Good morning everyone! Well, morning for us in the states. My name is Skyler. I'm a 28 year old trans woman from the Windy City. I've just started my journey and figured I'd get on one more support group to assist me through this transition. I've known I've wanted to begin this transition for a long time, but like many other girls in this situation, I feared rejection from friends and family and suppressed my desires and gender identity for years. I'm now at a point in my life where I can no longer keep it in. It's been a hard last 5 years coming to terms with what needs to be done. I'm still in beginning stages. I've only told my best friend that I am transgender and plan to start transitioning as soon as possible. He has been completely supportive. Our relationship hasn't changed at all, except for him using the proper pronouns with me and referring to me as Skyler or Sky. It's so nice to be able to live as myself with at least one person.

My fiancé knows somewhat. I have told her, but she still seems to believe this is just a fascination with women's clothing. Not the case. She does support me but only as far as she is comfortable with. I don't think she is comfortable with me making a full transition and fear I will lose her through these changes. Hopefully couples therapy can help her see how much of a necessity it is for me to be able to live how I want to.

Then there's my family. I won't elaborate on them but we can leave it as they are homophonic conservative demeaning and hurtful people. I won't be telling them until physical changes can be seen. I know they will reject me and I can't add that on my plate now.

Well, that was a fun abbreviated version of my story lol. Hoping to find some more answers to some questions here as well as have a nice safe outlet. Thanks everyone!

@Sky1090 
Dear Skyler:
    Thank you for becoming a member of Susan's Place and coming to the Forums.
    I am most pleased that you had decided to join the Susan's Place site.

    Please allow me to officially welcome you here.
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    This is the right place for you to be to find out what others may have to say that may have been in your circumstances and with your questions and concerns.
    There are a lot of members here that will be able to identify with your situation as you continue to feel free to share it.

    I also want to warmly WELCOME you to Susan's Place. 
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Welcome aboard Skyler!!!... an amazing journey lies before you!!! Enjoy every step!!!

Onward we go brave little sister!!!

Ashley 🙋‍♀️💕🌸

Welcome here by a former fellow mid westerner!  I lived on the Wisconsin side of the Twin Cities for over 40 years, and moved to SW Florida last year because I was sick and tired having cold feet 6 months of the year!  My son used to live in Carol Stream, and my godson lived in Cicero.

I wish you all the luck I can wish you for the hard, and long, but very exciting journey to become yourself!

Hello Sky,  very nice to meet you and to read through your introduction.  I'm glad you've made this most important decision for your life.  There's nothing harder than not being able to express yourself.   It looks like you're slowly moving in that direction.
Your fiancé sounds very similar to what my wife feels now that I've come out.  Like yourself, I didn't reveal the entirety of my transition.  I wanted to in the beginning but I felt it was too much for her to accept all at once.  My wife is aware of my crossdressing and my taking HRT regimen.  She would prefer I did not take hormones but that was off the table.  She had her up and downs as to the acceptance level these past 3-4 mos.  You may experience this rollercoaster ride too.  I thought my wife was making progress in understanding my needs regarding transition as she started including me in some of her "girlie" activities which was new for us.  However, recently she made a comment which made me think she still thought I was cureable.  Transition is my cure.  That was a bad day but life goes on.
I wish you the best on your journey and I hope you and your fiancé work through this together successfully.

Thank you for sharing,
Susan R🌷

Thank you laddies! My fiancé has started opening up a little more lately. She deals with a severe depression similar to mine but for different reasons. She claims to love me unconditionally but like your wife, wants to control this. Saying it's okay as long as I don't want to be Skyler full time or get GCS. Problem is, I can't wait to have those things. The extra stuff between my legs is such a dysphoria trigger. I don't think she understands that but how could she. Thanks again everyone!

Hi Skyler 

Welcome to Susan's Place    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

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