Quote from: Obfuskatie on July 04, 2018, 03:11:26 PM
I'd say being invited into girl talk. I know it seems silly, but sometimes it makes all the difference just being able to be seen and heard whether they're strangers, friends or my found family.


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Not silly at all. Nothing more validating than being seen and treated as any other woman by any other woman.

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Quote from: SadieBlake on July 05, 2018, 06:28:57 AM

Talking yes and even more, the truly face-face body language women use when we interact. Where men face each other it's most often obliquely and with less eye contact. Of course eye contact. None of this was easy for me before, being in the Asperger's realm of the autism spectrum, eye contact never felt natural to me and getting to a more comfortable place in how I communicate is key to that.

Thank you Sadie for bringing up the subject of eye contact. I was always prone to direct eye contact and I had not really seen much of a connection to my being transgender. I think it must be one of those subconcious feminine aspects we possess as MTFs.

Pamela

Hair and nails for me I think mostly.  Have been growing my hair out since last November and it's now 6 inches long and I have to wear a headband when I wash my face which I have never had to do before!  Also, nails are now about 5mm past the nail bed which doesn't sound a lot but it's a lot when still presenting male lol.  Also, having no arm/hand hair since I started regularly epilating at the end of last year.

What makes me feel feminine is simply knowing who I am, but there are certainly things that help me feel even more feminine. These are a bit silly, but whenever I was a teen, my friends (males) would listen to music geared towards them, I would only enjoy some of it and be mostly annoyed by all the macho-man, chauvinistic, testosterone filled, music. Instead I would really love listening to stuff that the other girls my age would listen to. Ever since I was a kid all the way through my teenage years I played lot's of videogames because my brother always played and to keep myself distracted from my gender dysphoria as at the time I was fighting against my feelings. However, I really enjoyed playing the video games where I could play as a female character, even though my older brother would tease me for always choosing the female characters. In a way that would make me feel like I was already a female.

Nowadays what helps me feel more feminine is whenever I shave my legs and armpits, do "feminine" workouts, whenever I secretly use feminine beauty products in the shower, shave my facial hair. I'm currently growing out my hair, it's still very, very short, but it is definitely the longest I've ever had it (parents keep bugging me to cut it, but eventually they'll get use to it lol) and I can't wait for it to grow full length I am so exited about it.  Whenever I dress up as a woman I feel so "natural", I feel like I can pass, I just need to really work on my voice and begin HRT asap! 

I am really surprised by this, but other women don't make me feel feminine. Maybe it is the competition or the sense that maybe they are just helping along the 'poor trans girl,' but no, not women. It is men who make me feel more feminine. If I see someone who knew me before as him and now they treat me differently, I feel very feminine. If an old guy or a drunken guy check me out, I feel feminine. I'm very  popular with drunk guys over 85, I'm rated very high with that group. lol Anyway, that is my sad truth and I'm sticking to it. I generally feel better dressed stylish but girl next door stylish. Maybe I should go on Old Drunk Farmer's Only.com and let folks comment on pictures of me in my Daisey Duke's. A girl can dream can't she?
CountryMonica

As with many of us that made the very serious decision to transition, I felt feminine when I was quite young and long before I took any official action.   Then when I went full-time, relocated to another state as a woman, and started my own business as a woman, developed many friends and acquaintances as a woman... and now with interested suitors knocking on my door, I feel very much very feminine.   
It's not only what I stated above, but to a smaller degree... the clothes, the shoes, the jewelry, the longer hair, the manicures and pedicures, the new personal habits, the eyebrows, the hair removal... all of those things come with the package of feeling feminine. 
I long ago got rid of all of my old male wrappings and most of my old male habits.   
I am accepted here and as a woman I have fit into the community.  (I wish I could say the same for my family members and old friends back home... but that is another story)

So, I guess the condensed version of feeling feminine is to be accepted as a woman in our personal circle of friends, relationships and work environments.

Danielle

For me there are aspects of all the posts. Chatting about all things without the need to try and find some non-existent machismo, displaying the kindness and empathy I've always felt but struggled to show, make-up, styling, clothes, genuine acceptance and the strangeness of being hit on on checked out by guys - and not in some weird trans way.

But most of all for me, it is colour. Choosing colours that genuinely reflect my mood. The freedom to wear pastel pink or solid black the joy of spending ridiculous amounts of time ensuring that my colours match, lipstick, earrings, scarves etc.

I'm still new to this but I love wearing a padded bra and 'chicken fillets' (not sure if that's the proper term).
They just feel so natural and I feel like part of me is missing when I'm not wearing them which is sadly all but an hour or so of my life. Total. Oh well, it's the summer holidays now so hopefully I'll be able to do it more!
X Maria