Does anyone have any experinces with not feeling like you will be loved because your trans or never finding love because you are trans? does anyone worry about that ever? Just wondering has anyone ever been dumped because they are trans too? Im just thinking about my future and I feel like no one would love me because im a transdude can someone reassure me please... any advice would be appreciated and please answer my questions if you feel like it

I met my husband shortly after going full-time 11 years ago 😊

All of the above!

As a result of my transition, a very long term relationship I had ended.  I went full time, and after a year that included some very poor experiences, I felt that I would never find love because I was trans.

Shortly thereafter, things changed a bit...  I have learned to never say "Never...".  The universe has an odd sense of humor about these things.

Thank you for the replies I honestly didnt expect anyone to reply

I've felt this way all along. I've been single most of my adult life. I've had plenty of relationships, but wasn't true to myself and I'm sure that caused issues with my relationships (mostly in my own mind). I've mostly been an introvert, but now hormones have awakened a need for companionship/friendship.

As for finding someone new, my only advice is to be open and take chances. You'll never regret asking and being told "no, sorry". You'll always regret never having asked.

BTW, I love your screen name! Dookie was the best album!

Quote from: Greendayfanxx on July 25, 2018, 06:45:21 PM
Does anyone have any experinces with not feeling like you will be loved because your trans or never finding love because you are trans? does anyone worry about that ever? Just wondering has anyone ever been dumped because they are trans too? Im just thinking about my future and I feel like no one would love me because im a transdude can someone reassure me please... any advice would be appreciated and please answer my questions if you feel like it

@Greendayfanxx    This is not universally true in any way.  There are a lot of members here, MTF and FTM that have found love, or at least romance... me included.

Best thing to do is to pull yourself up and get out of your downer mental attitude and stop the negative thoughts...  be the best you can be, get involved in social circles where you can meet and greet others and stumble upon love like everyone else has always done .... this has nothing to do with being trans or not.

Hang in there, get out there and meet people, expand your social circle... by the way, the bar scene in my opinion is the wrong place to be.
I will be looking for your followup updates.
Danielle

Start by establishing confidence in yourself. Then the question should be rephrased --- can I meet someone that  I am interested in having a relationship with. Be confident of who you are. I go out on dates regularly and have sex and men fall in love so quickly, they mix up sex and love.  And their almighty egos are so easily bruised. There is someone out there for each and everyone.

Quote from: StacyRenee on July 25, 2018, 07:05:35 PM
As for finding someone new, my only advice is to be open and take chances. You'll never regret asking and being told "no, sorry". You'll always regret never having asked.

@StacyRenee  Excellent advice!
Also - most people are looking for someone who is kind, attentive, interesting, and to some degree aspiring!  Focus on these and then the fact that your transgender just makes you even more interesting! 

Sonja

Can to. The minute my wife decided she was done another trans woman asked me to be her girlfriend. Its really possible... just got to let life happen.

Quote from: StacyRenee on July 25, 2018, 07:07:17 PM
BTW, I love your screen name! Dookie was the best album!

I like Dookie, but Insomniac is my fav

I thought I was trading living my truth for any chance of a Love life.... After a lifetime of relationships with women... I am now married to the greatest guy in the world and ... 5 minutes ago... I found out I am going to be a grandma soon!!!

Onward we go!!!!

Ashley 😀🌻❤️

I met people (including trans people) that told me I would never find love being trans. They were wrong. Don't let anybody tell you that you will never find love.

Aw... don't that fear. I'm sure you'll find someone eventually!😊
If it makes you feel any better, hardly anyone finds me at least remotely attractive. :')

Congrats Ashley!

Don't be a self fulfilling prophecy pervayer. If you say to yourself you will be alone, you may find yourself making it happen. Be friendly, open and put yourself out there. Be a positive person!

Quote from: HappyMoni on July 25, 2018, 10:32:54 PM
Congrats Ashley!

Thanks Moni 😀❤️🌻

Quote from: tgirlamc on July 25, 2018, 10:03:24 PM
I thought I was trading living my truth for any chance of a Love life.... After a lifetime of relationships with women... I am now married to the greatest guy in the world and ... 5 minutes ago... I found out I am going to be a grandma soon!!!

Onward we go!!!!

Ashley 😀🌻❤️

@tgirlamc  Congratulations Ashley!!!   that is awesome news!!

Sonja.

Quote from: Sonja on July 25, 2018, 11:46:35 PM
@tgirlamc  Congratulations Ashley!!!   that is awesome news!!

Sonja.

Thanks Sonja...

The really cool part is that today, the day I found out I'm going to be a grandma, would have been my grandmother's 120th birthday! Synchronicity in action!!!... She and I were very close and she left me with some big shoes to fill in the grandma department!!! I will do my best to make her proud!!!

Onward we go!!!

Ashley 😀❤️🌻

Love is for other people

I always have options--the issue isn't finding someone who wants to date me, it's finding someone I want to date. I'm just not interested in that many people anymore, and looking back, I've only been with one person who seemed even remotely compatible with me. I guess I've been around long enough that I've started to figure out what I need from a relationship, and why I want one in the first place, and knowing what I need makes it harder to find someone who fits what I'm looking for.

For instance, I don't want to go out with someone if I don't enjoy talking to them--and I have social anxiety and hate small talk, so I don't enjoy talking to most people. I need someone who shares at least a portion of my interests (let's say 1/3) which in itself can be difficult to find. I like cuddling and kissing so I need someone who's into that, but none of the people I'm interested in ever seem to enjoy physical intimacy outside of bed.

etc.

So, I have plenty of opportunities to be with someone, but I can't seem to find anyone I want to be with. The problem can go both ways.