Hello everyone, I appreciate this opportunity to discuss transgender related issues to other people

When I was a kid I did like SOME girls' stuff but was not fully "girly". I found out that I didn't identify myself as a female when I was in grade 10. My gender dysphoria was quite strong in 2016 then weakened this year. My main problem for now is not passing but doing things that are stereotypically feminine. Sometimes I resist doing something I want when it is. For example: making my artworks feminine. It's not that I think it's bad. I just don't want to ruin my male gender identity. THIS MAY SOUND RIDICULOUS BUT I also hate the fact that I like wine over beer. Why? Beer=men. Wine=women.

Hello JSB,
                  Just express yourself as you see fit. I'm only learning this at age 49. If I'd expressed myself fully as a teenager and beyond I would have avoided a lot of anxiety and would have been more outgoing . All of us have yin & yang in various measures. If there is one thing I have learned in this life is that don't suppress your femininity and don't suppress your masculinity - just let it all hang out.
You're an artist too - what an excellent vehicle for expression - I envy that.
Hey also I'd like to get in early and say welcome.
Yours truly, Kirsten x.

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Quote from: JumpingShowBunny on August 27, 2018, 06:31:12 AM
Hello everyone, I appreciate this opportunity to discuss transgender related issues to other people

When I was a kid I did like SOME girls' stuff but was not fully "girly". I found out that I didn't identify myself as a female when I was in grade 10. My gender dysphoria was quite strong in 2016 then weakened this year. My main problem for now is not passing but doing things that are stereotypically feminine. Sometimes I resist doing something I want when it is. For example: making my artworks feminine. It's not that I think it's bad. I just don't want to ruin my male gender identity. THIS MAY SOUND RIDICULOUS BUT I also hate the fact that I like wine over beer. Why? Beer=men. Wine=women.

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I am thinking that you may lots more questions and concerns, this is the right place for you to be to find out what others have done that may have been in your circumstances.
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I see that our lovely member @KathyLauren has already welcomed you .. .
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Quote from: JumpingShowBunny on August 27, 2018, 06:31:12 AM
I also hate the fact that I like wine over beer. Why? Beer=men. Wine=women.

There is more overlap in the qualities and behaviors of men and women than there are differences. I would be hard pressed to think of one of my cisgender buddies who doesn't have a passion for something "stereotypically feminine," be it yoga, sewing, gardening, knitting, cooking, even enjoying a bottle of wine with his wife over dinner. It's ok to give yourself permission to enjoy a few of them. There are alot of ways to be a guy. It's called the "Spotlight/Transparency Effect;" nobody is going to notice but you.

Welcome!  It can be really hard sometimes thinking you are doing something feminine or masculine but as others said just try to be yourself.  Most people have interests or tastes that are "against" the feminine or masculine stereotypes of their gender so try not to worry about it too much.  Easier said than done I know.

If it makes you feel any better one married couple I know the man prefers wine and the woman prefers beer. 

Beer is for adolescent men, and wine is for people with a finer taste who have standards and can appreciate quality over social stigma, and it sounds like you're there. Like what you like, and don't be ashamed. You'll get there. It's a battle sometimes. Welcome to the forum!

Gender norms are so subjective and cultural. What is a norm in one community is not in another etc. It's understandable to wrestle with some of these because let's face it at first it is an unknown and we are at perhaps our peak of self-consciousness. The binary is made to be broken though, and constantly is.

I have plenty of female friends that love beer and rarely drink wine.

Hey Bunny!

I personally believe that all "girly" and "boyish" stuff is just stereotypes. If you wanna drink wine and create some art just do it because it is what you want. If you wanna drink beer and watch football just do it. Gender doesn't matter, you do what you want. Life is too short to fulfill other's expectations.