my former name was gender neutral, which caused me a lot of pain and confusion over the years. so i couldn't really take the male version since it already worked as one. i decided to start fresh, at first i looked through family names but that 'caused some friction so i went to the SSA and printed out the top 100 names from the year i was born. narrowed that down.
then i was watching a movie one day and saw my name pop up. i said "oh yeah, that's a nice name... i like it." and it stuck. my name happened to be one of my favorites from the list i compiled, so it worked out.