Hi all,

Hope everyone is well, just wanted to rant and wine.

So as some of you might know I have recently spoken to a therapist who has referred me to a gender services clinic. I have provided a large amount of blood tests and other tests which is required to be able to get a overall ''assessment" done on me.

My partner knows almost everything that has been happening, the one thing that is getting to me is she is just pretending like nothing was ever said. And I don't blame her for trying to sweep it all under the rug but I am just feeling so very alone and with no one close to talk to about it. My depression and anxiety are through the roof and I am just having a hard time coping.

Has anyone got any tips to get through this hard time in my life? I just feel I need some happy ending storys or something..

Thanks lovely's

@ShannonH
During the week when I came out to my wife i listened to a lot of uplifting music - it really helped lift my spirits.
Also walking, or any form of exercise can help to physically combat the affect of stress and anxiety - Hey try walking/running while listening to music!  seriously, it really helped me.

I wish you well,

Sonja.

Thanks Sonja,

I have been meaning to do some exercise, thankfully I have Greta Van Fleet to listen to and they make me feel a bit better

Ok I lied,

I have not been meaning to do exercise lol squats is the only thing I can manage to do haha.

LOL Shannon, surely you can walk? I have a few picked out routes I like to walk, ones where there is a great view of scenery...or you could drive to a nice place and do squats there with some music playing......ta da!

Sonja.

Quote from: Sonja on October 14, 2018, 02:16:19 AM
LOL Shannon, surely you can walk? I have a few picked out routes I like to walk, ones where there is a great view of scenery...or you could drive to a nice place and do squats there with some music playing......ta da!

Sonja.

Yes I suppose I can walk! lol I will give this walking thing a try haha,

I do enjoy walking, Just hard with working so many hours a week, but I suppose those are just excuses lol

Hey Shannon,

I don't have a perfect ending story for you because I'm only st the beginning of my own story. My wife is still in a kind of shock but thankfully she has said she has no plans to leave. It's still difficult not feeling sure about what the future holds. I'm going to second Sonja's advice about exercise. Walking is a very good stress reliever for me. I don't listen to music while walking but maybe I should.

Don't give up hope on your partner coming to a realization that your relationship is worth fighting for. There is always hope until the absolute end. Read Danielle's positivity thread and smile. Life is too short for all this anxiety. You are going to be just fine sister. Love and faith.

Gabrielle

I agree with the walking... especially if you can do it somewhere with lots of green and open country. It is the best help for anxiety, stress and depression. But, I also keep this forum open all the time in my browser and it makes me feel less alone. I am also chatting regularly with 3 wonderful women who are helping me a lot. So, if you can find someone to chat to online regularly and perhaps look to see if there are any local trans groups near you that you can meet up for added support.