Quote from: Kylo on March 22, 2019, 02:34:42 PM
I do not accept that everything that transpires in society is the fault and design of men. Women know how to get men to do as they wish, and a woman is the one doing so in this instance - to a person she continues to view as a man, expecting her vision to be kept manifest. This is of her own volition and choice, she is not the puppet of a man somewhere else making her believe so. If anything, from a biological and evolutionary perspective, men are what they are and do what they do because women have helped to shape them in this way. Men typically do not get access to reproduction without a woman's consent because women are the gate-keepers of sex. Even in the most patriarchal countries, like the Middle east, women still tend to retain the right to refuse to marry a particular man, and in more liberal countries they typically have complete control over all aspects of reproduction and pairing. Therefore it is women who decide what expressions of a man are acceptable for them to be considered good mates and therefore in society 'good men' - you only have to look at how importantly lack of women's attention, approval and contact affects the male psyche. Women bear responsibility also for what men are "supposed to be", in this capacity. And they bear responsibility for some of this "transphobia" in instances like this.
Women are not puppets or brainwashed creatures. They are quite capable of deciding what it is they wish their men to be (and can refuse those that do not measure up), and with capability... comes responsibility.
You know I read this and other sites and it can almost be assumed that men are the enemy and all women are awesome people. I have to wonder how many women would fall for this myth. Very few to be honest, women know the truth. Women can be much more brutal than men, much. How many sites can we go through before we see that somehow we have set women as angels and men as devils? Wake up!
I don't know about the OP's question, I never got past the trans issue to have a relationship much less a family. I don't know if I envy or pity those of you who have had a career or even worse family. I guess that I do envy those who could put aside the agony and start a career, and I spent ten years wishing that I could have children but to lose all of that? I feel so bad for someone who loses a child though, or career. More the child to be honest and I have a friend who has lost one of her children and the pain never goes away for her.
I have lost family, almost all of them. They see all before as a lie, they are right, it all was. What they don't see is the fear of being seen as who we are. I have heard so many times how brave I am, screw that, I am not brave at all this is all what I had to do. Had to. When they see it as a lie, you can't get past it I think, this is just family understand, I don't know about SO. I do know this, I have absolutely no interest in a woman, none. Not just talking about vagina, females do nothing for me. If a man that I was in love with told me that he wanted to transition, it would be over. I have struggled my entire life to be attracted to women, at some point you have to accept that it will never happen. Not about sex either, I have been with men and women, I will take men every day of the week and twice on Wednesday. Seriously, why are men always their best on Wednesday?
To expect someone to want something that they did not sign up for seems to me to be more than a little silly. We can hope. Funny thing is some of you will change your sexual preference, how does that equate I wonder?
