Quote from: SadieBlake on June 06, 2018, 05:14:17 PM
Spunky, maybe you can define "structure" a little better. A bit more than an inch deep (that is going from the introitus) I have what feels like a second muscle ring, it's quite tight for sex play and relaxes only when I'm really aroused. No matter how much girth I take in, it remains tighter than deeper or more shallow. It's been there as long as I've been essentially healed and it's actually quite sensate.
I can't speak to color, there are, however a lot of reasons tissue can be white, including temporary loss of blood perfusion due to pressure.
YES! it's like a muscle ring. It's maybe a mm, or the size of the girth of a bobby pin, in width, but encircles my vaginal canal about an inch, give or take, from the introitus. I wouldn't say that the ring is sensate, but my vagina is super sensate. Sometimes when my BF touches my vagina (I love saying that!), I giggle, squirm, and get aroused. For me, arousal almost feels like getting hard, but that's a poor description. It's hard to reference. It feels great though and when he eats me out, I moan and am in the moment.
When I had sex with a woman with my former penis, which was tiny, like 4 inches erect and smaller in width than the purple dilator, I was never in the moment. I had to pretend she was a man and I was a woman and I actually had a vagina and not a penis. I'm sure most post-op women did this and engaged in disassociated sex. If I couldn't think of having sex with a man and having a vagina, sex was impossible and I could not get hard, unless I thought about sexy men, which I tried not to in general. For whatever reason, I convinced myself I wasn't attracted to men, when I had to suppress instincts and thoughts about kissing and making out with my guy friends.
Anyhoo, I think the structure hurts my ability to have sex. My BF has been super patient. We've had sex twice. Though we have anal intercourse lots and I put things other than money in my mouth lol still, I want to but am still nervous and this ring makes me worry.
I wish I could draw a picture. Think of a canal which is smooth but feels fine, but an inch after the introitous, there is a ring. Two actually. One is smaller and doesn't encircle the whole canal. Dilating isn't hard with the purple one, I haven't lost depth, but I need to use the purple one before I can use the blue one. I could use the blue one, but it would take five minutes to go four inches. With the purple, I can get to 4 inches within 10 seconds. I can insert it to 4.5 to 5 inches within a few mins.
Still, I think if it weren't the ring, sex would be easy.