Today I am going to the movies with my 17 year old son, just the two of us. He knows I am a trans woman, but I only told him (and my daughter) about 4 weeks ago.

He has been pretty accepting, and makes the effort to use my new name, and corrects himself when he forgets.

But I don't know what he is thinking, when I try to talk about things, the conversation just dies and I get little back.

It is all pretty new to him. He sees me around the house and going out looking quite feminine, but I can't decide how much or how quickly to treat him to the female Dee when it's just the two of us going out.

I know he hasn't told all his friends about the new family dynamic, and I wonder how it will feel for him if we bump into his friends while the two of us are out?

We use public transport a lot and it is not unusual to see people he knows when going out as a family.

An obvious answer is I could ask him. But then I don't want to feel like I am asking for his permission on how I present. At the same time, it is all a big change and I don't want to rush him.

Not really asking a question here, but just want to share the situation.

~Dee.

No solution, just 'a share!' My sons were grown, but living with us (mid 20's). My one son never had any hesitation with accepting. My older tried very hard to be accepting because he logically thought he should. It took him longer but he has been great. I drove him crazy asking him if he was alright at first. Finally he said "You asking me that is not normally how we act." I backed off and gave him room. I still wanted to ask though. lol My younger son later told me how he appreciated that I took things slowly with the visual I presented at first. It was one of my better decisions, giving them adjustment time.

I started a bit androgynous after coming out to my 27 year old son and rolled out the more girly looks slowly over several visits.

Even so I end up wearing jeans when he's around because we still do guy stuff together.

I've found millennials to  be pretty accepting, so don't worry.

Hugs, Carly

Thanks Monica & Carly.

I have decided to go androgynous/neutral today. So no makeup and comfy (but not in your face) women's clothing. Skinny jeans and a top anyone can wear. While my glasses and hair are as girly as I currently get (which is still pretty mild).

Going slow sounds wise.



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I bet time will make you son adjust to your new image. I have two sons and one little daughter. We love each other, and that's it.

My daughter, at age 14, is very interested in my fashion items, and we can share them, but she knows that they belong to me. Her skirt size is the same as  mine, and I hope I can give some of my miniskirts to her some day.

My eldest is thoughtful and I remember, he once  pronounced me as 'the person' instead of dad or he when ordering in a restaurant in Los Angeles, USA, 2 years ago.

My second son does not like my looking as a woman, but anyway he is completely dependent on me with respect to money. He is a college student, asking sending more money every month.

barbie~~

Quote from: barbie on November 25, 2018, 02:54:14 AM
I bet time will make you son adjust to your new image. I have two sons and one little daughter. We love each other, and that's it.

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I have all the time in the world to give him, so to speak. So yes, it will be fine.


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