Just curious, my friend and I were talking about this a few days ago.
How often do you cry?
How do you feel when you cry?
Is it the same amount as before hormones? I'm curious about everyone regardless of gender identity.



Meghan

I voted "I don't remember the last time I cried," and it bugs me. There are often times when I feel like I'm right on the brink, but the [explicative deleted] tears just won't come. I'm sure I'd feel better sooner if they did.

I used to cry alot more often before hrt. but it was mostly me just full of apathy, with tears streaming down my face, more just tears than actual crying. Whereas now it is a much more dramatic thing. full sobbing, loosing my breath, the whole lot... like a kid throwing a tantrum But it is far less frequent, and certainly feels like a release.

I have to get drunk to cry.

I did not vote because the amount I cry varies so much and has my my entire life. Sometimes things
just build up and it just happens, maybe related to hormone levels more than anything though.

Since starting HRT  I've cried twice, once after being read when I thought I was somewhat
passable and once just because I was so happy to be where I was, having started HRT and
moving forward.

Prior to that it varied. From age 9 to about 25 it was very easy for me to cry and I had to leave the room,
or change the subject very quickly to avoid being caught when I got older. Older teen boys are just
not supposed to cry and it was very hard because I didn't know the reasons (at the time).
My therapist tells me those were normal female emotional responses and she is not surprised I
had them.

Two years ago was horrible, my emotions were on a roller coaster and I cried often. I'd be sitting at
work and have tears running down my face. There was nothing bad in my life to cause it, externally,
but internally I was a mess and I knew that something had to change.

I think I was really coming to terms with GID and at least subconsciously moving forward
knowing I was going to have to do something but still not wanting to. Just writing that is
making me tear up.

When I started thinking more about GID and what was happening internally and why
I was so unhappy the crying stopped pretty much until I started HRT.

Although touching movies have always brought tears regardless of my age. I get so involved and lost
that I lose track that it's just a movie. To this day I don't think my SO knows that I cry during movies.

And "How do I feel"... for the most part it's usually a very good feeling. It's hard to explain but it feels
good to let things out. I know kinda strange

So, that's more than you wanted but there it is

At least once a week, but not for sadness, not mostly. Sometimes I am so happy, elated, etc as well. Funny though, when I was younger I used to cry when I was enraged.

I don't get enraged anymore, and I don't cry when I am angry.

N~

at least once a month where there's a reason to cry

Once in a while I'll just cry and I can't figure out why.  I can get very emotional when I'm inspired.  I rarely cry for sadness.  I sometimes cry when I feel hopeless.

I do cry more now than before I transitioned.  I never cried before that.  It was socially unacceptable and that sentiment even carried through to times I spent alone.

Cindi

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Question:      How often do you typically cry (outside of tragic events, just in normal course of your life)?
At least once a day    - 1 (14.3%)
At least once a week    - 1 (14.3%)
At least once a month    - 3 (42.9%)
Every few months or longer    - 0 (0%)
I don't remember the last time I cried    - 2 (28.6%)
   
Total Voters: 7

Albeit perhaps my life/etc. could be described as a tragic event, but meh. I cry often enough that it isn't note worthy; Which, all in all is "good" it's just that the subjects kind of hurt. Well, actually they hurt a lot, ergo the tears but meh.

Emotions translate into tears for me. The type of emotion doesn't matter: sadness, happiness, gratitude, appreciation, regret... it all translates into tears. Not necessarily Cry Me A River, but... I cry. Every day or so. It's not that something MAKES me cry; it's more like I'm constantly holding them BACK, and something will occasionally break my grip on it. And sometimes I just Let Go.

But it feels good to finally be ALIVE... even when it feels "bad"

~Kate~

EDIT: And ya know what? I can turn the tears on now like a switch. I just did it now for fun, lol. Maybe it's a female talent, lol, I don't know.

I need a good cry every three weeks or so or I become excessively crochety.

So, we've got scheduled bawling sessions now? 

If I'm genuinely upset, I have to be drunk to squeeze out a tear because drinking weakens my defenses.
Now if I'm not upset, if something has touched me so that my heart turns over, I can cry without liquid assistance.

Well I average about once a week now. Which probably a little less than pre-hrt. The three years before starting hrt I would just hit rock bottom start crying even at college or even the people work for. Now it takes someone to upset me and sometimes I get down about my situation and if let myself I can really get stirred up and I find it harder to to quit crying. Oh had trouble with crying over movies before now I definitely cry more and quicker. I feel different ways when crying like hurt, sandiness, uncertainty, and happy bliss(these are great never had them before hrt).

Anna

for me  it very,s for me  some days iam all ok . but others the water work,s run a lot. or if i watch tv shows

like extreame home make over on abc. i just break out . and cry the whole time 

I think I pressed the wrong one. I'm not used to typing on a lap top so I'm a little slow here and I hit the wrong ones. I wanted to press once a day and it came up once a month. I cry for no reason at all and it just comes. I was sitting in my bus the other day, waiting for it to warm up and I thought of my life and started crying, I was happy, but I was crying. Another driver came over and asked me if I was all right and I told her why I was crying and she gave me a big hug and started to cry too. I think that if anymore drivers came over we would have had a party with Kleenex.
Sheila

Well, I  would assume it depends on your level of sensitivity or a particular situation.  Also, let's keep in mind that crying is a need, psychological as well as biological. You need to cry to relief yourself, no?

When do I cry?  all the time.  LOL 

Hmmm...When I'm happy, when I'm extremely frustrated or angry.
When a loved one is going through really hard times; I feel horrible for them, especially because I feel impotent and do not know how to help them.

tink

Quote from: Sheila on March 20, 2008, 09:14:00 PM
I think I pressed the wrong one. I'm not used to typing on a lap top so I'm a little slow here and I hit the wrong ones. I wanted to press once a day and it came up once a month.
Sheila

Sheila, I have to know.... did pressing the wrong one make you cry? 

Cindi

Quote from: Tink on March 20, 2008, 09:19:24 PM
When a loved one is going through really hard times; I feel horrible for them, especially because I feel impotent and do not know how to help them.

Yes! AND... the thing that's terribly embarassing... is I cry every time I see someone ELSE crying! It drives me crazy. I don't even need to know WHY they're crying. They cry. I cry. It's ridiculous, lol, I feel so silly. It's like it's contagious somehow.

~Kate~

Quote from: Kimberly on March 20, 2008, 07:21:39 PM

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Question:      How often do you typically cry (outside of tragic events, just in normal course of your life)?
At least once a day    - 1 (14.3%)
At least once a week    - 1 (14.3%)
At least once a month    - 3 (42.9%)
Every few months or longer    - 0 (0%)
I don't remember the last time I cried    - 2 (28.6%)
   
Total Voters: 7

Albeit perhaps my life/etc. could be described as a tragic event, but meh. I cry often enough that it isn't note worthy; Which, all in all is "good" it's just that the subjects kind of hurt. Well, actually they hurt a lot, ergo the tears but meh.

beth

Quote from: Kate on March 20, 2008, 11:14:09 PM

Quote from: Tink on March 20, 2008, 09:19:24 PM
When a loved one is going through really hard times; I feel horrible for them, especially because I feel impotent and do not know how to help them.

Yes! AND... the thing that's terribly embarrassing... is I cry every time I see someone ELSE crying! It drives me crazy. I don't even need to know WHY they're crying. They cry. I cry. It's ridiculous, lol, I feel so silly. It's like it's contagious somehow.

~Kate~

Yea, I forgot about this one, at times I've been the same way, for me I think it depends how many emotions are bottled up
inside, just waiting under the surface to get released.

I won't get into his politics  but when I see George Bush tear up in front of millions of people I know exactly what he is
feeling and regardless of your feelings about him, you can't help but relate and feel for him. I've been there, and it was
embarrassing, especially in my deep dark denial days.