During my transition I usually just hated when people called me by obvious female terms/words but had no issues with most words pertaining to my looks, like cute, sweet, pretty, etc. I recognised most of those as more or less gender neutral. Cause people who thought I was a cis guy also sometimes called me cute or pretty. Likely cause I was small and soft for a guy, and also cause I was more or less "gay" (attracted to men, but in quoations cause I wasn't really a guy myself). Although it rubbed me slightly the wrong way to be called beautiful.
Now detransitioning it became the opposite, but not as strongly. Like it irks me to be called by male terms/words but it's not like super upsetting. Man, sir, boy, etc like clearly male terms would irk me the most, I think. Cause I haven't been called much of anything by strangers yet. They seem to be too uncomfortable around me to say anything pertaining to my gender or looks. That's actually worse. I'd rather get called something I'm not, as in a mistake, than having people avoid me cause I creep them out with my sheer presense. Even my neighbours avoid saying "hi" to me now, like they used to before.
I went from a very masc to very fem expression/appearance pretty much over night, a month ago, and I think a lot of strangers in my small village actually know of me or like recognise me from before. So they're probably really confused about me now. Some probably think I'm a crossdresser. I really like being called a girl, woman, beautiful, feminine, etc now. Makes me feel like I didn't lose all of my original womanliness by my transitioning mishap, which is immensely comforting.
