Great news Steph! Yes, I understand your FFS date will get here fast and it's time curtail those shopping expenses. But,,,but,,,but,,, perhaps a lovely formal gown from one of those less expensive stores?

As for those Southern Rednecks, I just wanted to say, "I'm a redneck women. I ain't no high class Broad. Can I get a big HELL YEAH!!!" . Just having a little fun Steph. Go knock em dead girl!!!

Hugs,
Donica.

Quote from: Steph2.0 on October 01, 2018, 06:34:56 AM
I so wish! Unfortunately I've had to severely curtail my shopping expenses. My trip to FacialTeam is going to take a huge chunk of change, and something has to give. At least, with the exception of a few winter tops and some jeans, my wardrobe is filled out well enough to get me by. I hear the siren songs of all my favorite stores, but I must be strong. I... can... resist. [emoji51]

Ya know...The dresses I bought for the last wedding weren't all that expensive at Dress Barn. Maybe we should just take a casual walk through there and see if anything tickles your fancy. Of course, that will have to be after you find out what the suggested attire is for the wedding. Will it be Formal, Semi-formal, Casual, Summer-casual, Redneck-casual, Florida Redneck-casual, etc?

Quote from: Steph2.0 on October 01, 2018, 06:34:56 AM
I so wish! Unfortunately I've had to severely curtail my shopping expenses.

I understand the need to conserve cash.  But you can find great buys at second-hand stored.  The blue dress I bought for a wedding cost me only $38.  Just sayin'. 

Just having fun with you, of course.  You know best what your spending priorities shouild be.

Quote from: SassyCassie on October 01, 2018, 01:01:50 PM
Ya know...The dresses I bought for the last wedding weren't all that expensive at Dress Barn. Maybe we should just take a casual walk through there and see if anything tickles your fancy. Of course, that will have to be after you find out what the suggested attire is for the wedding. Will it be Formal, Semi-formal, Casual, Summer-casual, Redneck-casual, Florida Redneck-casual, etc?

Quote from: KathyLauren on October 01, 2018, 01:08:03 PM
I understand the need to conserve cash.  But you can find great buys at second-hand stored.  The blue dress I bought for a wedding cost me only $38.  Just sayin'. 

Just having fun with you, of course.  You know best what your spending priorities should be.

what's that enticing song I hear ..... ? ? ? ? ? ?

Quote from: Faith on October 01, 2018, 01:08:47 PM
what's that enticing song I hear ..... ? ? ? ? ? ?

It's the sound of cash registers!

I loves you all so much. You're so good at spending my money!

Well shopping with the BFF on Wed, charity shops looking for the designer stuff!!! Wristfull thinking I know but its surprising what can be found.

Quote from: davina61 on October 01, 2018, 04:40:38 PMWristfull thinking I know

Bravo! Nicely done!

Shopping would be such fun, especially with my BFF, but I do have a nice selection already, one of which I haven't even worn yet, despite traveling all the way to Denver and back with me. Long gowns are awesome, but I do like showing off my legs, so I usually like knee-length. Yes, I do need to check on the dress code. There are no hints on the invitation or the associated website. If I ask my friend, the step-dad to the groom, he'll probable just do the guy thing and shrug. Maybe I should try to talk to his wife, who is just as cool.

Stephanie

Quote from: Steph2.0 on October 01, 2018, 10:41:54 PM
Shopping would be such fun, especially with my BFF, but I do have a nice selection already, one of which I haven't even worn yet, despite traveling all the way to Denver and back with me. Long gowns are awesome, but I do like showing off my legs, so I usually like knee-length. Yes, I do need to check on the dress code. There are no hints on the invitation or the associated website. If I ask my friend, the step-dad to the groom, he'll probable just do the guy thing and shrug. Maybe I should try to talk to his wife, who is just as cool.

Stephanie

I did text the mother of the groom and got this reply:

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Dressy casual. Not formal. A nice dress will do. Only people close to formal will be wedding party and family.[emoji4] Hope that helps. Its outside and in an open building (pole barn, but very nice). So you can adjust what you want to wear to the temps that day.

A nice dress will do!

Squeee!

My integration into society proceeds apace. I received this invitation today:



Squeee!

Oh Steph! Are you going to be here next March? If so we just have to get together for lunch or dinner? Long Beach is less than an hours drive for me.

Quote from: Donica on October 02, 2018, 04:02:05 PM
Oh Steph! Are you going to be here next March? If so we just have to get together for lunch or dinner? Long Beach is less than an hours drive for me.

At this point odds are slim to none I'll be attending. Wouldn't that be cool, though?

On the other hand, so much has changed for me in the last six months, who knows where I'll be in another six?

Stephanie

Quote from: Steph2.0 on October 02, 2018, 04:13:09 PM
At this point odds are slim to none I'll be attending. Wouldn't that be cool, though?

On the other hand, so much has changed for me in the last six months, who knows where I'll be in another six?

Stephanie

Yes, that would be fun. Who knows, in 5 or 6 months, I may be on the recovery side of FFS.

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Quote from: Donica on October 02, 2018, 05:50:20 PM
Yes, that would be fun. Who knows, in 5 or 6 months, I may be on the recovery side of FFS.

I may be dreaming, but I'm hoping to be on the other side of GCS by then. Who knows?

Quote from: Steph2.0 on October 02, 2018, 07:52:40 PM
I may be dreaming, but I'm hoping to be on the other side of GCS by then. Who knows?

Wait! You still have FFS to do in December. I was thinking I wouldn't get my FFS for 5 to 6 months, but support group friends are telling me it could happen as soon as yours. I would be nice to have it done by then. Did you get a date for your GCS already?

Quote from: Donica on October 03, 2018, 01:11:21 PM
Wait! You still have FFS to do in December. I was thinking I wouldn't get my FFS for 5 to 6 months, but support group friends are telling me it could happen as soon as yours. I would be nice to have it done by then. Did you get a date for your GCS already?

Oh no, no date yet. I so wish. It's why I mentioned dreaming.

I have six more weeks for the clock to run out on the 18 months of therapy required by my insurance company before I can get the ball rolling. The surgeon I'm seeing may (or may not) have a six month wait for surgery. I'm hoping it's in that range, or sooner of course,  but I won't know until I can actually have my consultation.

I can be really patient if I don't have to wait long.

Stephanie

Quote from: Steph2.0 on October 03, 2018, 02:13:50 PM
Oh no, no date yet. I so wish. It's why I mentioned dreaming.

I have six more weeks for the clock to run out on the 18 months of therapy required by my insurance company before I can get the ball rolling. The surgeon I'm seeing may (or may not) have a six month wait for surgery. I'm hoping it's in that range, or sooner of course,  but I won't know until I can actually have my consultation.

I can be really patient if I don't have to wait long.

Stephanie

Oops, Sorry Steph! I missed the dreaming part. Jeezzz! I'm going to be old by the time I get my GRS. I still have at least 18 months to go.

Donica.

Thursday, October 4, 2018

TL;DR: I am riding the crest of one of the highest waves I can remember. Thursday was concentrated amazing wonderfulness. It's rare for me to accomplish so much, with so many awesome outcomes, in one day.

I was going to put the whole day in one post, but there is so much to report on I'll break it up.

Waking up...

I checked my phone for new emails before I crawled out of bed. The first message was from FacialTeam. They have received my deposit, and the date is confirmed. On December 4th I will be asleep in Spain while I get facial remodeling.

I am alternately elated and questioning. I have been doing so well lately. The only people who misgender me are those who knew me before. All of you have been so nice and flattering. Just as those times when I would doubt my transitioning, I wonder whether I'm making a mistake. But just as then, there is an underlying current, a consistent logic, that always restores my confidence that I'm on the right track. Before, it was the revulsion of going back to the way things were. Now, it is those pictures, those horrible pictures that no one else will see, that give me surety and highlight the clarity of my path. I will be in Spain on December 4th. The thought brought a wide smile to my face before I'd even had my coffee. That's saying something!

And so began my incredible day.

More to come...


Stephanie

We will all be there with you Stephanie!!! SQUEEEEE!!!!

Donica.