I am in a different time zone to this site so started the day with the pleasant surprise of more replies.
You have all made me feel so welcome. Honestly today that is more important than the advice and stories.
I have been trying to find my place online, and had mixed success. I signed up here a while back and made a few comments, but got distracted elsewhere.
Anyway your comments have given me the courage to do what I want to do. I feel self-affirmed wearing women's clothes in public and so that is what I am going to do. Despite the occasional look, I feel most liberated that way, and that is what matters most.
I guess despite my opening comments I am an "all in" type of person. I find it hard to do something halfway and so simply going for it is what I am going to try. Too bad if other people look twice at me.
Well that is where I am right now. I will keep you informed.
(I suspect public toilets will be my next issue!)