Whats it like after? Ive just started hormones (mtf) and i am curious how life is after for either way. What im most curious about is day to day and home stuff. Going out, dating all the stuffs.

Quote from: Leah/Newt on November 03, 2018, 11:20:55 PM
Whats it like after? Ive just started hormones (mtf) and i am curious how life is after for either way. What im most curious about is day to day and home stuff. Going out, dating all the stuffs.

Well I've been on hormones for about 7 months now and despite lacking a dating life it's actually pretty freaking wonderful I love it I've never been happier feeling my body grow and change my hair is already changed as far as texture goes my Skin's already changed as far as softness goes but I'm really enjoying my decision and really enjoying my transition and I did actually date one person and it was it was amazing

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Seriously, why can't I just walk away?

It is not anything. I can't say, I can only talk about my life. God really, I read all of these questions people have and I wish that I could express how much that it isn't anything. So I can only talk from my perspective.

I cook, I clean and I support. Men need support, their children need support, being what the people around you need is what we do. That is not our purpose but it is what we do the most. It is not a bad thing but it is the normal thing. Learn a dish that you can make that is delicious. Bringing something is expected, if you have something everyone loves you will save yourself more hours than you could imagine in the kitchen. All women are in competition. Don't believe the hype, we have friends only if you are not a threat to what they have or what they want. We all have to work that out ourselves with our friends so you are on your own. Men are not good at the sex we need, it is not natural for them. Teach them if you don't want Hitachi to to be be the lover you spend your life with.

It's being a woman, or a man for the boys. Follow the crowd, it happens pretty naturally. It isn't anything more than us being the piece that fits with the pieces around us.

Dating, going out? Stroke their ego if you like them, don't be afraid to walk away if you don't. Again, they are not very good at dating, probably because they never really talk about it with each other. We literally talk about everything.

Day to day home stuff never equals dating, different rules apply. Talk to your girlfriends and experiment, it doesn't take long to figure out how you want to approach it.

Thanks. How ever i only asked the dating bit out of curiosity. Im not that big a fan of relationships. Ive tried with both and not into it. Plus i really dont enjoy touching or being touched by other people so. Dont get me wrong i crush on people but thats about as far as i let it go. It would take a lot for me to be with someone, on both parts. If i put forth the effort id better see the same effort in return (hard to come by these days). And as for the day to day, makes sense.

Congratulations on starting HRT!  I have been on HRT for 22 months, and full-time for 19 months.

What is it like?  It is the most awesome feeling imaginable!  The most liberating thing is that I don't have to self-censor myself any more.  If I see a piece of clothing that I like, I feel the old thoughts start to rise: "Oh, I can't wear that!", "I can't even admit liking it!".  And then I feel a little giggle as those thoughts get squashed by the newer program: "I can like and wear any damn thing I want!"

The freedom feels amazing.  I can laugh and giggle un-selfconsciously.  I can smile at strangers (women, anyway) and get a smile back.  I can talk in the ladies' washroom.  I get invited to baby showers, and I get included in conversations about childbirth.

At home, nothing much is changed.  My wife and I still have the ability to drive each other crazy, but on the whole, life is better and we are closer than before.

I can't talk about dating because I am not in the dating pool.  Even if I were not married, I am not sure I would pursue dating.  One of the realizations on this journey for me is that, even though I have a lesbian orienation, I am mostly asexual.  It explains a lot about my past, but also makes me more comfortable with a low motivation.

I swent out with my mother one time and saw a cute wallet with a fox motif on it and my mom said "makes you wish you were a girl so you could get it huh" and i thought you have no idea. I see clothes all the time but never really look. I cant wait to be able to go out and be myself. I feel like im lying to everyone when i do go out so indont stay anywhere long.

What's it like

After 2 1/2 years on HRT it feels....right, normal.

The excitement of "going out" wears off after awhile and it become like everything else with the exception of one significant thing...my GD is mainly gone...I now enjoy the things I always wanted to do...and I enjoy them as much as I thought I would.

I don't know about dating as I am married so will leave it to those that do....for me its about returning to a sense of normalisation...where I look forward to the mundane normality of life that is not constantly overwhelmed by that awfful feeling of want, of something lost or missing.


So what's it like?...its like life without the constant harassment of GD.....Life is sweet

Take care

Liz

The best description I can give of it is "life uninterrupted."

Before transition, my brain was very often clouded by a sense of wrongness / desire to be female, it was hard for me to just enjoy my life and sociability and be myself fully, because dysphoria was constantly intruding. Whenever someone treated me in a typical male way, or I saw women being treated how I felt like I should be, my brain would immediately be overcome with despair because I wished I could be treated like that. I was constantly forced to suppress an innate sense of wrongness in regards to my body and sexuality, because what I had felt like it wasn't mine.

Post-transition life isn't some sunshine-and-roses everything-is-perfect-now fantasy where I'm happy all the time, but it at least is a life where I no longer have to be overwhelmed by crippling distress because I can't be a girl, or because my body isn't female. Social interactions are just social interactions, not a reminder that I'm not a girl. My body is just my body, not something wrong that I feel trapped in. I'm free to do the hobbies that I've always loved without dysphoria constantly intruding and making me feel trapped in a body and social role that aren't mine.

Can't help you on the dating front, I haven't really tried because I'm too scared of rejection, but I was never much for relationships anyway.

I am afraid that I will never find my voice. Afraid that ill get in my way.

Quote from: KathyLauren on November 04, 2018, 06:40:37 AM

What is it like?  It is the most awesome feeling imaginable!  The most liberating thing is that I don't have to self-censor myself any more.  If I see a piece of clothing that I like, I feel the old thoughts start to rise: "Oh, I can't wear that!", "I can't even admit liking it!".  And then I feel a little giggle as those thoughts get squashed by the newer program: "I can like and wear any damn thing I want!"

Interesting!  Because of the hidden girl inside of me with my intersex condition, I was always like, who cares, i like it, I wear it, or at least I buy it and may never wear it!  But now that I am leaving the guy inside me behind, I can do the same thing with many more colors styles and textures.  The only danger is that I might run out of money before I can  satisfy my desires!

Quote from: Dietlind on November 04, 2018, 11:12:27 PM
Interesting!  Because of the hidden girl inside of me with my intersex condition, I was always like, who cares, i like it, I wear it, or at least I buy it and may never wear it!  But now that I am leaving the guy inside me behind, I can do the same thing with many more colors styles and textures.  The only danger is that I might run out of money before I can  satisfy my desires!

Sweetie pace yourself with buying clothes shoes purses makeup just pace yourself so you don't run out of money and you will get to enjoy it all whole lot more even treat yourself to a spa day get your nails done a manicure pedicure have a glass of wine lol

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After 27 years, I have almost forgotten what life used to be like, as far as normal day to day stuff. I still remember the traumatic stuff. Dating can be tricky. It can also be dangerous. Proceed with great caution.

Quote from: Arianna Valentine on November 04, 2018, 11:30:20 PM
Sweetie pace yourself with buying clothes shoes purses makeup just pace yourself so you don't run out of money and you will get to enjoy it all whole lot more even treat yourself to a spa day get your nails done a manicure pedicure have a glass of wine lol

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Thanks, but from my intersex side I was born as a shopaholic.  I do set myself limits.  I think I am done cloth shopping now, because I have to see what estrogen will do to me.  All the stuff I bought can be used with bigger boobs, too.
I would want to buy a few more shoes, but I have read that feet tend to get smaller with estrogen.  I have enough unisex shoes that will have to do until I really know how my body will look like

I used to get pedicure once a month, have not done that for a while now.  It is time to get going with this again, and I want to go and get a facial to see what an expert can do with my mug.

The glas of wine has to wait, because I hardly drink alcohol.  I am a social drinker, and never touch the stuff when I am alone.
Come to think, I am kind of a boring person, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I am not a womanizer, it seems I am just a shopaholic!

Quote from: Dietlind on November 05, 2018, 12:02:11 AM
Thanks, but from my intersex side I was born as a shopaholic.  I do set myself limits.  I think I am done cloth shopping now, because I have to see what estrogen will do to me.  All the stuff I bought can be used with bigger boobs, too.
I would want to buy a few more shoes, but I have read that feet tend to get smaller with estrogen.  I have enough unisex shoes that will have to do until I really know how my body will look like

I used to get pedicure once a month, have not done that for a while now.  It is time to get going with this again, and I want to go and get a facial to see what an expert can do with my mug.

The glas of wine has to wait, because I hardly drink alcohol.  I am a social drinker, and never touch the stuff when I am alone.
Come to think, I am kind of a boring person, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I am not a womanizer, it seems I am just a shopaholic!

Well even if estrogen don't give you big Dolly Parton boobs or anything like that you can always wear a really padded bra one that I like even though it is extremely expensive is by Victoria's Secret is called a Bombshell bra it's about $70 for one bra but it gives you I think it's two cup sizes will the appearance of two cup sizes so it's actually pretty nice and they actually look natural I actually gave a friend of mine a hug wearing one of the bras and he said I had perky breasts which made me feel good the fact that he thought they were real and hey perky LOL

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I have some decent size of boobs already (not seen a mg of estrogen yet), My cup size is between A and B.  One should assume that E would grow those girls a little more.  Areal big B or a C would be enough for my taste.  I don't know if my skin could live with the silicone boobs, because I assume that one will sweat under the things?  I have that baby skin of transsex people, and have to be very careful with exposure to any non natural things.

Carrie,

It has been almost 2 years since I have checked in at this site so I have missed your updates.  Glad to hear that things have been going well for you.  It has been a long process for you since those early days at EA.

I would like to hear more about how life and the job have been working out for you.

I have been unable to make any progress toward transforming my incorrect parts as you have done.

Please provide me more detail about your life as a woman.