Would never purposely put trans events down and/or disrespect those that still go, but im now at the point
in my transition where these types of events simply no longer hold any interest for me personally. I work, shop
and can literally go anywhere as myself mostly due to self confidence, self control and determination to just fit in
and be my own individual self. That does not necessarily mean passing, convincing or im better than you whatever,
but the most important thing of all is..

Im now living rather than just merely existing in our world.

Quote from: Josie_L on March 29, 2019, 06:34:55 PM
Would never purposely put trans events down and/or disrespect those that still go, but im now at the point
in my transition where these types of events simply no longer hold any interest for me personally. I work, shop
and can literally go anywhere as myself mostly due to self confidence, self control and determination to just fit in
and be my own individual self. That does not necessarily mean passing, convincing or im better than you whatever,
but the most important thing of all is..

Im now living rather than just merely existing in our world.

@Josie_L
Very good thoughts that you shared.   
Please allow me to add self-assurance to your three points that you mentioned.   
And of course it is important to show your friendly, pleasant and happy personality along with a big smile... very disarming to anyone that wishes to stare and insult you.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts...
Best Wishes to you,
Danielle

Glad you are happy with your life, congrats! I don't have interests in the same presentations that I used to, but I still love going. It's just fun to hang out with a great group of people. It's as simple as that for me. I might say being there is more of a want (to be there) instead of a need to be there, like when I first started out.

The last thing I want to do is think about being trans.  I totally quit Facebook to get away from that and because of their business practices.  I'll probably have my account removed from here by end of year.  I never would choose to be transgender.  I transitioned to save my life and be myself.  It is fun seeing the new transitioners though.  I'm going to go to TDoV brunch on Sunday.

I'm so happy that you are where you want to be in your life!  💜🙂

Transition itself is not a permanent state but a transitory one. It would seem natural that you would want to go into the world as you and not necessarily be singled out as a trans person but essentially who you are...just another woman in the sea of women out there. I too strive for that return to normality and anonymity that goes with it. 

Much like Moni said, I go to these events to perpetuate the love and support that I received when I first came out and began my transition. I too live my life authentically every day in every way. Maybe it's just my way of mothering the next generation now that I'm an empty nester.

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Quote from: StacyRenee on March 29, 2019, 07:41:26 PM
Much like Moni said, I go to these events to perpetuate the love and support that I received when I first came out and began my transition. I too live my life authentically every day in every way. Maybe it's just my way of mothering the next generation now that I'm an empty nester.

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Everyone is unique and we all have our own rationals, all are valid.

I want to recognize this vibe above, because it resonates with me. I live my life authentically every day. I have not been to a TG gathering except for support meetings. I have not been to a support meeting in years, but would consider going to a TG conference someday, just to mingle. I came back on here years later, just to be sociable, I gain insights from others I would not otherwise have if I stayed in my own "bubble". Reach out, enjoy life....

Hugs

Cynthia -

Last year, a woman in charge of a local magazine here visited my office. She wanted to write a story about me. I replied that I do not want to be treated or seen as a special person whether it means a celebrity or a freak. I am just one of the 'normal' people. Of course, I belong to both men and women, or neither. But I am no way a freak. I just want to live as myself without any fanfare. Fortunately, people around me treat me as an ordinary person. To them, my work and performance (and of course money) matters, not my appearance.

I have about 1,000 Facebook friends. I got 2 or 3 Facebook friendship requests everyday, but I mostly decline to maintain interactions with Facebook friends. More than a thousand is too much to handle.

Today, a woman greeted me in the campus while I ran for exercise. I could not figure out who she was, but she said she is my Facebook friend. She is the wife of a professor here at my university, and he was also beside her, but he did not recognize me. Far more people than I expected get to know me through Facebook.

Nevertheless I enjoy the attention from people in the street. Yesterday while visiting in the downtown of Seoul:



barbie~~

I have never been at such an event (I don't like the LGBTQI Pride stuff, it is to shrill for my taste), and I don't know what I would do there.  I don't need anybody talking about their idea of transgender, I am different anyway.  I am a woman and live as a woman from the minute I am getting up until I go to bed (with all the work to keep my skin looking nice, but I did that already as a man).
I like to go to our local trans support group, because it is nice to be with people who went a similar path, and we can share experiences where to purchase what, etc.
I like this forum, because it is similar to a support group.  But I live my day to day life doing stuff with my cis female friends as one of them.  To be honest, most of the time I do not feel different than any cis woman, and they don't see me as trans either.  I am a woman like they are, and sometimes we talk about very female things, and I have to remind them that I do not have all the parts they have!

I have tried some of those events, I felt out of place. I have friends that get me and I get them, we have fun together. If I had not transitioned so isolated it might be different but now it just seems forced and awkward. Today I was trying on clothes, was going out to show my boyfriend and a teenage girl comes out of a door wearing just a bra and underwear working to get on a pair of shorts she could show her mom, she lost her balance and grabbed my shoulder to steady herself. We all laughed and her mom was much more helpful in choosing my clothes than my boyfriend was. I was comfortable around people that I understand and who understood me.

I think it is important to be with people that we can be ourselves around. The events are important because they allow people to not feel out of place, to be with people who understand them. Individuality is the perfect word, and probably important to remember that our journey is not universal, there are many paths.