Quote from: Abby_girl on July 26, 2018, 05:45:37 PM
I am 33 Years old and I am curious of some ladies stories that started around my age?
I had closeted crossdressing experiences in my teens, 20s, and most signficantly in my 30s where I also tried herbal hormones with a desire for breast growth that I could both have yet hide as needed (i.e., when going out and at work etc.). I sort of got my wish there... but I was so so closeted then (1990s... I'm in my 50s now) and was disconnected from any community, and there was no way I'd go to therapy and discuss things because I felt that would absolutely mean I might immediately be diagnosed as needing SRS which I'd had some strong urges to have but was also like "no way I cannot do that because everyone will laugh, deride, reject me and life will basically be over as I know it." etc. ...
How frightened naive I was then!! Way overthinking things ... it got so close yet no real breakthrough. I boxed and unboxed clothes/makeup up several times over a period of a decade or so.
Finally around 2012ish things started to crop up again but this time I was in a better way to explore and (excitedly) seek therapy etc. I also think either the online resources were better and/or I was less fearful about using them. (I utilized
susans.org for a long while without having an account... getting an account was a huge deal etc.)
Whenever one transitions, I feel people tend to think it may be too late, or if not that, that they might have missed "the best." This can lead to the
sunk costs thing which afflicted me to some extent.
If you're transitioning in your 30s, you are 30 years very young and lucky. Really at any age, but I feel, based on what I've seen of so many great examples of healthy positive transition, that the 30s are a wonderful time to start. Again, any time is, but if you're in your 30s, it's really a great time to explore, especially if you're single (which I was then) and you've got a job or are otherwise past youthful things where you don't budget or plan well... healthy transitioning requires responsibility.
When I think back to where I was at in my 30s... I really should have explored more etc. I missed a ship there... it's fine because I caught a fairly decent one in my late 40s and am very grateful.
Best of luck with everything!
Ashley