Best way if you can't convince them would be to get a doctor to explain it to them. The only risks associated with T that is generally recognized is the increased risk of heart disease/stroke/clots but no more than any normal man experiences due to increased blood cell count. Polycythemia can be easy remedied by a trip to the blood bank, or just get it drawn at a surgery, and the risks can be practically mitigated by following a healthy lifestyle and not being overweight. If they don't believe you, then maybe they would a doctor if you got them to go to one with you and explain that.