her name was Laura

I Am Jess · July 19, 2018, 01:48:54 PM

Hi Everyone. I don't know if this is the right place to put this post but because of how fabulous this person was I thought it would be appropriate.

#hernamewasLaura

This is a picture of my beautiful friend Laura. Sadly, Laura couldn't find the strength to carry on and she took her own life on June 27th. Then in death her family robed her of her identity and held a funeral and published an obituary in her dead name. I've spoken to a family member who was present and not a single mention was made about Laura.

So I wanted to honor her here among her sisters and let the world know that Laura was fabulous and she will be missed.

tgirlamg · July 19, 2018, 02:26:58 PM

Quote from: I Am Jess on July 19, 2018, 01:48:54 PM
Hi Everyone. I don't know if this is the right place to put this post but because of how fabulous this person was I thought it would be appropriate.

#hernamewasLaura

This is a picture of my beautiful friend Laura. Sadly, Laura couldn't find the strength to carry on and she took her own life on June 27th. Then in death her family robed her of her identity and held a funeral and published an obituary in her dead name. I've spoken to a family member who was present and not a single mention was made about Laura.

So I wanted to honor her here among her sisters and let the world know that Laura was fabulous and she will be missed.

Jess..

I am so sorry you lost a friend and we all lost a sister... This path we are all on can be so difficult at times... It can be so easy to get lost and to feel you will never arrive where you need to be in your life...

I hope some good will still come of Laura's life... I hope other sisters who read this, and see a bit of themselves in her... Will also see that they have a family of sisters here who understand the pain and challenges in this journey... I hope they will know... that with a bit of hope in their heart, all challenges can be navigated and they will find what they seek waiting patiently for them a bit further down the path...

Hope Lives...https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,233543.0.html

Onward We Go Brave Sisters

Ashley🌸💕🙏

TonyaW · July 19, 2018, 02:46:03 PM

Quote from: I Am Jess on July 19, 2018, 01:48:54 PM
Hi Everyone. I don't know if this is the right place to put this post but because of how fabulous this person was I thought it would be appropriate.

#hernamewasLaura

This is a picture of my beautiful friend Laura. Sadly, Laura couldn't find the strength to carry on and she took her own life on June 27th. Then in death her family robed her of her identity and held a funeral and published an obituary in her dead name. I've spoken to a family member who was present and not a single mention was made about Laura.

So I wanted to honor her here among her sisters and let the world know that Laura was fabulous and she will be missed.

So sorry to hear about your friend.

I'll never understand how people can totally disrespect their own family. More important to them how they think things look than the happiness and wishes of someone they claim to love.

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Charlie Nicki · July 19, 2018, 03:58:34 PM

Quote from: I Am Jess on July 19, 2018, 01:48:54 PM
Hi Everyone. I don't know if this is the right place to put this post but because of how fabulous this person was I thought it would be appropriate.

#hernamewasLaura

This is a picture of my beautiful friend Laura. Sadly, Laura couldn't find the strength to carry on and she took her own life on June 27th. Then in death her family robed her of her identity and held a funeral and published an obituary in her dead name. I've spoken to a family member who was present and not a single mention was made about Laura.

So I wanted to honor her here among her sisters and let the world know that Laura was fabulous and she will be missed.

Hey Jess. Thank you for sharing this, this is very thoughtful. May Laura rest in peace.

Sonja · July 19, 2018, 07:25:25 PM

Quote from: I Am Jess on July 19, 2018, 01:48:54 PM

#hernamewasLaura

RIP Laura, no doubt you were a beautiful girl with beautiful dreams, Love, Sonja X

There is something abhorrent about people blatantly ignoring who a person was while proclaiming to having loved them. We must learn to love ourselves so we are not driven to despair, never give up.

@dizz Hair and white lace top look fabulous - Gorgeous girl!

@KathyLauren - Great photo you look pretty and happy, pretty happy!! and a sunflower chair brilliant!

@colleen_definitely - Congrats on your surgery!!

Sonja.

Karen · July 19, 2018, 10:24:10 PM

Quote from: I Am Jess on July 19, 2018, 01:48:54 PM
Hi Everyone. I don't know if this is the right place to put this post but because of how fabulous this person was I thought it would be appropriate.

#hernamewasLaura

This is a picture of my beautiful friend Laura. Sadly, Laura couldn't find the strength to carry on and she took her own life on June 27th. Then in death her family robed her of her identity and held a funeral and published an obituary in her dead name. I've spoken to a family member who was present and not a single mention was made about Laura.

So I wanted to honor her here among her sisters and let the world know that Laura was fabulous and she will be missed.

How incredible sad. What a beautiful woman, with so much a head.

Jess, I am so sorry.

Thank you all for your care for each and other. This is such a special place of love and support.

Hugs.

Karen

JudiBlueEyes · July 19, 2018, 10:29:48 PM

Jess I'm sorry to hear this. Family can be incredibly cruel sometimes.
Hugs, Judi

Mendi · July 20, 2018, 01:21:01 AM

Sad for Laura.

It also comes so close to me. My father hasn´t even asked via email, that am I alive after the surgery. Nothing. And he knew where I´m going and what will be done on the otherside of the globe.

Part of the reason, why I want to push and hurry this process to the end as fast as possible, that no matter what happens, I cannot be buried anymore with a wrong name.

Arianna Valentine · July 20, 2018, 01:34:52 AM

It is truly sad to see that happening to one of our sisters and I understand being upset about being buried with the wrong name but also the way I see it that's not the name that people are are really going to remember you by the people that really knew you are going to remember you by your name not the name you're buried as. And you posting on here about what happened to her shows how she is truly remembered by us her sisters we know what her name is and that is who she will always be to us and that is what truly matters.

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Rachel_Christina · July 20, 2018, 01:35:49 AM

That is aweful news Jess, I hope she is in peace atleast!

You are right Mendi. I best get myself in gear too, my dad still calls my by my old name to this day D:
I need to have it official!

MollyPants · July 20, 2018, 03:49:10 AM

That's such a sad thing to hear. I hope Laura rests in peace. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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pamelatransuk · July 20, 2018, 04:51:37 AM

Quote from: I Am Jess on July 19, 2018, 01:48:54 PM
Hi Everyone. I don't know if this is the right place to put this post but because of how fabulous this person was I thought it would be appropriate.

#hernamewasLaura

This is a picture of my beautiful friend Laura. Sadly, Laura couldn't find the strength to carry on and she took her own life on June 27th. Then in death her family robed her of her identity and held a funeral and published an obituary in her dead name. I've spoken to a family member who was present and not a single mention was made about Laura.

So I wanted to honor her here among her sisters and let the world know that Laura was fabulous and she will be missed.

Jess

This is one of the saddest stories I have read here on Susans. Condolences to you on the loss of your friend in such a tragic way.

It is absolutely disgraceful that an entire so-called family could perhaps not only be responsible to some degree for the death of one of their own but also could ignore her true status and dignity in death. They care for nothing but their own pathetic reputation.

Laura

May you Rest in Peace

Pamela

KathyLauren · July 20, 2018, 06:56:42 AM

Jess, I am very sad to hear about your friend Laura. Thank you for being a friend to her.

Paige · July 20, 2018, 03:28:18 PM

Quote from: I Am Jess on July 19, 2018, 01:48:54 PM
Hi Everyone. I don't know if this is the right place to put this post but because of how fabulous this person was I thought it would be appropriate.

#hernamewasLaura

This is a picture of my beautiful friend Laura. Sadly, Laura couldn't find the strength to carry on and she took her own life on June 27th. Then in death her family robed her of her identity and held a funeral and published an obituary in her dead name. I've spoken to a family member who was present and not a single mention was made about Laura.

So I wanted to honor her here among her sisters and let the world know that Laura was fabulous and she will be missed.

Hi Jess,

I"m truly sorry to hear about your friend. You would think in 2018 families would start to understand the pain they can cause to transgender people. I'm sure it never occurred to her family that if they were more accepting just maybe this wouldn't have happened.

I'm sorry but dead naming someone like this is truly despicable and probably a good indicator of how they treated Laura while she lived.

Take care Jess,
Paige

HappyMoni · July 20, 2018, 04:26:15 PM

Hi Jess,
I am so sorry to hear this. I am wondering if you could tell us a little about her. Her picture is beautiful. I kind of think that you telling us a little about her would be a positive, that people here might know a little about the real her and it might counter what they did to her with whitewashing her real identity. I recently lost two people close to me. I am sorry for the pain you have in losing this beautiful friend.
Moni

V M · July 20, 2018, 04:31:09 PM

This type of thing always tears me up and I pause in a moment of silence to think - Not only of how cruel and judgemental our own friends and families and the public at large can be but also how we treat each other

You never know who might be on the edge - But I definitely don't want to be the one who sends them over

R.I.P. dear Laura

You are greatly missed

Cindy · July 20, 2018, 04:48:58 PM

Dear Jess,

Thank you for giving us all the chance to remember and respect Laura. Her struggle, her fight and her being will be remembered here among her sisters and brothers.

Rest in Peace lovely lady.

Doreen · July 20, 2018, 06:59:38 PM

Quote from: I Am Jess on July 19, 2018, 01:48:54 PM
Hi Everyone. I don't know if this is the right place to put this post but because of how fabulous this person was I thought it would be appropriate.

#hernamewasLaura

This is a picture of my beautiful friend Laura. Sadly, Laura couldn't find the strength to carry on and she took her own life on June 27th. Then in death her family robed her of her identity and held a funeral and published an obituary in her dead name. I've spoken to a family member who was present and not a single mention was made about Laura.

So I wanted to honor her here among her sisters and let the world know that Laura was fabulous and she will be missed.

A very beautiful heart felt post. Thank you for sharing.. this was one of my greatest fears is something would happen to me and this kind of bs would happen.. My parents destroying an entire life lived. If ever there were poltergeists who would come back to haunt, this would cause it to be so.

May she rest in place, and her memory and life be not forgotten. We all struggle...may that struggle not destroy us but make us stronger.

Bari Jo · July 20, 2018, 07:29:47 PM

Wow, very sad indeed! It made me cry at work even. I pray she's at peace now, and has the ability to haunt her horrible family.

Bari Jo

I Am Jess · July 22, 2018, 04:24:12 AM

Tomorrow I will put together a more detailed description of Laura as I knew her and what I have been able to determine about what happened to her after her death. It's a story that has happened to many other trans individuals who haven't made proper preparations for what is to happen after their death. It is important that all of us have something in place to insure that non accepting family members aren't allowed to make any decisions regarding what happens to us after death.

Thank you everyone for your comments about Laura. I want it to be know that #hernamewasLaura and she was no longer the person that the funeral was held for.

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her name was Laura