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How do you guys deal with your sex drive?

Started by Brandon, June 24, 2018, 12:47:51 AM

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Brandon

My endo just uped my dose and literally every since then I could simply see a girl bend over and I am like a dog in heat as my co worker likes to say and she ain't even gotta bend over and I am literally up even be touched a certain way, like I knew my sex drive would rise and get crazy but like not this crazy, how do you guys deal with it or how did you deal with it.
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Ryuichi13

Honestly?  At first, I jerked off every day until I was raw.  Then I HAD to take a break for a few days until I healed.  And when I healed I did it all over again. (^//////^)  It took a number of months until my libido calmed down enough for me to NOT feel the need to jerk off so often. 

I now am on a regular schedule of two to three times a week, with a few days of rest in between so I don't injure my dick any more.  It freakin' HURTS when you rub it raw! 

Unfortunately for me, my transgender SO is unable to have sex currently, so I mostly take myself in hand (lol) when he's not around, since he gets turned on watching me.  I don't like the idea of him getting turned on and not being able to do anything about it for fear of his bad hip (that needs replacing) causing him excruciating pain.

Also, lube is your friend, especially when using toys.  Otherwise, you can injure your new growth, something you DON'T want to do! 

FYI: I found out that there are a number of porn sites that show you what bottom growth looks like, since there are occasionally other men on them that like to "show off" their new growth.  It helped me realize before I got my own growth what to expect.

OTOH, I now understand why cis men like to show off their dicks.  I walk around the house with mine hanging out every now and then.  Even if it maynever be cis-male size, it still makes me feel super-manly. :) 

Ryuichi



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Hughie

A whole lot of wanking, since I don't have a partner. Which is probably good because they'd be annoyed with me. ;)

I had a spike in my sex drive in early days, then some shenanigans with my T dose too low, and now that it's about what it should be I'm seriously turned on most of the time. It's a fun contrast to my old female life where I was completely shut down in that department. I feel like I'm making up for lost time, ha.


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DustKitten

Trans girl here, but just wanted to agree with the guys that already answered and say that in my experience, most cis and trans men use masturbation to keep their sex drive down. Better to vent privately than rage publicly, if that makes any sense.

If you have or can find an SO, that would obviously help too, but casual sex can help short-term if you're comfortable with it. Just don't expect your libido to disappear for more than a day or two afterwards. :)
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Janes Groove

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Kylo

Take matters 'in hand', or distract yourself with doing something else. Anything physical or important is a good mental distraction. I can steer my brain away from it if need be, before the "effects" of arousal physically kick in. But has to be in the first seconds. If I allow any of those effects to be indulged though it'll have its hooks in and blue balls ensue

It'll calm down eventually. Although as male it'll never be absent, so long as you are using hormones. Just a fact of life for men.

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Doreen

Quote from: Kylo on June 24, 2018, 02:00:25 PM
Take matters 'in hand', or distract yourself with doing something else. Anything physical or important is a good mental distraction. I can steer my brain away from it if need be, before the "effects" of arousal physically kick in. But has to be in the first seconds. If I allow any of those effects to be indulged though it'll have its hooks in and blue balls ensue

It'll calm down eventually. Although as male it'll never be absent, so long as you are using hormones. Just a fact of life for men.

In my experiences ya.. masturbation keeps the rage in check.  Even though I don't act on it (other than self induced) I still have a crazy high sex drive.  Even with my stuff 'fixed' to girl style, no testosterone, etc.. it only got worse (or maybe some would argue better) over the years.

I'm one weird biological case, but ya... do something with it seems to be the answer.  Ignoring it makes some nights very difficult to say the least.
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Dean Thoreau

Holy crap,,,,
When I first started T it was stimulating and the gf did not mind.... but at 100 a week, 2 days after the shot, I am going insane... I need some casual hookups, good god,,,, women men TTT Ftm mtf at this stage I don't care.....>.. just need to,,, get some relief...
I have looked on all kinds of pick up sites and am finding nothing, I'm willing to... accept, I mean I am somewhat picky, ...good god the photos on the sites we're sending  electric waves  into my jock...
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Ryuichi13

Personally, I've not had any trouble with "rage," or anything along those lines.  I've been a little less prone to tolerating bull->-bleeped-<-, but I think that T has just made me able to actually say what I'm thinking, instead of just thinking it like pre-T me used to do.


Quote from: Dean Thoreau on June 24, 2018, 06:26:51 PM
Holy crap,,,,
When I first started T it was stimulating and the gf did not mind.... but at 100 a week, 2 days after the shot, I am going insane... I need some casual hookups, good god,,,, women men TTT Ftm mtf at this stage I don't care.....>.. just need to,,, get some relief...
I have looked on all kinds of pick up sites and am finding nothing, I'm willing to... accept, I mean I am somewhat picky, ...good god the photos on the sites we're sending  electric waves  into my jock...
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Seriously dude, I wouldn't recommend the "casual hookups" if you have a gf.  I'd "take things in hand," as in masturbation, four or five times a day if you have to.  Just don't let yourself get too raw, you don't want that kind of pain, trust me!  :-\  And like I said before, "Lube is your friend!"  It'll help lessen you rubbing yourself raw.  ;)

Good luck, bro!

Ryuichi




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Brandon

Man I already jack off almost 24/7, sometimes it gets difficult to manage, especially in public or when I am at work, honestly I have turned into a complete horndog and I realize women way more than I ever did but I know that's normal, it's like a part of me like being turned on this easily, I like thatg a woman's touch can drive me insane tbh but it gets annoying sometimes lol.
keep working hard and you can get anything you want.    -Aaliyah
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graspthesanity

Masturbation. Masturbation. Masturbation.

I have a partner but his sex drive is nowhere close my needs which is pretty much humping walls during any chance I get. I'm also poly, so you could discuss opening up the relationship for casual hook ups. I've just been unlucky recently with hook ups, so it's my partner and masturbation currently.

But don't feel bad, it's natural really to be this horny. I can't say if it passes, as I'm still humping walls at the moment  ;D

Ryuichi13

Quote from: graspthesanity on June 28, 2018, 08:16:28 AM
Masturbation. Masturbation. Masturbation.

I have a partner but his sex drive is nowhere close my needs which is pretty much humping walls during any chance I get. I'm also poly, so you could discuss opening up the relationship for casual hook ups. I've just been unlucky recently with hook ups, so it's my partner and masturbation currently.

But don't feel bad, it's natural really to be this horny. I can't say if it passes, as I'm still humping walls at the moment  ;D

"Humping walls!" ;D  That wounds about right! 

The only reason I don't jerk off as much as I'd love like to is the soreness factor.  Otherwise, every day, all day every night, all night!  ;)

Ryuichi


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Dena

How do CIS males deal with it? Look but don't touch and that explains the bulge you often see in pants. The other solution is to concentrate on a hobby, work, sports or some other non sexual activity. Probably starting out with low levels and then ramping up over many months helps to train the mind to disregard the constant itch but fooling around on the side happens so not everybody is successful doing so.
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Brandon

Man I already jack off almost 24/7, sometimes it gets difficult to manage, especially in public or when I am at work, honestly I have turned into a complete horndog and I sexualize women way more than I ever did but I know that's normal, it's like a part of me likes being turned on this easily, I like that a woman's touch can drive me insane tbh but it gets annoying sometimes lol.
keep working hard and you can get anything you want.    -Aaliyah
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SeptagonScars

My sex drive is really up in the roof pretty much all the time. Just the mention of anything sex, or of nudity, gets me super horny, even if it's just medical anatomy education stuff. I masturbate at least once a day, but never more than 7 times/day. Usually it's 1-3 times/day. But I'm still horny all the time.

How I deal with that is:
- fantasies
- distraction distraction distraction!
- gently pinch myself in my crotch, not hard at all, but just enough to pretty much tell myself "down boy"
- plan on jerking off when having gotten back home again if I'm away, so I can look forward to it then but not have it right away, that way I can hold it off for... well up to 24 hours
- experimenting with different kinds of sex toys and watching different kinds of porn, and kinda making jerking off into a hobby
- meet some random dudes from online for sex from time to time so I can get some partner sex and real human touch every once in a while, while being this hopelessly single, and hope someone will eventually want to become a friend with benefits or something!
- telling myself it's not actually so bad to just be horny and not doing anything about it, that it actually feels kinda nice?

One thing though, if I masturbate more often (like 3+ times/day) it actually increases my sex drive even more and I get completely insatiable... not sure if that's just me though!

Since I'm gay though, I never really feel bad about randomly fantasising about every man I see when out and about, cause they don't seem to think that's what's on my mind if I accidentally stare a little too long. Like maybe guys are more likely to assume I'm not into them than girls would be. Or maybe I'm just lucky and they don't mind it or care.
Mar. 2009 - came out as ftm
Nov. 2009 - changed my name to John
Mar. 2010 - diagnosed with GID
Aug. 2010 - started T, then stopped after 1 year
Aug. 2013 - started T again, kept taking it since
Mar. 2014 - top surgery
Dec. 2014 - legal gender marker changed to male
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Jul. 2018 - came out as cis woman and began detransition
Sep. 2018 - stopped taking T and changed my name to Laura
Oct. 2018 - got new ID-card

Medical Detransition plans: breast reconstruction surgery, change legal gender back to female.
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AquaWhatever

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abcdq96

I got a "fascination sleeve" from GenderCat. It's amazing. It comes in 3 different sizes. It's textured and designed for, uh, suction. Put some lube in, it honestly has helped me so much and I just got it last week.
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