I've finished Kaiser therapy after almost two years, seemingly non-binary, but I still feel a draw and/or longing for some aspects of the opposite sex such as wanting a more fem body. Yes, breasts would be awesome. So, I don't consider TS to be out of the picture for me. Anyway, to my post.

I feel like my feelings of dressing have changed. I had a couple of "sexy" costumes that I got rid of. I just felt they were silly. A person in their 50's being a cheerleader, etc. It was a huge turn-on for me previously, thinking I was that hot girl in the picture on the package. But now, it just feels silly. I guess a lot of my eroticism has died down. I'm also looking at some of my older slips, etc. Stuff women don't wear anymore. I'm asking myself if I should keep them. I still love my women's clothes so they're not going anywhere. I think I just want to be more updated. I think the slips, etc. also held an erotic component for me, and it just seems to have dissipated, so why have them.

Anyone also go through this change?

The women's world of fashion is huge, as women come in all shapes and sizes.  It sounds like you are ready to learn how to choose clothes that will complement your body as it is.

I think that change is natural.  Cross-dressing initially has a strong erotic content just because it's new and there is all that T in our systems.  As the newness wears off and T naturally declines with age, it becomes less erotic, and more everyday.  It goes from cross-dressing to just dressing.

By all means update your wardrobe to reflect who you are today.  I wouldn't throw out slips, though, unless they are just inappropriate.  They are hard to find, and you need one under any skirt that is not lined.

I dress up like a male sometimes.  I don't know if one can call that cross dressing, because I have neither a sexual nor an erotic reason for this.  I do this only if it is beneficial for me, because male persons get treated better than females like car repair shops, etc.)

I have never cross dressed, and have never had the urge to do so.  I went from male clothing straight to female.  I have no idea how it would feel to be a male in female clothing.

I'll wear an oversized men's T shirt over my ballet leotard because it's cute and comfy, and I'll wear men's jeans and shoes to weed whack the yard, but that's it for men's clothing.

I've never really fetish dressed but I bought a lot of junior sized surfwear bikinis and short shorts in the early part of my transition during my second adolescence.  Since then I've matured a bit and I dress a little more demurely— midi shorts instead of shorties and hipster bikinis instead of cheekies.

I see it as part of the maturation process.

Quote from: CarlyMcx on February 03, 2019, 05:57:51 PM
I'll wear an oversized men's T shirt over my ballet leotard because it's cute and comfy, and I'll wear men's jeans and shoes to weed whack the yard, but that's it for men's clothing.

I've never really fetish dressed but I bought a lot of junior sized surfwear bikinis and short shorts in the early part of my transition during my second adolescence. Since then I've matured a bit and I dress a little more demurely— midi shorts instead of shorties and hipster bikinis instead of cheekies.

I see it as part of the maturation process.

@CarlyMcx
Oh thank god I'm not the only one..LOL I got a fair number of short/small/tiny items of clothing for christmas presents and did wonder If I was kidding myself completely by wearing them...( but I do love wearing them atm)

Sonja.

I still have a few slips that I need for several of my lighter weight skirts and dresses and as Kathy says, they are sometimes difficult to find and can be pricy to buy.

Hello again Amandam

I have crossdressed for 40 years mainly in private and I do recall in the early days there was to some extent a sense of eroticism but the main reason for it was to wear and enjoy the appropriate clothes for my gender. Crossdressing simply becomes dressing.

However I also believe that there was a point where it became little more than habit rather than a hobby; I felt it was not enough. I needed something more. I knew I was transsexual but still buried and suppressed. Then after a long period of time in this position, I knew I had to take action and started therapy in 2017 followed by HRT.

I am publicly transitioning later this year. Consequently I am now rebuilding my wardrobe for the purpose of public transition.

I am guessing my history must be customary for many of us essentially three stages:

1. Crossdressing mainly in private with perhaps some eroticism plus bodyshaving.
2. Continue after eroticism subsides replacing clothes as we get older and as fashion changes - just dressing.
3. We realise we need something more! This results in many things to do including rebuilding our wardrobe.

Hugs

Pamela

When I was younger (through my 40s) my cross-dressing had a significant erotic component.  I was drawn to garter belts, stockings, heels, dresses, etc.  I did not consider transsexualism to be an option and I cross-dressed in private.  At about 50 I had the epiphany that I could actually present in public and everything changed.  Jeans, tops, flat shoes, briefs, etc, and the erotic component mostly disappeared.  It has become important to me to have a wardrobe I could actually live in, even though I'm still mostly closeted.  It was important for me to get a winter coat this year, for example, because I just didn't have anything for cold weather.  While not a high priority, I'd like to get a pair of waterproof boots for rainy weather. These changes are one of the things that make my ponder transitioning, because I sure seem to want to hit the bricks and function in the world as Randi, awkward though that is.

Quote from: Anne Blake on February 03, 2019, 07:18:27 PM
I still have a few slips that I need for several of my lighter weight skirts and dresses and as Kathy says, they are sometimes difficult to find and can be pricy to buy.

So true, right?  What is it with some ladies that wear "very see-through in the sun" dresses/skirts without a slip and think nothing of it??  I have a few casual dresses where a 1/2 slip is necessary, at least I think so. 

Quote from: BrianaJ on February 04, 2019, 08:33:45 AM
So true, right?  What is it with some ladies that wear "very see-through in the sun" dresses/skirts without a slip and think nothing of it??  I have a few casual dresses where a 1/2 slip is necessary, at least I think so.

I don't have that problem, because I am  pants kind of girl.  I would no know a single woman around here, who wears skirts or dresses!