This is a touchy subject I am sure.  I'm also not posting on my regular thread since my mom reads that and I want to discuss with just us for now.  I'm having a difficult time recently with libido.  Everything is shall we say too functional.  I'm not talking of down there, I'm talking mental too.  Im shall we say "On all the time".  I can't seem to go a few minutes without thinking about it.  Then I think I'm 47, there's no way I can follow through with the thoughts I have.  I used to have these thoughts in my teens and buried them since I was in denial.  Now that I'm not in denial, it's so hard.  Please tell me others are dealing with this, and have found ways to deal, or even that it's possible to have the fun i missed out on as a teen?

Bari Jo

Quote from: Bari Jo on July 08, 2018, 07:44:38 PM
This is a touchy subject I am sure.  I'm also not posting on my regular thread since my mom reads that and I want to discuss with just us for now.  I'm having a difficult time recently with libido.  Everything is shall we say too functional.  I'm not talking of down there, I'm talking mental too.  Im shall we say "On all the time".  I can't seem to go a few minutes without thinking about it.  Then I think I'm 47, there's no way I can follow through with the thoughts I have.  I used to have these thoughts in my teens and buried them since I was in denial.  Now that I'm not in denial, it's so hard.  Please tell me others are dealing with this, and have found ways to deal, or even that it's possible to have the fun i missed out on as a teen?

Bari Jo

Well I do have an increased libido being single and shy the only way I have found to honestly deal with the issue and this is embarrassing but simple masturbation even though I plan to get rid of it doesn't mean I can't use it until I do at least that's really how I see it lol

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Quote from: Arianna Valentine on July 08, 2018, 07:55:16 PM
Well I do have an increased libido being single and shy the only way I have found to honestly deal with the issue and this is embarrassing but simple masturbation even though I plan to get rid of it doesn't mean I can't use it until I do at least that's really how I see it lol

Yes, I am doing that too, but it's only temporary. I've honestly never had dysphoria from down there.  I've only masturbated as men do a few times in my whole life.  When I do, it's being the bottom, and dressing, and feeling femme.  Before, this was an addiction, since it was the only way I let myself out.  Now I'm out, and still feel the need.  It's disconcerting.

Bari Jo

Chemically it could be higher Testosterone levels or it could happen if your on progesterone. Other than that, you it's probably because for the first time in your life your free to feel your true feelings. If it's not chemical, I suspect it will die down in a while but I don't know how long it will take.

I am on progesterone, and yes my t levels are higher, but they've only gone from 5 to 8.  I'll write my doctor and see if I can stop progesterone.  If I was a teenager going through this and out, lock up your husband's and boyfriends.  I would have been such a slut.  The good news is, I'm not rode hard and put away wet.  Bad news, I miss doing it:)

Bari Jo

Quote from: Bari Jo on July 08, 2018, 08:30:28 PM
I am on progesterone, and yes my t levels are higher, but they've only gone from 5 to 8.  I'll write my doctor and see if I can stop progesterone.  If I was a teenager going through this and out, lock up your husband's and boyfriends.  I would have been such a slut.  The good news is, I'm not rode hard and put away wet.  Bad news, I miss doing it:)

Bari Jo

Omg I know that feeling all to well been single for like 3 years now.  Of course if I could I would still be wild like that just because it's fun  but Doesn't that make me a virgin again??? [emoji848]

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Quote from: Bari Jo on July 08, 2018, 08:30:28 PM
I am on progesterone, and yes my t levels are higher, but they've only gone from 5 to 8.  I'll write my doctor and see if I can stop progesterone. If I was a teenager going through this and out, lock up your husband's and boyfriends.  I would have been such a slut.  The good news is, I'm not rode hard and put away wet.  Bad news, I miss doing it:)

Bari Jo

That is the lot for many of us.  Missed out on growing up as young girls to women.  Experiences that we dream of now.  Some of us may meet their true loves and explore those unrequited feelings.  And your mother doesn't need to know....ever, unless asking for advice.....

Hugs and smiles, Jess

Of course it happens... say it with me... Cougar. 😉

Quote from: Harley Quinn on July 09, 2018, 11:49:28 PM
Of course it happens... say it with me... Cougar. [emoji6]

🤣 so true I know let's just start a cougar club 🤣🤣🤣

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When i began hrt, I immediately noticed how attracted i was to masculine men. my libido was on if i saw an attractive man on the street, it was like i would gravitate toward him and my eyes would focus on him intensely.

I had to remind myself that "i'm not the hunter". i think the estrogen in your body is sensing an attraction to a man with his testosterone / masculinity.

just guessing!

Hey Bari Jo!

I hope all is well!!!   Here are a few of my thoughts...

All this stuff we put ourself through is about making our life anew...  finally shaping it into what we want and need it to be after a lifetime of it being less than that... Now is the time to live this new life in the manner you choose... make of it what you want... Go to the places in life you could not go before... Find what you want in this amazing journey... My perspective had always been that transition does not fully serve us, to it's full potential, when we do not seek out all it has to offer us.... All of this is about being able to engage ourselves fully with the people and world around us... LOVE LIFE... LIVE LIFE!!!!

Onward we go brave little sister!

Ashley 🙂🌸💕

Thanks, i am definitely seizing every opportunity I can find.  I am definitely more attracted now toward men than I was before accepting too.  I am not sure I see women as romantic partners any longer, more like lucky b's or rivals:)

Bari Jo

Quote from: Bari Jo on August 04, 2018, 03:44:06 PM
Thanks, i am definitely seizing every opportunity I can find.  I am definitely more attracted now toward men than I was before accepting too.  I am not sure I see women as romantic partners any longer, more like lucky b's or rivals:)

Bari Jo

I hear ya little sister... I quickly realized, not too far into HRT, that what I had always thought of as a healthy and lifelong attraction to women sexually was quickly fading away... Here I am now married to the greatest guy in the world.... a million miles from anywhere I would have guessed my life would take me 6 or 7 years ago!

I wish you beautiful, wonderful and unexpected discoveries as you move ahead each day!!!

Onward we go brave sister!!!

Ashley 🙂💕🌸

Hi
I can truly say that I'm getting quite randy at the moment, not much down below but managed to masturbate (not done that for some time) never the less, still have this overall feeling most of the time though, more of a head and body feeling. Doc just upped my E by 50% so maybe that's it just settling down, who knows. On my thread I mentioned a colleague (girl) saying that I needed a partner to do the heavy lifting for me, as my skin is much softer now and more prone to damage, as Im still trying to lug things around as I always have.. that got me thinking, and I know now I would like a partner, just not sure what gender/sexuality/etc. That doesn't matter at the moment, just feel like I need someone I want to cuddle up to and then some. I haven't dreamt of that yet during my journey so lets see what I start to dream of...

Luv n Hugz
Katie

I know with me when I first started E and spiro my libido shot up. When my T went to near zero and then to not detectable my libido went away.

2 months into hrt now and my libido is still through the roof. My doctor warned me it would go down, girlfriend was worried to the point that even though she was one of my biggest supporters and the driving force pushing me toward those first scary steps of transitioning that she wanted me to postpone taking my Estradiol and Spiro.
   She's only 24 and thought didn't want to feel unwanted or have regrets that our sexlife suffered,but as of yet it hasn't been a problem at all. Luckily for me her libido and testosterone run higher than most cis women I've known throughout my life so both are currently extremely happy.