What happens when you've been rejected so much by just about every person you ever tried to hook up with that the term "happy sexual life" looses its meaning? I mean, I can count the amount of times I've been with someone that weren't all that bad. Couldn't possibly been good either because well, my miserable bits get in the way. Oh yes, brothers and sisters, my miserable bits which shall soon meet their doom.

I think I'm becoming quite a bitter person for never having love, affection, human touch, intimacy and on and on it goes. People are supposed to have that to function and uh...when you're deprived of those things I guess you start losing your empathy. And it's not lack of sexual desire, that I've got plenty, it really is being undersexed, you know, an incel.

Funny how much a transition is never easy, even if you happen to be able to pass perfectly all the time like me, you still will struggle with lack of a romantic life. I can only imagine how girls who don't pass feel, it's just not for the faint of heart.

I just need so much to have that someone, you know. Go out after work, be hugged and kissed. Make out a hell of a lot. Have that delicious and incredible yet peaceful intimacy with him...just lay on his chest talking in low tones. Without that life just seems so mechanic, it's work, pay bills and save money for my GRS surgery.

Well, I hope things will improve after Thailand. Sometimes life can loose it's appeal. 

Dany. Just keep the Faith.  One step in front of another. This is always a very difficult period for all of us who have made this very, unimaginably difficult journey.
Just remember this. You have a clearly defined goal. You obviously have a clearly defined plan. Just stay the course.  Don't do anything stupid and you will get there. I promise.

Quote from: Complete on January 23, 2019, 07:38:35 PM
Dany. Just keep the Faith.  One step in front of another. This is always a very difficult period for all of us who have made this very, unimaginably difficult journey.
Just remember this. You have a clearly defined goal. You obviously have a clearly defined plan. Just stay the course.  Don't do anything stupid and you will get there. I promise.

@Dany
Dear Dany:
This is good advice that @Complete shared with you.
Obviously easier said than done, but as you hit rough spots in the road, reset and press on toward your transition goals.
Try your best to stay positive and know that you are not alone encountering disappointments and discouragement....

If you have the time you might look over one of my threads that may help you deal with the difficult issues.
                "Positive Mindset... put away negativity"

Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle

Yeah. I've a feeling the need for it gets worse too as you progress, because you start to be cured and then you start feeling less inhibited. Less inhibited and more wishing for the life you should have.

Can't say how it's supposed to resolve other than you need to get out and meet people... a lot of people. Increase the chances of finding/getting to know someone who will fit the bill.

In my experience queer/bi men are the most comfortable with trans you may be trying to convince straight men and unfortunately very few cis gendered straight guys are going to be comfortable at this time with us. A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still. I just stopped trying to convince people and focus on finding people who don't need convincing and it's a lot less frustrating and more fulfilling. Maybe someday it won't be an issue at all for any us what our former sex was and we can date whoever we want. A girl can dream...


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Quote from: Nikkimn on January 24, 2019, 05:05:16 PM
In my experience queer/bi men are the most comfortable with trans you may be trying to convince straight men and unfortunately very few cis gendered straight guys are going to be comfortable at this time with us. A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still. I just stopped trying to convince people and focus on finding people who don't need convincing and it's a lot less frustrating and more fulfilling. Maybe someday it won't be an issue at all for any us what our former sex was and we can date whoever we want. A girl can dream...


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What @Complete and Danielle said.  You will find someone! 

It took me three years.  I found a guy that likes me for me.  He's only dated cis women and trans women.  Those guys are out there.  As others have said.  Keep moving forward.  Love is out there 🙂

@Nikkimm
Most gay guys are more accepting, but not for dating.  They want a guy, or a man.  My transgender men friends do date gay guys though.  Gay guys just want to be friends.  I guess I had one gay guy hit on me early in my transition.  That was years ago though.  If a gay guy tried to hit on me I would suspect he's just looking to experiment or try something.  That's just my friends and my experience. 

I'm with CindyLou on this one, keep moving forward. There is a man for every woman out there, cis and trans. Remember all your trans sisters have your back. (at least they should...LOL)

Sophia