Hello, I want to apologise for any spelling mistakes my phone likes to work against me.

Yesterday, I came out to my mum, she took it quite well but we both agreed that our GP would not be the best place to goto as he is renown for being really horrible, in which I have personally experienced. Is there any other way I can get the ball rolling to start my transition.

My aditional questions me seem a little rediculous.

I am really worried about how I will age, as I get older will I still develop male facial features or will th ey be more faminine (im only 18 and look really girly tp start with)?

Also I havent found any answers about how exactly your body will change as males are less curvy, do yoy shape out to fit the gender after srs?

And lastly, may be getting a bit ahead of myself here, ive always wanted to be a muscisian in the future and as a male i.have a decent singing voice, woth work will i.be able to succesfully sound like a female singer?

I know these are pretty random but they are all skmething I dknt know the answer too, however the GP is the most important thing. Thank you all for taking the time to read through

*Edit - I failed to mention I am MTF

Hi, TsukiCat!

Welcome to Susan's.

I am happy that your mum is supportive.  Yay, mum!

Your best bet might be to seek out an LGBT group to find a recommendation for a gender therapist.  You will likely need to get referral letters from a therapist anyway, so that will get the ball rolling on that.  Plus the therapist can probably refer you to the right doctors.

At age 18, you are well ahead of the game.  Many of us start in our 50s or 60s.  I was 61 when I started.  Your bone structure is not finalized until about 25, so you might still be able to get some feminization of your bone structure.  However, growth that has already happened cannot be undone.

If your face is feminine already, you will transition beautifully.  Even us old biddies get some good feminization on HRT.

I presume that your voice is already a male adult voice.  With training and practise, you should be able to alter your vocal range somewhat.  It probably will help that you are already a singer.  There is voice feminization surgery, but the outcomes are not reliable, and I would hesitate to recommend it to a singer: it could ruin your singing voice.

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Hiya Kathy, thanks for the reply it has certainly.helped calm the nerves a little. I think my major issues with my apprence comes from a long history of not been ckmfortable about myself.

On a side note, im sure your no old biddie

Im unsure where your based but if by any chance its in the uk could you suggest amy of these groups?

Thanks :3

Quote from: TsukiCat on May 27, 2018, 07:41:46 AM
Im unsure where your based but if by any chance its in the uk could you suggest amy of these groups?

I'm in Canada, so, while our medical system is similar to yours, the details are different.

In the UK, you can get your treatment within the NHS, in which case you will need to get referred (or self-refer) to a Gender Identity Clinic.  Apparently, the service is of good quality, but the wait times are insane.  Some people bypass the wait times by going to a private clinic at their own expense.  Unfortunately, I don't remember the name of the company, nor in what cities they are located.  Hopefully someone from Britain will jump in here.

As I said, an LGBT group should have some of that information.  To find one, your best bet is to google "LGBT + <name of your city>".

Good luck finding resources.  They are out there.

I can't stress enough to find another GP even if they have nothing to do with prescribing your medications. I've had to deal with a GP that insisted that no additional care needed to be provided for transgender individuals, she was a nice doctor, but she was very wrong and fortunately, I knew just enough to know what she was saying wasn't correct. At the time I was locked into her because of insurance issues, but as soon as I had new insurance I dropped her. My current GP may not have much experience with transgender individuals but he is more than willing to learn, in fact, he took a day to attend a seminar in the twin cities when he took me on... that alone speaks volumes for the kind of doctor he is.

As already mentioned a local LGBT group could help, there is a database on line of LGBT friendly providers, but it's far from complete so it may or may not be helpful.

Therapist, you will need one and not all are created equal, don't be afraid to start a new search if you don't connect with them, they along with your support group are going to be vital.

Next, find a good voice coach that specializes in male to female speech patterns, you are probably pretty far ahead of the game being that you already have a trained voice, so it might be more about training new speech patterns into your subconscious then your vocal folds. I don't think it unreasonable to want to be able to sing afterwards, I've seen more than one Youtube video of transgender females who sing.

As to the rest, it is the same genetic crap shoot as the first time you went through puberty, everyone is different, you are going to have parts you love and parts you would love to change. Myself, in 8 months of HRT I am a very full 38B cup, waste is 31" depending on the day, and my hips measure 45"... I'm pretty happy with things so far, my face is another matter completely, but could be worse I mean I am 45. You have a lot of pluses with your age, the younger you start the more female you will look.

What to expect that everyone seems to go through? Your nipples will hurt for a good 6 months, but your skin will come soft and smoother, body hair will get less but will never completely go away (even CIS women have some body hair), keep an eye on your scalp though if you notice an increase in shedding talk to your doctor quickly, you don't want to go to lose half of your hair volume in about six months. Some people experience a change in memory, you will sweat less, your skin could be dryer or turn oily, the list goes on. Wish I could help more, but like I said it's a bit of a genetic crapshoot.