I'm trying hard to train myself out of the man nod.  If it is someone I know I smile and give a little wave if appropriate or greet them.  If it is someone I do not know or don't know well I usually dip my head or give a downward nod.  I just think it is a demure, feminine gesture.

I've been doing the nod up all my life but I didn't think about it or think of it as gendered until someone mentioned it in the forum. To me it's practical and fast, you acknowledge the other person without having to engage in conversation. I think I combine smile with nod sometimes.

I never did any type of nod that I know of. I know I was teased because I would walk around with my head down at 11 or 12.
Maybe that's why I was never accepted into male circles. I didn't utilize the "nod" lol

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Quote from: Alaskan Danielle on November 22, 2018, 03:02:57 PM
As my "old" self I never gave nods,  up or down, I would almost always say hello, have a nice day, or something like that to passerby's that caught my eye or caught their eye.  I still do that as a full-time female but I have to monitor myself when I  am doing that with men... they usually take it as "whoa, that blonde must like me"
Danielle

I am like you, I cannot recall that I ever did any nodding.  Could it be a regional thing?  Up in te Nort Lant of Minnesonowta you would not see for about half the year if anybody is nodding, because everybody is bundled in so much that you hardly can see that the person has a face!
I know for sure that nobody in Germany or the Netherlands is nodding, cause that would show to much closeness to the other person.  After all, one has to keep ones distance and show no emotions!

Quote from: CarlyMcx on November 22, 2018, 08:29:05 PM
I'm trying hard to train myself out of the man nod.  If it is someone I know I smile and give a little wave if appropriate or greet them.  If it is someone I do not know or don't know well I usually dip my head or give a downward nod.  I just think it is a demure, feminine gesture.

I am trying to learn the smile.

Btw I am still figuring out my way around here and keeping track of replies etc. I had no idea this had generated such interest. Glad it stimulated some discussion. That's nice to see.

I'm still boy mode at work but now that I think about it I don't recall any man nods recently. They used to happen fairly regularly because the hall outside our office is super long and it's hard to time a proper greeting. I got a few "'sup?"s and a "How you doing?"s to which I usually reply "Hey," possibly with a smile? Is that the wrong thing to do? I didn't even consider it.   

Quote from: elle's bells on November 26, 2018, 12:28:44 AM
I'm still boy mode at work but now that I think about it I don't recall any man nods recently. They used to happen fairly regularly because the hall outside our office is super long and it's hard to time a proper greeting. I got a few "'sup?"s and a "How you doing?"s to which I usually reply "Hey," possibly with a smile? Is that the wrong thing to do? I didn't even consider it.

I think a smile can never be a wrong thing!
As I wrote already, I never recalled ever doing or seeing this male nod!  It really might be a cultural thing that was not common in Europe?  I did not learn it, and consequently I did not respond accordingly, and nobody nodded at me anymore?
I also have to say that I worked in a lab most of my life, and most of the labies were girls and not men.  This might have been the reason that i did not learn this nod?

Anyway, now I do not have to unlearn it, and can smile instead!

This man nod notion, it is real for sure.

This was a good mannerism and set of signals to bring up, it helps mtfs and ftms.

Chrissy

Quote from: elle's bells on November 26, 2018, 12:28:44 AM
I'm still boy mode at work but now that I think about it I don't recall any man nods recently. They used to happen fairly regularly because the hall outside our office is super long and it's hard to time a proper greeting. I got a few "'sup?"s and a "How you doing?"s to which I usually reply "Hey," possibly with a smile? Is that the wrong thing to do? I didn't even consider it.

You know and this is a complete compliment you look alot like Mariska Hargitay from the Law & Order SVU show

If you can't accept yourself,  how can you expect others to accept you?

I do the nod up when I see people I know. It just comes automatic. I guess I learned it as a kid. Nod up is practical, like last night I was at a trans café. A guy enters the room (father of one of the trans kids). Instead of yelling "Hello! I see you!" Across the room I just nod at him when our eyes meet I say the same thing silent.


Tony

I see less nodding and more of this expression:

https://pbs.twimg.com/profile_images/452961105522872320/eFX_I4Nt.jpeg

But it could be because I mostly pass guys daft enough to holiday here in November.

For those of us on the MtF side, the Man Nod effortlessly becomes the Lesbian Nod, AKA Dyke Nod, to be given with a knowing smile to other women.   

The tv show black-ish did an episode on the nod. They say it's just for black/african-american's but it's similar for everyone.

Now that I'm actually more self-aware of the nod since this form topic came I started smiling instead of nodding now

If you can't accept yourself,  how can you expect others to accept you?

Quote from: Arianna Valentine on November 30, 2018, 02:56:07 PM
Now that I'm actually more self-aware of the nod since this form topic came I started smiling instead of nodding now

If you can't accept yourself,  how can you expect others to accept you?

I still don't know how to identify this nod!

We certainly did not do hat in Germany or the Netherlands, the countries I grew up in.  We did not do that at work, because two thirds of my coworkers were female.  I just did never learn this nod, and would not know if somebody tries to communicate with me this way?

This is said by a free of nod former male!  Another thing I have do not have to un-learn!

Quote from: Dietlind on November 30, 2018, 03:55:36 PM
I still don't know how to identify this nod!

We certainly did not do hat in Germany or the Netherlands, the countries I grew up in.  We did not do that at work, because two thirds of my coworkers were female.  I just did never learn this nod, and would not know if somebody tries to communicate with me this way?

This is said by a free of nod former male!  Another thing I have do not have to un-learn!

Ok...here is some information to clear everything up!

https://medium.com/re-write/the-man-nod-fcb56882a9b4

Enjoy,
Lacy

Quote from: Dietlind on November 30, 2018, 03:55:36 PM
I still don't know how to identify this nod!

We certainly did not do hat in Germany or the Netherlands, the countries I grew up in.  We did not do that at work, because two thirds of my coworkers were female.  I just did never learn this nod, and would not know if somebody tries to communicate with me this way?

This is said by a free of nod former male!  Another thing I have do not have to un-learn!

This is the best video I can find on YouTube to explain the nod




If you can't accept yourself,  how can you expect others to accept you?

Quote from: RealLacy on November 30, 2018, 03:59:03 PM
Ok...here is some information to clear everything up!

https://medium.com/re-write/the-man-nod-fcb56882a9b4

Enjoy,
Lacy

Well, I must have been out sick when that man nod should have been taught to me!  I cannot recall that I ever heard of it or ever used it!

Quote from: Arianna Valentine on November 30, 2018, 04:42:55 PM
This is the best video I can find on YouTube to explain the nod




If you can't accept yourself,  how can you expect others to accept you?

Not known to me!  I don't need to un-learn it!