Quote from: mickie on April 08, 2008, 08:16:07 PM
i do have one other question: do you think they will give me a fight if i want to change my name on all my paperwork if i haven't legally changed my name yet?

It's up to the company. Mine allowed me to change everything (email, company phone listing, etc.) before my name was legal. People had started calling me Kate anyway though, so it sorta just "evolved." But I never thought of it as a "fight," since they were doing me a FAVOR by letting me change it before it was legal. IMHO, they had every right to refuse me if they wanted to.

I couldn't change my paycheck or insurance of course though. Just non-legal/financial things.

~Kate~

Quote from: mickie on April 08, 2008, 08:16:07 PMi do have one other question: do you think they will give me a fight if i want to change my name on all my paperwork if i haven't legally changed my name yet?

I did the opposite!  I did my legal name change 3 months before FFS and full-time.  I carried 2 name badges.  The fake male badge on the outside for show and the real female badge in my pocket.

I think most employers will be hesitant to change your name unless it's part of a legal name change.  All you can do is ask.


I have to admit I find the original question rather baffling.  By definition anyone who was born transsexual will want HRT.

Quote from: Beyond on April 12, 2008, 09:47:03 PM
I have to admit I find the original question rather baffling.  By definition anyone who was born transsexual will want HRT.

Yeah the only reason you should not take HRT would be if your body couldn't stand it, which would be very unfortunate. As to changing your name before changing it legally... it certainly depends on the environment and how far HR is willing to go to accomodate you. Androgynous names like "Mickie" will have a better chance than female ones like "Candy" though. Even better if the name is similar to the one you've used.
Of course once you change your name legally then that's your name and they can stuff it.

QuoteI have to admit I find the original question rather baffling.  By definition anyone who was born transsexual will want HRT.

I have to admit HRT agree's with me

But I've always been very health conscious(<-- big fat understatement) and there are risks to HRT
especially as we get older. But I posted in another topic that after considering everything I won't
give up HRT regardless of the risk and I admit it was a stupid question(when I asked it) but I'm prone to do
that sometimes... thinking out loud too much I guess. So even though I did not ask the question
I considered it

Amanda

Quote from: AlwaysAmanda on April 14, 2008, 01:00:58 PM

QuoteI have to admit I find the original question rather baffling.  By definition anyone who was born transsexual will want HRT.

I have to admit HRT agree's with me

But I've always been very health conscious(<-- big fat understatement) and there are risks to HRT
especially as we get older. But I posted in another topic that after considering everything I won't
give up HRT regardless of the risk and I admit it was a stupid question(when I asked it) but I'm prone to do
that sometimes... thinking out loud too much I guess. So even though I did not ask the question
I considered it

Amanda

I would rather live 5 years on HRT than 50 years off-of it. Those 50 years would be a shadow existence anyway.

~Simone.

I don't know if this was directed towards ftm as well but I've transitioned w/o hormones so far...been almost two years. I suppose it's not as hard though.

Quote from: mickie on April 08, 2008, 08:16:07 PM
ladies, don't get me wrong, i do want to try hrt, tbh though i don't think it will change much, i'm quite sensitive emotionally as it is already. no, i wouldn't do implants because i would always know they were fake and not really mine. yeah, i know it will take time for everyone awhile to get use to using different pronouns, but the sad thing i feel is that the younger ones you know should be on board quite quickly but actually i have found it's the older ones and the ones i don't work with so often who are on board the fastest. my service manager has been quite sympathetic and looks at this as a learning experience, he's only a year older than me so i don't think it will be too hard for him and i respect him for that.

i do have one other question: do you think they will give me a fight if i want to change my name on all my paperwork if i haven't legally changed my name yet?

i would really like to know, i don't think they will cause i read on a nother post form somebody here that the irs doesn't care what you call yourself as long as the numbers match. they've been supportive so far, am i wrong to assume they won't do this for me to help me out? my wife thinks that they won't

Best Wishes,

You are quite right Mickie and it's good to see a realistic perspective on things...