it was until I met my partner that I really, truly just saw me as me.

Not sure if that helps


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I am very early in my transition so these might seem minor haha but I go to work with my toenails painted...no more boxers...and I take a backpack with me to work and everywhere that is serving as a surrogate purse I guess. I keep lotion, chapstick, etc in there. Small stuff but it meant quite a bit to me.


xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Alyssa

Quote from: Alyssa Bree on May 09, 2018, 06:53:57 PM
I am very early in my transition so these might seem minor haha but I go to work with my toenails painted...no more boxers...and I take a backpack with me to work and everywhere that is serving as a surrogate purse I guess. I keep lotion, chapstick, etc in there. Small stuff but it meant quite a bit to me.


xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Alyssa

That's great to hear, Alyssa!  The surrogate backpack is a great idea! I haven't even thought about a purse or if I'd have one when I'm full-time, but I suppose that would be a really good indicator of female for most on-lookers, eh?  My old school duffle bag acts as my purse right now at home. I don't move it, and my wife hasn't ever touched it in over 7 years, so I am not too worried about her discovering all of my product.

It may be small Alyssa, but I think it's a great step in the right direction! It's like a small feminization step of your belongings and not just you, physically, y'know? I mean, you could throw out all your guy clothes and stuff like that, but that's too sudden, too abrupt to be healthy. For me, once I can finally do my makeup properly, I plan to get some gender-neutral clothing and test how people react to me. Then if things go well with that, I think I'll want to take the plunge into some actual girly clothing.

But it's pretty hard, I think, to wear any actual girl clothes until on HRT for at least a little bit. >.<

What has been my most recent step....good question. I am still working through electrolysis but hopefully in the next few months that will be a thing of the past. Just had a second and final round of hair transplanting done. It has been nearly 8 moths since GCS and the healing is virtually complete. My boobs stopped growing a while ago, or at least slowed way down but I hope that I never get to the point of taking them for granted.

I think my biggest step has been going full time more than a year and a half ago. Since then life just progresses on and I spend far more time just being me than thinking about being me, not sure if that makes since but it is a huge realization. I have been on Susan's for just under 2 years and at that time the idea of spending days at a time just living as me without even thinking about how long ago this became normal. Before you know it, you will realize that transitioning or being read or WTH am I doing.....will not even be a thought in your head. But while you are waiting, enjoy the ride!

By the way, my most recent step was buying my wedding dress a week ago!

Tia Anne

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Quote from: Anne Blake on May 09, 2018, 09:36:45 PM
What has been my most recent step....good question. I am still working through electrolysis but hopefully in the next few months that will be a thing of the past. Just had a second and final round of hair transplanting done. It has been nearly 8 moths since GCS and the healing is virtually complete. My boobs stopped growing a while ago, or at least slowed way down but I hope that I never get to the point of taking them for granted.

I think my biggest step has been going full time more than a year and a half ago. Since then life just progresses on and I spend far more time just being me than thinking about being me, not sure if that makes since but it is a huge realization. I have been on Susan's for just under 2 years and at that time the idea of spending days at a time just living as me without even thinking about how long ago this became normal. Before you know it, you will realize that transitioning or being read or WTH am I doing.....will not even be a thought in your head. But while you are waiting, enjoy the ride!

By the way, my most recent step was buying my wedding dress a week ago!

Tia Anne

Okay so this is probably the most amazing step ever!!! Congratulations and I wanna see!!!!!!!!!!

I can't wait to get to the point where I can enjoy where I am instead of obsessing over transitioning 24/7.


xoxoxoxo
Alyssa

I had my ears pierced yesterday. I went to this lady who usually pierces babies' ears and she was really sweet and tender. She numbed my earlobe with ice packs and it didn't hurt a thing! I'm so happy I'm finally able to wear earrings!

Quote from: Camouflage on May 09, 2018, 11:01:22 PM
I had my ears pierced yesterday. I went to this lady who usually pierces babies' ears and she was really sweet and tender. She numbed my earlobe with ice packs and it didn't hurt a thing! I'm so happy I'm finally able to wear earrings!

Earrings were my break through step about a month and a half ago, it truly is an amazing, affirming thing for some reason.

My most recent step... well, let's see. Would have to be spending a good portion of time around family presenting female. That or the hair transplants scheduled.