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Started by Jenny1969, November 20, 2018, 12:40:11 AM

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Jenny1969

Tomorrow, well I guess its today since its after midnight but I am going to my first Transgender support group and I am nervous. I don't know what to expect. Do I go dressed? Will I be expected to get up and talk?   I have recently been diagnosed with Gender Dysphoria and have begun my transition process. I have not started HRT yet. Any advice you can offer me will be greatly appreciated.

Thank You


Jenny   
Jenny :)

20 November 2018 Got off the fence. 3 December 2018 Initial consult and GD diagnoasis. 28 December 2018 started HRT. 14 Feb 2019 Started Spiro

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Devlyn

Most support groups have a "come as you are" policy. Good luck!

Hugs, Devlyn
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Johnni Gyrl

I wouldn't worry about how you look, being there is the important thing. I would say just dress comfortable so you feel at ease & aren't worrying about your look on the day. You'll be less self-conscious & won't have to go through the wardrobe nightmare of what to choose beforehand.

Hope that helps,

Hugs,

Johnni xoxo
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KathyLauren

I went to my first support group session in full male mode.  I think I had shaved my beard off by that time, but that was about it.

Everyone in the support group had to start somewhere.  I will bet most of them showed up to their first session presenting as their assigned-at-birth gender.

Don't worry about it.  Say as much or as little as you are comfortable with.  Let them know what support you need.  Relax.  You are starting on a wonderful journey.
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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TonyaW

I've never been able to attend a group.  The few that have been available in my area always met at times when  I had to work. 

Before coming out,  a big plus for me in attending would have been being able to have a safe place to go while dressed. 

Everyone there either is or was in the place you are now so if  you're ready for it, go dressed, but don't feel you need to if you're not there yet.

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Jenny1969

Ok.....That is out of the way now.   It wasn't as bad as I expected. There were 15 of us girls there at the meeting and some were dressed and some were not. No big deal. I was made to feel welcome and even offered up some input to the conversation.  I'm already looking forward to next week.

Thanks everyone.


Jenny
Jenny :)

20 November 2018 Got off the fence. 3 December 2018 Initial consult and GD diagnoasis. 28 December 2018 started HRT. 14 Feb 2019 Started Spiro

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Alice (nym)

I am glad it went well, thank you for letting us know. I wrote a massive reply on my phone but it seems it never got posted... oh well. It was a longer a version of Kathy's post.

I really like my local trans group. It is nice to not feel alone and meet real people in person who suffer or have suffered the same. They are all awesome... and the thing I love the best about them, is that they are so natural. That and they are very kind and supportive.

love
Alice
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KathyLauren

Yay!  I am glad you went and found it less stressful than you feared.  Support groups are a great way to meet people and to get ... support. ;)
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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Linde

I went to my first group meeting as a guy.  Nobody cared, some others were also in guy mode.

After all, we are all the same, and the clothing does not determine if you are a woman or not!
02/22/2019 bi-lateral orchiectomy






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DawnOday

I dress and most everyone at the support group dresses for our meetings. We have had a couple new members a week for the last couple months. They didn't come dressed. But after they find out what it is like. Now it's not a fashion show by any stretch. I wear skinny jeans, blouse and boots most the time. For holidays, I have my dresses. And for Halloween my Steampunk.
Dawn Oday

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First indication I was different- 1956 kindergarten
First crossdress - Asked mother to dress me in sisters costumes  Age 7
First revelation - 1982 to my present wife
First time telling the truth in therapy June 15, 2016
Start HRT Aug 2016
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