Hey everyone,

I am in the process of changing the opinion of my Tiny Town of 200 out in the middle of nowhere.
I hope it ends up like the older movie To Wong Foo Thanks for Everything Julie Newmar.
It's a little different though I would be the first trans woman in this little tiny town ever. I believe I can sway the opinion of the majority of the population here by presenting fact first before opinions are formed.
I do have a girlfriend here my very first that knows everything but I recently came out to a couple of friends very slowly as such.
I strongly believe that myself and my sister that's 2 years older we're exposed in our mother's womb to DES.
My sister just told me the other day that she had some pre-cancerous cells removed that would have certainly turned into cervical cancer. This is how I led into it slowly telling my two friends here that I also was exposed to this drug and explained to them that inside my mother's womb that had this man-made synthetic estrogen in with me resulted in my developing brain being deprived testosterone. The genetic blueprint of XY chromosomes was already laid out but due to the brains complexity and having the testosterone flow to it interrupted resulted in me having this male body but with a female brain.
It's really quite simple
They listened to me about this explanation and I believe they bought it completely which is absolutely true.
Throughout human history the unknown has been feared and discriminated  against
But me providing a scientific logical explanation for me has taken away some of the social taboos that are normally associated with this.
I'm attempting to sway the opinions of the majority in this town by providing this explanation so far so good it seems to be working I know that there will be those who will never have an open mind but that's okay I believe I'm starting to sway some over to support me and accept me I don't know for sure if it'll work, it worked on the two I told and I'm sure they'll tell others because gossip in a small town is all we got to do.  it'll spread like wildfire.
Everyone here's already seen me dressed up for many years around Halloween I really do the same thing dressing as female for about a week before but going full time is a little different.
It's kind of an interesting social experiment that I'll keep you informed how it goes
I'm sure to most of the urban members out here it sounds kind of unimaginable but I'm going to make it happen. Come hell or high water
I'll be sure and keep you posted how it's going

Love y'all Tatiana

Hi Tatiana.  I hope that you succeed.  I'll bet that you do.  Some people will be easier than others but I have a feeling that nice people live in nice places.

Hi Tatiana,

  I admire your ambition and hope your strategy does work out for you. You may be interested in @KathyLauren 's story. She too is in a smaller town in Nova Scotia. Her coming out was a success as far as I remember. But then again she is in Canada, not in the USA. There just maybe more of a negative influence here towards us. The administration and certain religious groups that are actively working to marginalize us hasn't helped our efforts to become accepted and treated fairly. It is as if we are not seen as fellow human beings. I do hope you are successful in your efforts, though DES is not the complete answer in why we are different.

Hugs,
  Laurie

Hi, Tatiana.

While I suspect I am a result of DES too, I haven't bothered to tell people around here.  Too much information.  I live in a small rural community of about 300 people.  The folks here are farmers, fishermen, and hillbillies.  I doubt if they would be impressed by scientific information.

Nevertheless, my coming out went very smoothly, and the people are supportive or accepting.  I have had no hassles at all.  It helped that I lived in the community for two years, and was active in several volunteer organizations, before coming out.  So I was already accepted as "one of them", even though I was never a farmer, fishreman or hillbilly.

I haven't changed what I do since coming out.  I dress as a respectable woman of my age, I go to the weekly coffee group, and I am still on the volunteer fire department.  I am just there, as I always was, so aside from my name, pronouns and appearance, nothing has changed.  They can see that I am still the same person I always was, not some circus freak.  That in itself makes it "no big deal" and therefore easier for people to accept.

I don't think there were a lot of social taboos around transgender people in this area.  I am certainly the first transgender person to come out in this village, though there are others in surrounding towns.  It helped that the Canadian government was passing legislation to protect us at about the time I came out.  There would have been awareness that we exist as a marginalized group in need of protection, without there being any negative experiences to colour their perception.

Good luck going full-time!

Hey gals thanks so much for your response

To Mary
You're right sweetie I do think I have kind of an advantage compared to living in the big city where I came from.
We are just a product of our environments and this is a beautiful environment and it's just worlds apart from living in the big city everyone here waves every time you go by it's just natural.
I believe this will help me immensely.

And to Laurie
thanks so much for your words of encouragement they are well received.
You're right the DES story is not right for everyone certainly this has existed as long as Humanity has and always will. It merely provided me with a near-perfect explanation that really lit my fuse.
I have always been very religious and have experienced the personal miracle that I posted in the spirituality forum. I was raised in a strict Catholic home, then 12 years at a Catholic School then a little College and have a pretty good knowledge of that faith but to me it all comes down to, what would Jesus do, would he cast us out certainly not he would except everyone unconditionally so I'm really not too affected by any negative religious groups.

And to Kathy
Wow I think we live in kind of similar communities but here it's the old time-tested traditional ways of logging and mining, but the mining is kind of fading out as only two mines are left up here.
It's really mainly logging now that I actually was involved with being trained in the big city as a diesel engine truck heavy equipment mechanic that I never really wanted but was shoved into it because my dad was a mechanic. But I did it excell in it
The big city though provided me with much specialized training and much experience that made me pretty marketable anywhere where trucks and Equipment are used and that's just about anywhere.
My story is a little different though than yours we've already established a very sound acceptance in our community because we've lived here for 25 years and you know how it is in a small town everybody knows everything about you. Everyone here is our friend and we participate in everything up here community-related. Every time I go out I present a little more than the last time and it's really funny because no one really notices they know the real you as they have for the last 25 years and I think I might not have it too bad though I know some will never accept me and that's fine but I'm working to swing the majority to my side because they're already used to the real me and just because I got some femmi hairdo it really doesn't matter it's really quite interesting. I just go on as usual as I always have and slowly expose the real me but I think the cats out of the bag because you know how gossip is in a small town. We have always really fit in here and everyone just loves my wife's attitude I don't think I'll have much resistance other than a possible tourist in the summer.
As the first trans woman to ever be Unleashed on this small town I'll do my best as kind of a pioneer to promote us with class Pride  dignity and Grace. I do really look up to Alaskan Danielle as I see her as a Class Act and will try to follow in her footsteps as best I can but I know I set the bar pretty high with her but I will do my best not to disappoint.
I know the cats out of the bag but you know what, nothing's really changed all I get is smiles and waves as I always have and suspect I always will.

Thanks so much ladies for your support and words of wisdom I'll be sure to let you know how everything turns out but it's already looking like Paradise found. I think it's going to get better though hopefully be on blockers and E within a couple months.

  Love ya all.   Tatiana

Hey everyone

Just thought I'd let you know
I now have 4 new girl friends
And 2 boy friends. These are people l have already been friends with for many years. But now know about what is going to happen in my future
And the general feeling was,
What took so long.
this is very inspirational to me.
Only about 193 to go,  but surely this spread out into the community.
All I get is Just Smiles and waves as I have received for the last 25 years.

Tatiana 

Quote from: Tatiana 79 on May 11, 2018, 06:03:24 AM
Hey everyone

Just thought I'd let you know
I now have 4 new girl friends
And 2 boy friends. These are people l have already been friends with for many years. But now know about what is going to happen in my future
And the general feeling was,
What took so long.
this is very inspirational to me.

Only about 193 to go,  but surely this spread out into the community.
All I get is Just Smiles and waves as I have received for the last 25 years.

Tatiana

Tatiana:  Well... your report about where you live is very good news, and it is certainly a big relief to not have the heavy burden of your male past to haunt you.  Same thing with myself and most likely @KathyLauren ... and others here that live in very small communities.
 
When I first moved to my small town as a full-time trans woman I was soon thinking that perhaps I had made a mistake coming to such a very small and remote conservative place to live, thinking that maybe I should have relocated to a large city where I could get lost in the crowd.....  but being here has become a real blessing, I made new friends and acquaintances very quickly, much more quickly that in a big city jungle.   It is my own experience that very few people have a negative reaction about my past as long as I dress and act responsibly and don't shove my trans-woman status in their face and make an issue out it.  Live and let live seems to be the rule here.

I am very happy for you Tatiana....  I am looking forward to following your progress
Hugs,
Danielle

Thanks Danielle so much
Mary T suggested that if we live in a beautiful environment it'll create beautiful people.
We are just a product of our environment and I know when I lived near Detroit the crowd near the Ambassador Bridge was pretty rough as was the environment.
I really believe we have it easier because of this.

But OMG just a few minutes ago I had a miracle
My wife was talking to one of her friends relatively new to this area maybe one year and never really seen me before dressed as my identity exposed. She's super open-minded and while she was talking to my wife on the phone I just grabbed the phone at the end and started talking to her. I thought this one would be tough but I started my whole explanation that led to me and it was miraculous. The whole time we were talking she got in her car and drove over here and then just said knock knock and all three dogs were barking and she just showed up in front of my house and we talked on the deck for about a half an hour and she was just super she felt so honored by me coming out to her
Total acceptance and support now with my new girlfriend Cheryl has really got the endorphins flowing in my body and I feel wonderful. The other people I told allready knew who I was but Cheryl really didn't and I'm so pumped up now that my little plan is working and she even told me that I will encounter very little resistance in this town.
We were all talking on the deck my wife also on a beautiful day I let my Alaskan Malamute out and we were both Running Free literally but then he took off back in the woods and he always heads in the swamp so our little get-together unfortunately ended so I have to go out after him to my deer tree stand that's just has stunning views around it and a Little time to think about things I was up there for about an hour and then my  dog, Thor showed up and I'm back home.
I'm so pumped up now by her total acceptance that it's giving me more courage and I think my transition up here is going to be cushy and I hope a lot easier that I was thinking.

Thanks Danielle so much for your response things are going better than expected and I'm really super pumped up because of it

I'll be sure and let you know what's going on but I am just flying high right now everything is just beautiful things look better than ever.
Love,ya  Tatiana

Hey  everyone
I really don't know if this is the right  thing to do but its definitely off to an encouraging start
Gaining more and more support, it's just thrilling I got a couple more personal contacts

My wife installed face book on my phone as my new trans friend suggested and I'm on it.
I don't have a clue what I'm doing I didn't realize it would put me out there with everyone else in my contacts and the surrounding community as Tatiana North with phone number.

I just got a friend request from someone I knew but not as my name here, ,it really feels awesome but due to my ignorance  I think everyone is going to figure it out by my phone number.

If someone could please help me out understanding the ramifications which I have  set in motion.
I would tremendously appreciate it, could anyone  take a little time out to help me understand this.

But I'm going to stick to my, I don't care attitude as I have often preached.

Sincerely Tatiana

Quote from: Tatiana 79 on May 13, 2018, 03:06:01 PM
Hey  everyone
I really don't know if this is the right  thing to do but its definitely off to an encouraging start
Gaining more and more support, it's just thrilling I got a couple more personal contacts

My wife installed face book on my phone as my new trans friend suggested and I'm on it.
I don't have a clue what I'm doing I didn't realize it would put me out there with everyone else in my contacts and the surrounding community as Tatiana North with phone number.

I just got a friend request from someone I knew but not as my name here, ,it really feels awesome but due to my ignorance  I think everyone is going to figure it out by my phone number.

If someone could please help me out understanding the ramifications which I have  set in motion.
I would tremendously appreciate it, could anyone  take a little time out to help me understand this.

But I'm going to stick to my, I don't care attitude as I have often preached.

Sincerely Tatiana

Tatiana:  You can adjust the Facebook privacy settings to hide your phone number, hide your email, hide you specific photos and also to hide your friends list and you can create exceptions....   

Welcome to the internet age where Facebook has more information about more people than does the CIA and FBI !!!!!
Be certain to look into the FB privacy settings to tailor them to your comfort level.

Hugs,
Danielle

Thanks Danielle
My wife's telling me leave it alone, see's daring me to leave alone.

She might be right

I'm not sure what I'm going to do, I probably will let it go, I'll definitely look into it

Thanks so much for your response, much appreciated
   Hope you're having great day up in Gods country
   Most Sincerely   Tatiana

Hello anyone

I just had to conclude this thread, I have had so many positive responses I can't list them all. I have had deep conversations
With all of them and had so much positive caring feeling that I am completely blown away. I have got over a dozen people well known in the town that are over the top supportive that said they will watch my back. Plus many others
I feel very lucky to live in this tiny town with only one general store that is the only gathering point here, I go there almost every day and nothing has changed but my appearance. I have been ever so slowly feming up my presentation but no one really noticed, a few locals have but nothing has said much to me. Every one here is so friendly all I get is smiles and waves.
To me it seems like I have got the core of town that accepts me and said they will have my 6, how cool is that. And I just started

It just seems that every thing is fitting together very well and this is my time for self exploration and transition.
This experiment so far has been beyond my expectations. But this is real life to me not a lab experiment.
I would expect this to continue in the future but time will tell.

     Most sincerelyTatianana

Quote from: Tatiana 79 on May 19, 2018, 06:57:01 PM
Hello anyone

I just had to conclude this thread, I have had so many positive responses I can't list them all. I have had deep conversations
With all of them and had so much positive caring feeling that I am completely blown away. I have got over a dozen people well known in the town that are over the top supportive that said they will watch my back. Plus many others
I feel very lucky to live in this tiny town with only one general store that is the only gathering point here, I go there almost every day and nothing has changed but my appearance. I have been ever so slowly feming up my presentation but no one really noticed, a few locals have but nothing has said much to me. Every one here is so friendly all I get is smiles and waves.
To me it seems like I have got the core of town that accepts me and said they will have my 6, how cool is that. And I just started

It just seems that every thing is fitting together very well and this is my time for self exploration and transition.
This experiment so far has been beyond my expectations. But this is real life to me not a lab experiment.
I would expect this to continue in the future but time will tell.

     Most sincerelyTatianana

@Tatiana 79   Just what do you mean that you ...had to conclude this thread....
Please continue on with your interesting updates about your transition and your life up there in the rural UP of Michigan...
We are looking for your updates and maybe more pictures as you feel comfortable posting them.
Hugs,
Danielle

Thank you so very much Danielle

But after a lifetime of never really never fitting into any group is only natural it still persists now even though we kind of have a little family here.
My few weeks here and with trans experience makes me feel so lacking in proper procall and banter.
I end up sounding super deep, like I'm from mars or something. But I guess this is who I really am.

But I would imagine everyone had there own learning curve here at first
And feeling of place.
To tell you the truth I didn't really know if it was appropriate to keep the thread going and for how long.
I just didn't feel obligated to add to it each day if nothing earth-shattering has happened but every day it is kind of interesting what occurs.

Okay Danielle you know how it is in a small town well here I would say that 90% of all the clothes worn by men or women are really the same like hoodies t-shirts and jeans seem to fit this percentage. In 25 years of living here I don't know if I've ever seen high heels because they don't work good in the mud the only one in dresses would be a few tourists in the summertime that's it.
My wife and I also dress about the same but she is far more flamboyant than me. I know this is far from going out full time for me but it's a start, by the way I'm pre everything so it is a challenge being cursed without having a femmie body. But you know what, the core of people I'm out to show no difference and it seems to be contagious and spreading so I will continue this thread as you suggested and others because emerging into my little town is kind of like a soap opera and getting quite interesting.I do maintain much more feminine total package most of time at home and no longer fear the once dreaded knock on the door, if its one of my friends, that it is most of the time I remain the same and interact just as usual.
This mere start of my journey just in my head for the last several weeks has left me sleeping far better feeling better and have tremendous hope for the future so I know something's working I can't wait to feel more.

Thank you so much Danielle you are such a sweetheart and you steered me correctly in the past.
I really felt the interest for this thread was waning so I was just going to let it go.

Thanks for making me feel like I  count

  All the best to you my Northern neighbor love Tatiana

@Tatiana 79
Tatiana:  YES, please keep your personal thread updated as often as you care to. 
You certainly do NOT need to "add to it each day" ...
...and for sure it is appropriate to keep it going even without "earth shattering" daily events.   
Look around at the other personal threads... many of the entrees are everyday happenings, expressions of joy, happiness, sadness, disappointments, frustrations, and successes.... and some pictures as the member feels led to put on their reply posting.

You were correct in stating that we indeed have a "little family here" on the Forums with other like minded members.... and no worries, you indeed "fit in" just like the rest of us.

Hang in there with striving toward your transition goals... so many of us start out our transition with how we dress, act and groom ourselves long before we start HRT, so you are definitely not any different in that regard.

YES, YOU DO COUNT !!!!!   I am always eagerly looking for and following your updates.
Keep on keeping on....
...and post here only as often as you feel comfortable doing... NO PRESSURE!!! Understand?
Hugs,
Danielle

Quote from: Tatiana 79 on May 22, 2018, 09:01:30 AM
Thank you so very much Danielle

But after a lifetime of never really never fitting into any group is only natural it still persists now even though we kind of have a little family here.
My few weeks here and with trans experience makes me feel so lacking in proper procall and banter.
I end up sounding super deep, like I'm from mars or something. But I guess this is who I really am.

But I would imagine everyone had there own learning curve here at first
And feeling of place.
To tell you the truth I didn't really know if it was appropriate to keep the thread going and for how long.
I just didn't feel obligated to add to it each day if nothing earth-shattering has happened but every day it is kind of interesting what occurs.

Okay Danielle you know how it is in a small town well here I would say that 90% of all the clothes worn by men or women are really the same like hoodies t-shirts and jeans seem to fit this percentage. In 25 years of living here I don't know if I've ever seen high heels because they don't work good in the mud the only one in dresses would be a few tourists in the summertime that's it.
My wife and I also dress about the same but she is far more flamboyant than me. I know this is far from going out full time for me but it's a start, by the way I'm pre everything so it is a challenge being cursed without having a femmie body. But you know what, the core of people I'm out to show no difference and it seems to be contagious and spreading so I will continue this thread as you suggested and others because emerging into my little town is kind of like a soap opera and getting quite interesting.I do maintain much more feminine total package most of time at home and no longer fear the once dreaded knock on the door, if its one of my friends, that it is most of the time I remain the same and interact just as usual.
This mere start of my journey just in my head for the last several weeks has left me sleeping far better feeling better and have tremendous hope for the future so I know something's working I can't wait to feel more.

Thank you so much Danielle you are such a sweetheart and you steered me correctly in the past.
I really felt the interest for this thread was waning so I was just going to let it go.

Thanks for making me feel like I  count

  All the best to you my Northern neighbor love Tatiana

Hi Tatiana,                  22 May 2018

Today is my first time reading your thread. I enjoyed it and know you will do well and will be OK. You have a wonderful attitude so you can't miss. Below is a quote from reply # 6 written by Danielle. I think it good advice for all of us; here it is:

"It is my own experience that very few people have a negative reaction about my past as long as I dress and act responsibly and don't shove my trans-woman status in their face and make an issue out it.  Live and let live seems to be the rule here."

That is some of the best advice I have ever seen anywhere.

You are very lucky to have your wife with you and as your #1 supporter. Take good care of her, she is the best asset you have.

Best Always, Love
Christine

Hey thanks so much Christine,

I'm gland you had some entertainment out of my topic.
It probably sounds if it is kind of crazy especially to those who live in it Urban environment.
The problem is that I only had a few weeks experience with the Trans community I really don't know what's right or wrong I just kind of do it but that's how I have always been.
I would have thought I would have kept it deeply hidden for as many years as possible without exposing it  but I have had such a powerful moment of seeing and feeling like the real me I couldn't even contain it and other people noticed a change in me.

And I absolutely will keep my  presentation to the bare minimal even leaving it questionable to not leave an undesirable affect on the strangers that don't know me and also everyone that does.

  thanks gals for your supporting wisdom that I definitely will set for a goal.
Take care Tatiana

Quote from: Tatiana 79 on May 22, 2018, 12:50:30 PM
Hey thanks so much Christine,

I'm gland you had some entertainment out of my topic.
It probably sounds if it is kind of crazy especially to those who live in it Urban environment.
The problem is that I only had a few weeks experience with the Trans community I really don't know what's right or wrong I just kind of do it but that's how I have always been.
I would have thought I would have kept it deeply hidden for as many years as possible without exposing it  but I have had such a powerful moment of seeing and feeling like the real me I couldn't even contain it and other people noticed a change in me.

And I absolutely will keep my  presentation to the bare minimal even leaving it questionable to not leave an undesirable affect on the strangers that don't know me and also everyone that does.

  thanks gals for your supporting wisdom that I definitely will set for a goal.
Take care Tatiana

Hi Tatiana,                  22 May 2018

Thank you very much. Live how you want to live, be happy and don't do anything to cause harm to another person. That doesn't mean you have to hide your true self; if someone doesn't like what you do it's none of their business. You are not causing them harm, they are causing harm to themselves and everyone around them. Ignore their phobias and be nice to them; that way you win and they don't.

Present as who you are and who you want to be. Most people who are critical of us are ignorant about us. They have probably never met one of us, only knowing what some transphobe spewed out to them. No matter what we do in this life, there will be someone that will complain. Thick skin and a smile works wonders.

You are a beautiful young lady, enjoy your's and your wife's journey on the Transition Highway. It's the best road I have ever traveled.

Best Always, Love,
Christine

@Tatiana 79
Dear Tatiana:   Where have you been dear???   You obviously have not posted here on your thread for over a month now.... and your very last postings on other various threads on the Forums were over a week ago on June 15th.

I sincerely hope that all is OK and that you are just occupied with summer activities and with life.   
Please update soon if you feel so led.   Your followers and readers, me included, want to hear all about what you have been up to lately.... 
I really miss reading your interesting, always thoughtful, and always upbeat and happy postings on the Forums....

***NOTE:  I am giving you advance notice that I will send you a PM if I don't hear from you soon... if you don't want to post, please, at the very least, send me a PM and let me know that all is OK in your world... and I promise you that if you do that I won't bug you any more.... oh, I will bug you, but I will give you some space for a while.

Love ya girl...
Hugs and well wishes to you, as always,
Danielle

Absolutely brilliant work Tatiana, i was thrilled reading the ups and not many downs of this thread. Glad it's going so well for you and long may it continue...

If you recall since I came out on social media, a trans person (m2f) who was thinking of moving to my area but was previously afraid of possible small town reaction has now decided she will in the near future. A local shopkeeper told me that my honesty and revelation "opened the door" for someone else. So, this coming out process is like dropping a tiny pebble in the ocean, which eventually becomes a wave...

I'm also in the process of slowly dressing a bit more in public, a little bit at a time. Outing myself was the best thing I done though, as it's not going to be a major shock to anyone now. ( Having a rocker image also helps, as people are already used to seeing me with long hair, guy-liner, painted nails, heeled boots, skinny girl jeans etc...) Those who know me on social media told everyone else who didn't, within days. Such is the small town gossip, as you'll well know. lol This time it worked in my favour, just like your excellent plan.

More power to you girl!