Im a transsexual woman who hates lables yet i've just labeled myself!

My next door neighbour's 14yr old daughter asked me a question yesterday, and i honestly did not know
the answer. She asked me what the difference was between gender binary and gender fluid?
Told her that i tend to see people for who they are and not what they are anyway. Guess she assumed i would
know the difference based on my status, as her mum was none the wiser too. Maybe my ignorance as never
looked those 'labels' up, never needed to as again.. I'm more interested in people for who they are. x

Josie - I will both agree and disagree with you.  People should be seen as who they are.   Simple as that.  On that we agree.  Where I disagree is that labels are not in and of themselves bad.

Gender fluid is that sometimes you present yourself as one gender and other times as another gender.  More deeply you see yourself on a gender spectrum and have traits of each gender and sometimes one trait feels more dominant than the others.

Gender binary is when someone's gender orientation is consistent.  They always feel male or female and with respect to a gender spectrum they would place themselves on the far end of either side of the spectrum.

Back to labels.  We should not be defined solely by a label, we are all unique and different, but what a label does is give people a guideline to knowing what we are about before getting into the details.  Labels aren't bad just so long as they are not seen as the entire person.

Quote from: KimOct on March 24, 2019, 07:36:33 AM
Josie - I will both agree and disagree with you.  People should be seen as who they are.   Simple as that.  On that we agree.  Where I disagree is that labels are not in and of themselves bad.

Gender fluid is that sometimes you present yourself as one gender and other times as another gender.  More deeply you see yourself on a gender spectrum and have traits of each gender and sometimes one trait feels more dominant than the others.

Gender binary is when someone's gender orientation is consistent.  They always feel male or female and with respect to a gender spectrum they would place themselves on the far end of either side of the spectrum.

Back to labels.  We should not be defined solely by a label, we are all unique and different, but what a label does is give people a guideline to knowing what we are about before getting into the details.  Labels aren't bad just so long as they are not seen as the entire person.

Thankyou for your very insightful, interesting and helpful reply.
Nice to have more of an understanding, but still think that the're are too many labels especially when it
comes to children/teens who may still yet are trying to understand and establish their own identity.  x