In your opinion is being Transgender a blessing or a curse?

Same as my vote on your FB: A blessing.

Quote from: MelissaAnn on December 29, 2018, 01:47:02 PM
In your opinion is being Transgender a blessing or a curse?

No, it isn't.     

It isn't either.  It is an interesting curve in life, that's all.  We negotiate it the best we can, and hopefully end up happy.  Other people have different curves to negotiate.  Hopefully, they end up happy, too.

I think that i agree with Kathy. I don´t see it as either. Rather, it is the lot in life that I have been given, and what I have to deal with. It´s certainly a fascinating ¨curve¨. Our very existence as sexual beings depends on there being female and male. But realizing the complexity of our make-up and the subtleties that shape us, it is fascinating to experience the breadth of feelings that we as transgender people do. On the positive (blessing) side, I think it does provide a wider perspective on people and enables me to grant more grace to people that don't conform our societal norms.


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Quote from: KathyLauren on December 29, 2018, 02:24:01 PM
No, it isn't.     

It isn't either.  It is an interesting curve in life, that's all.  We negotiate it the best we can, and hopefully end up happy.  Other people have different curves to negotiate.  Hopefully, they end up happy, too.

I agree with Kathy as well. It can be a blessing or a curse - we have a responsibility to do the best with it that we can.

  Kirsten.

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Better question:

Is transphobia why people see it as a curse?

Quote from: Janes Groove on December 29, 2018, 03:30:34 PM
Better question:

Is transphobia why people see it as a curse?

Love this.

we've had something like this before... still a curse for me. Although I've met some wonderful people because of it. Is it a curse because of transphobia?  Probably. If it were not for transphobia of my family I would've been raised female from the age of 2 and transitioned before I was 21. So yes, it is a curse because of transphobia.

Blessing.  I can routinely solve problems with out of the box solutions because the "box" has no meaning to me, except as a weird societal construct used by "normal" people.  Which has resulted a reasonable degree financial freedom for a short guy.

Jane has inspired me to change the question. Peanut butter or jelly? Never mind, that is a derail isn't it. I wouldn't change who I am, so I guess it would be a pleasant happenstance. Before I transitioned, it was rather extremely unpleasant, but I can't wish myself out of existence by wishing it gone.

@MelissaAnn   
Per your original posting... 
"In your opinion is being Transgender a blessing or a curse?"

I suppose it depends on the individual...  and to add to the comments and the comments and replies of other members on this thread:

For some, especially those that are running into difficulties with their physical aspects of transitioning ... and also difficulties with their interpersonal and relationship circumstances...
...they perhaps might consider being transgender as a Curse.

On the other-hand, for those that are finally living as they have felt destined to live, and their transitition and relationships are progressing positively, then of course it is a Blessing.   

Hugs,
Danielle

 I agree that it isn't necessarily good or bad, just something we have to deal with.  Everyone has issues in their life, being any flavor of trans is just one of ours.

Being transgender has made me a better, kinder person. So that's one upside.

Also, in my family being transgender is definitely a blessing because if I had been cis I would still be a member of their awful church and I'm really, really glad I'm not. 

https://mormondom.com/letter-to-a-mormon-man-8d251aa1f062 This article is super long, but it really made me realize what a bullet I dodged. I'm so glad I didn't end up like my sister.

A blessing. I was born this way for a reason. Running from it only made things worse. Accepting it and taking action has shown that I can be a far more complete and happy person. It offers perspective from both sides and I wouldn't have it any other way.

100% a blessing.

I guess I have to agree that, objectively speaking, it's neither a blessing nor a curse. It hasn't been easy, but there are more difficult struggles than ours; and I believe there is meaning and purpose in everything.

From my present perspective, however, I regard it as an unqualified blessing. For years I wished I had been born female, then I discovered I had been. The gift of being myself is the greatest gift of my life.

I'm not sure how to answer. My feelings about it fluctuate. Sometimes it really feels like a curse, sometimes I see some positive in it, but never so positive that I would call it a blessing.

Quote from: KathyLauren on December 29, 2018, 02:24:01 PM
No, it isn't.     

It isn't either.  It is an interesting curve in life, that's all.  We negotiate it the best we can, and hopefully end up happy.  Other people have different curves to negotiate.  Hopefully, they end up happy, too.

I was going to say both sometimes, but I think neither is the better answer. It's a treatable medical condition.

Quote from: Janes Groove on December 29, 2018, 03:30:34 PM
Better question:

Is transphobia why people see it as a curse?

The lack of knowledge about it and the phobia that accompanies it can make it seem like a curse at times.


I have it, I can't change that, and for better or worse, it's made me who I am.  I think I'm a better person for treating it.

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Not understanding who I was almost cost my life, and I came within seconds of taking my family with me. I honestly do not know what stopped me. No one should ever reach a point in their life where they would consider something like that.

I don't see this as a blessing -- would you wish to bless this upon any of your friends? It is also too cruel of a punishment for any of my enemies.

We were born with bodies which did not match our minds. We tried to do what society expected of us even though we were not given the same tools as everyone else. Although we will have the unique gift of seeing the world from two different sets of eyes, for many of us this comes at a tremendous cost. If you did not feel trapped in the wrong body, is there anything so priceless for which you would gamble all of your friends and loved ones to gain?

We had to struggle all of our lives to become who we were meant to be, while everyone else had this 'blessing' handed to them at birth. It isn't a blessing or a curse, it is simply who we are. We are unique. Our understanding of life is different from everyone else's. If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, maybe we are from Earth. I am finally happy, and I have found peace. It would have been nice not to have had to fight so hard to reach this point in my life.

I love the refrain from 'I Am Woman' by Helen Reddy. Feel free to update the title and lyrics to match your gender:

I tend to agree with many of the previous posts reflecting that it's neither.  I will say, looking back at my past that I would have answered this question differently depending on what point or stage of my life I was in.  I've come to realize that it was one of those cliched "cards I was dealt" and that I have to play...or not. 

Angela, I read this and it was quite an interesting perspective. Thank you for sharing it. Like many I don't know much about Mormonism.   

Quote from: Angela H on December 29, 2018, 09:58:35 PM

https://mormondom.com/letter-to-a-mormon-man-8d251aa1f062 This article is super long, but it really made me realize what a bullet I dodged. I'm so glad I didn't end up like my sister.