I'm not sure how typical or atypical my situation is but today I felt like I couldn't go any longer without expressing myself in some way. I'm 45. I came out as trans to my wife last August. In the months leading up to that moment, I realized that I had never felt masculine in any way and that, if I had any choice, androgynous or feminine was my overwhelming preference. Anything but masculine.

My wife was incredibly supportive and has been ever since. With her support and encouragement, I've been shifting my daily/work wardrobe to be more feminine. We've shared this with a few of our mutual friends who have been nothing but supportive. I'm even (eek!) planning to wear a dress to a wedding party for a lesbian couple we both deeply care about.

I haven't started HRT. I would like to. My wife worries about the future of our sex life were I to start. Perhaps this is enough said at this point.

Quote from: galdr on January 03, 2019, 10:00:46 PM
I'm not sure how typical or atypical my situation is but today I felt like I couldn't go any longer without expressing myself in some way. I'm 45. I came out as trans to my wife last August. In the months leading up to that moment, I realized that I had never felt masculine in any way and that, if I had any choice, androgynous or feminine was my overwhelming preference. Anything but masculine.

My wife was incredibly supportive and has been ever since. With her support and encouragement, I've been shifting my daily/work wardrobe to be more feminine. We've shared this with a few of our mutual friends who have been nothing but supportive. I'm even (eek!) planning to wear a dress to a wedding party for a lesbian couple we both deeply care about.

I haven't started HRT. I would like to. My wife worries about the future of our sex life were I to start. Perhaps this is enough said at this point.

@galdr
Dear Galdr:
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    As you post here on the forums you will be able to exchange thoughts and comments with others that are experiencing many of the same things.

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Hi Galdr 

Welcome to Susan's Place    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

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Quote from: galdr on January 03, 2019, 10:00:46 PM
I'm not sure how typical or atypical my situation is but today I felt like I couldn't go any longer without expressing myself in some way. I'm 45. I came out as trans to my wife last August. In the months leading up to that moment, I realized that I had never felt masculine in any way and that, if I had any choice, androgynous or feminine was my overwhelming preference. Anything but masculine.

My wife was incredibly supportive and has been ever since. With her support and encouragement, I've been shifting my daily/work wardrobe to be more feminine. We've shared this with a few of our mutual friends who have been nothing but supportive. I'm even (eek!) planning to wear a dress to a wedding party for a lesbian couple we both deeply care about.

I haven't started HRT. I would like to. My wife worries about the future of our sex life were I to start. Perhaps this is enough said at this point.

Welcome - I think your situation is quite similar to what many of us have gone through.  You are incredibly lucky to have a supportive spouse as this will be important as you take the next steps in becoming your true self. 

Hiya,

Susan's Place is a very supporting community.

Izzy

Welcome Galdr!

Yes, a common side effect of HRT is sexual disfunction. 
But, for some it is necessary to avoid dysphoria, which may be roughly characterized as testosterone poisoning.

Discussing your situation with a therapist may be helpful in deciding exactly what you wish to achieve by transitioning. Once you know what you want, then you may be able to find a solution with minimal adverse side effects.  Where do you want to be long term, years after completing the transition.  You are young enough that this is an important question.

There are some here, including myself, that have never needed HRT.
But, everyone's situation is different, so you really need to talk about what will work for you.

Marion