Quote from: Sky1090 on December 04, 2018, 06:40:48 AM
What hotel was this at Jessica? I'm traveling to Madison in a couple of weeks. Just want to know what I could expect.

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I stayed at the Best Western West, near the West Towne Mall. My first visit was in May of this year. I stayed at the same hotel in October and didn't have any issues. On both trips my daughter and I went shopping and hiking, and we ate out often. We were out in public most of the time and I don't remember hearing any offensive comments or noticing any rude behaviors. Other than that cook, my visits there have been uneventful.

Madison is supposed to be very lgbtq friendly. I was surprised to hear about that cook. I've stayed at that best western before but that was a couple years ago. We're staying downtown this time at HotelRED


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Hi All,
I was out one time and a man ask me if I was wearing my wife's clothes.
I looked him dead in the aya and said why no dear I am not these are MY clothes I bought and paid for them my self. But she did help me pick them out.

AJ

I have noticed here in the states that down south there is still a lot of the old school religious up bringing and have had the misfortune of having had to endure through a couple not pleasant episodes.

I have noticed when out shopping that most are polite and respectful. I did run into one woman though who saw me and she just went off on a tirade. I was shopping for a couple tops and a pair of jeans. That was so far my scariest moment out in public. Most of the time sadly I get the long stares and snickering behind my back. Which can be fairly deflating after a while.

I did have a encounter out at the local grocery that was positive. A older gentleman bumped into my cart and apologized using the correct pronouns. I just smiled and nodded. My voice being the most problematic for giving me away.

I think most of the time though when we are out most people are not really paying any attention at all. Most people are just too rapped up in their own lives to even notice us or even care.

I think most of the younger generation are excepting and the older generations are the most un-excepting of us transgender people. As the older folks die off hopefully things will change with time.

Lisa

Hello Lisa

I agree with everything you say. It is just the same in the UK. The opposition comes from the some members of the two demographics you mention: those with extreme evangelical religious views usually the "born again type" and the older generation.

Times are changing; most people are indifferent and concentrate on their own lives and business; we are gaining more understanding and acceptance gradually.

Hugs

Pamela

I don't know whether I live in a bubble, or what is going on here.  I am definitely in one of the more conservative areas in the country, and an area with a rather old population (waiting room to heaven).  I am not a spring chicken anymore either, and have mostly older people in my environment.  But I have not once felt rejected, and receive almost all my support from those older individuals, some of whom are pretty religious.  All persons Ideal with on a daily base have a college education, some have an advanced degree.
I almost feel that acceptance has less to do with age, but more with education, and being open to the developments of the world in which we live, which in turn, seems to be more common in well educated people.

Yes Linde. I agree and I should have made that point myself. Education and being aware of the world (news/science) is certainly relevant and aids understanding the transgender subject.

Hugs

Pamela

Quote from: pamelatransuk on December 05, 2018, 07:16:37 AM
Yes Linde. I agree and I should have made that point myself. Education and being aware of the world (news/science) is certainly relevant and aids understanding the transgender subject.

Hugs

Pamela

Speaking about learning and education, PFLAG has a free online publication for "allies of transgender people."   It is informative and worthwhile to take a glance at, even for transgender people themselves.

Search for it on the Internet, it is a downloadble PDF.  They also have printed versions.

Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 05, 2018, 07:47:07 AM

Speaking about learning and education, PFLAG has a free online publication for "allies of transgender people."   It is informative and worthwhile to take a glance at, even for transgender people themselves.

Search for it on the Internet, it is a downloadble PDF.  They also have printed versions.

Chrissy

Thanks!  My cis lady support group almost inhales anything they can find to understand my situation better.  I am really blessed with my girl friends!

On a positive note of public interactions, I went out a few weeks ago as part of my "screw this not living my life!" mantra, and was sir'd! I haven't been properly gendered in a long time. This was also a person who's known us since before I transitioned, so it was so affirming to hear that!

Quote from: Dietlind on December 03, 2018, 11:58:12 PM
I live pretty much in the most republican and conservative area in Florida (Fort Myers), and have not had any problems.  Everybody is very supportive and freindly.  I was concerned about my neighbors family, who is from Cuba.  But all I got as an answer when I came out was " cool! how shall we call you now!"

I wouldn't think there would be a problem down there. You've gone far enough south it's north again. Mostly NJNY expatriates that way.