@Gabrielle66
Exactly what @Alaskan Danielle said PLUS - buy an eyebrow spoolie ( special brush)
I know you want to do it at home BUT get them shaped professionally at a beauticians wherever you can feel most comfortable, while there ask for advice on keeping them under control. Also ask about getting your eye brows tinted to a shade that would be in line with your hair colour etc. It can't help to find out more info on this topic.
If you really can't bring your self to go to a place, then keep some rules in mind
1) Do not over pluck in the middle.
2) Pluck carefully, over time, like over a few weeks. It takes a while for this hair to grow back. No problem under doing it - just don't over do it.
Good luck!
Sonja.