Quote from: Arianna Valentine on November 11, 2018, 10:26:38 PM
Omg you play eso me to sorta

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Yes, not often but I play on the Xbox 1.

I only have a couple "friends" on there, and I haven't seen or played with most of them in months.  Going to purge anyone I don't know and a few that I do know who have negative views of me and who I am.

Quote from: Artesia on November 11, 2018, 10:31:36 PM
Yes, not often but I play on the Xbox 1.

I only have a couple "friends" on there, and I haven't seen or played with most of them in months.  Going to purge anyone I don't know and a few that I do know who have negative views of me and who I am.

Dang I'm ps4

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I have one of her kids, and her cousin still on my Facebook friends list.  I also have a couple mutual friends, who knew her longer than me, on there. I would feel bad purging the one daughter, she was very nice and even messaged me a couple times since my fiancé, her mom, left.  Her cousins kids also went out of their way to friend me.  They were good kids.  Should I purge them all?  I don't want to make them feel as if I was the one who left.  I always told them I felt they were my family too.  But it hurts to see them on there as well.  I'm torn in what to do about them.  Purge them and finish erasing her from my life, or keep them there because I love them as my own family?

This thread made me so sad but I never knew what to say.  I'm sorry you're going through it.

I might be able to help with your Facebook question.  If its seeing posts from them that hurts, you can keep them as friends but hide posts without unfriending. They will still be on your friend list but what they post won't show in your feed.  Not sure exactly how to do this, but I have done it with some people for various reasons.

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Quote from: TonyaW on November 14, 2018, 08:18:14 AM
This thread made me so sad but I never knew what to say.  I'm sorry you're going through it.

I might be able to help with your Facebook question.  If its seeing posts from them that hurts, you can keep them as friends but hide posts without unfriending. They will still be on your friend list but what they post won't show in your feed.  Not sure exactly how to do this, but I have done it with some people for various reasons.

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You can unfollow without unfriending.  That way you can visit their pages when you want without having to have their post pop up on your feed.  I personally would keep all the friends that hadn't left.

Hugs, Jess

Quote from: TonyaW on November 14, 2018, 08:18:14 AM
This thread made me so sad but I never knew what to say.  I'm sorry you're going through it.

I might be able to help with your Facebook question.  If its seeing posts from them that hurts, you can keep them as friends but hide posts without unfriending. They will still be on your friend list but what they post won't show in your feed.  Not sure exactly how to do this, but I have done it with some people for various reasons.

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I'm sorry I made you sad too.  Unfortunately, this is the only place where I have someone to talk to about it.  Maybe the 20th, my psychologist will be able to help.

Quote from: Artesia on November 14, 2018, 09:44:04 AM
I'm sorry I made you sad too.  Unfortunately, this is the only place where I have someone to talk to about it.  Maybe the 20th, my psychologist will be able to help.

Many of us have great empathy for those in distress.
It's okay to feel emotions for someone's situation.  It doesn't mean they are in a bad place, but of concern.
Please, Susan's Place and your thread are safe places to vent, share emotions, laugh, cry.
Always feel comfortable in being yourself here.
We love you and you should hold that to your heart.

Hugs, Jess

Thank you all for your support.

I wish I could talk to everyone in person.  The keyboard is just to impersonal for me.  I really wish I could feel the acceptance you show me here.  I'm mostly just feeling the pain over everything else right now.

Quote from: Artesia on November 15, 2018, 06:44:04 AM
Thank you all for your support.

I wish I could talk to everyone in person.  The keyboard is just to impersonal for me.  I really wish I could feel the acceptance you show me here.  I'm mostly just feeling the pain over everything else right now.

@Artesia

Is there a trans support group you can go to and have some face time with other people?  I really think that might be a help for you at this very difficult time.

Take care,

Sonja.

We could communicate via Skype, if that is acceptable. I wouldn't mind having a weekly support group meeting of Susan's participants. Where we could see who we really are in real time. We may have to have several so others around the world can join in. Any thoughts?

Quote from: Sonja on November 18, 2018, 03:03:31 PM
@Artesia

Is there a trans support group you can go to and have some face time with other people?  I really think that might be a help for you at this very difficult time.

Take care,

Sonja.

Yes, in Chicago.  A place I will be unable to reach until my finances get fixed from the mess I was left with.

Quote from: DawnOday on November 18, 2018, 03:52:40 PM
We could communicate via Skype, if that is acceptable. I wouldn't mind having a weekly support group meeting of Susan's participants. Where we could see who we really are in real time. We may have to have several so others around the world can join in. Any thoughts?

It would be kind of nice.  One question though; what's Skype?

Skype is a free software package that allows you to video chat with anybody in the world. As I type this, I am talking to somebody in Texas. You need a camera and speakers or a headset which can be obtained for around $100. It works with most internet connections of a mega bit or faster.

Update.

I have since been contacted by my ex-fiancés daughter.  She was very unkind to me in her attack as to why her mom supposedly left.  I still don't know her reason, just the stories passed to me by others.  Her daughter essentially told me that I am crazy and no one takes 40 years to come out and I don't know who I am.  As well as other derogatory statements about me.

This, unfortunately, struck me in what was left of my shattered heart, and I fell appart.  I took several sleeping pills and drank some wine so I could sleep, and I didn't care if I woke up the next day or not.  I lost control of myself, and couldn't see a way forward for me.  I felt as if I were thrown away like a piece of trash, and that my life had been a lie for the last year.

My psychologist, strongly, suggsted I check myself into a mental health facility.  I decided to follow her advice.  I have, since then, spent the last week in an acute care mental health facility within the VA.  I am doing better now, but I have a long way to go before I'm me again.  Thankfully, I have not lost the job I just started.

I feel like a failure, but I will eventually get back on my feet.

Awww honey, big hugs. I'm very glad you sought help and looked after yourself. It's a long road back but you have the strength inside.

X

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