Who is the person on this earth you are closest with?

For me, it's my Mother.

It used to be my husband (well, not legally). Well really, he was my wife. But more than that - he was the best friend I ever had and now that he's gone, Mother is the closest person in the world to me.
It's really a very unique relationship being that it is a Mother's relationship with her firstborn child and only son (I'm very much a mama's boy) and yet shares a lot of the elements and dynamic of a Mother/daughter relationship because of the obvious of course. We can talk about things a mother and son could never talk about. She accepts me totally though doesn't quite 'get' everything yet. And so we discuss transgender and GLBT issues often.

She always knew about me in her heart though my anatomy blinded her. When I was a teen, she would say 'You're like my son.'
She knows now and accepts me even though she is very religious.
She's great. She's the closest person in the world to me.

So - the closest person in the world to you?

For me it's my wife.

People talk about soul mates, best friends and the like and my response is usually yea, whatever. But in every
way she is my soul mate... a love story from day one and there is no way I could live without her.
She has had my back through thick and thin and if she said "stop your transition" I would do it.
I put her needs before mine and always will, but the funny thing is... she does the same for me and
somehow we make it work.

I know that most marriages do not make it through transition but I KNOW we will. But I
will do anything to make that happen. Even stop if I have too. But I don't think I'll have to,
she's always had a thing for other pretty girls so maybe someday I can be that girl

Amanda

Quote from: AlwaysAmanda on April 10, 2008, 04:43:40 PM
For me it's my wife.

People talk about soul mates, best friends and the like and my response is usually yea, whatever. But in every
way she is my soul mate... a love story from day one and there is no way I could live without her.
She has had my back through thick and thin and if she said "stop your transition" I would do it.
I put her needs before mine and always will, but the funny thing is... she does the same for me and
somehow we make it work.

I know that most marriages do not make it through transition but I KNOW we will. But I
will do anything to make that happen. Even stop if I have too. But I don't think I'll have to,
she's always had a thing for other pretty girls so maybe someday I can be that girl

Amanda

I couldn't have said it better. The person to whom I'm closest is my wife.

I'm an androgyne, and I'm not likely to "transition" all that much. But, my wife has told me that even if I did decided on MtF SRS, she'd stick with me. She didn't marry my body, she married me.

gotta say im very similar... only difference is that the actually getting married part hasnt happened yet. Just got to set the date now... earliest would be next summer.

Amanda... you put it so perfectly. If my fiancee asked me to stop my transition, i would. i never thought that someone could ever mean more to me than being myself when i started out, someone who i could happily change every last thing about myself for them.

As for the transition, i met her after i transitioned. Best thing was that i had to tell her about myself later after we met and she didnt realize But she knows and says that after my transition/srs is all done with that i'll be the person she went for - as that is what i am.

Soul mates? I dont believe in them as such. If she is my soul mate then i'm over the moon, if she isnt, i dont want my soul mate

On the other hand, in the opinion of my mother, she's *ahem* the closest person to me.

I honestly wish I could join in with those who have mentioned their spouses and say that the closest person to me is my girlfriend, but that wouldn't be an honest answer.

So, then who is the person I'm closest to? Well, I'm not always sure. At one time I would've said one person. At another time I'd say another person, and today I'd say it was my friend Angie. I guess she probably is the person I really am closest to as well. She's probably the only one who tells me as much as I tell her, and I feel like I can trust her even though we don't always agree. We have an amazing friendship. I just wish it had started earlier than last year.

I... don't know.

My first thought was to say my mom, but really, I don't know. I think she was for a time, and for a time we were enemies, and then friends again. She is my best friend at the moment, or rather, we both want her to be, but ... I don't know.

I think I had too much vodka tonight. Bedtime.

~Simone

my parents, then my siblings, then my bf, then everybody else.

Right now...

It's my friend through three years.

And my friend from Finland, whose company I sadly cannot enjoy until June.

I feel kinda detached from everyone else.


~Moi

Quote from: Moira Midnigh on April 10, 2008, 06:03:25 PM

I feel kinda detached from everyone else.


~Moi

I've been feeling that way a lot recently. I think it's because I've been spending so much time with my girlfriend so I don't really see anybody. I'm also feeling oddly close to people I barely know, and who know virtually nothing about me. It's strange.

That person used to be my grandma, but she is no longer here with us, so now I have a few people who are closest to me, Peter Pan, my mom and dad, and my kitties. (yes, my kitties are people!  )

tink

My sister, then probably my mate carl and then my parents.

My wife. But it's always been a tragically conflicted relationship. She loves me, but doesn't really *like* me.

And yet, for as close as we are, I one day found myself saying to her, "you realize that I do love you more than anyt..." and caught myself, and we both sadly looked at each other with tears in our eyes.

Apparently, there's one thing that means more to me than even my love for her

~Kate~

My partner. My children.

N~

The closest person to you?

well for me right now that is my brother.

The closest person to me was my girlfriend, but that is no longer as we broke up.  I am in a bit of a transition now to find that new super-close person.  My family is in California and I am in Pennsylvania, so while I am close to them, the distance prevents it from being closest.  I do not like being in the position where I have no one super close to me, but it is only for a bit longer.

tink & my mom

With everything in a state of flux, I am not sure who is the closest...

I guess it would be my girlfriend Cheryl.  She is the sort of friend everybody needs.  Open.  Listens.  Suggests when appropriate.  And slaps you on the backside of the head when needed.

I am hoping to develope a real mother-daughter relationship with my mom.  She has been incredibly accepting.

Romantically?  Well...  Lets just leave that one alone for now.

Chaunte

The closest person to me will be my mom and sisters. I know you asked for one person but close with these 3 people in different ways. I would almost do anything for these people.


Anna

Quote from: Nero on April 10, 2008, 04:18:13 PM
So - the closest person in the world to you?

i've never had a wife or husband. possibly i would have if it had seemed to me that they weren't mostly just interested in sex. for me, you have to get them interested by being sexy. if i'm not trying to be sexy, they just overlook me.

then we'd start to date, and talk about everything, and they'd treat me like i was a real person, and that my opinions mattered. but soon enough, the focus would shift almost exclusively to sex, and then i'd find that that was the whole point of the relationship. that my personality, my heart, my feelings, meant next to nothing. i was an object to give them pleasure, and, they showed me quite clearly, they wanted me for very little else.
 
-ell

I really have no idea who I could say for this.  I spent so much of my life trying to avoid close friendships, and the few that I have had have all started to drift steadily apart.

I wish I could say it's my girlfriend, but I just don't know.  We've been together for 6 years, but I'm terrified that our relationship isn't going to last...